What is proper protocol for leaving messages or sending emails to providers? I know enough not to be obviously explicit in my questions but how do you convey a specific question without being explicit? Is it safe to use the 'language' euphemism if you have a specific question? I seem to have bad luck or poor judgement in this area. I have had three cases where I attempted to see a provider for the first time and after about three emails or messages she just stopped responding. Many provider web pages use the 'language' euphemism but does that make it acceptable? My desires are fairly specific and it is important to know if a provider can accomodate them before we arrange a meeting. Thanks for any input.

are used. To them you are a total stranger and could be LE trying to set them up. It's that simple. No wonder you often get no return e-mail. I'm not even explicit with providers I know very well because phone calls and e-mails can be intercepted by third parties, in between donuts and double cheeseburgers.
You have to learn the juicy details from reviews or other hobbyists. Providers who use explicit abbreviations on their webpages are reckless or just plain Evian.
Their personal pages could be used as direct evidence against them with a little effort.
At least the reviews are double hearsay without foundation as they stand. Fiction in my case. I'm just a collie who can use a keyboard to tease you two-legged horndogs.

Many of the girls ads say that messages using vulgar or explicit language will not be returned. This is exactly what they're talking about. I don't try to discuss anything with a provider until we're both naked and I've performed a generous body cavity search (so as to ensure there are no listening devices).

The reviews seem to be the only hope. Questions like the ones I imagine you're asking are a sure way to scare a girl off.

In my case, it's always a 200 to 500 risk whether or not I'm going to get the service I'm looking for, and the reviews are never a %100 assurance. In your case it seems the odds against getting what you want are much higher. I think you're going to have to do a search of the reviews for your specific criteria and stick with that group. Drop the questions and just go see them.

You might try using your local message board as well. You can safely use the euphomisms there and you might get just the response you need.

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Not meaning to come off as sarcastic, but....that's exactly what the reviews are for.  Yeah, YMMV as it always does for everyone--but at least you should have an equally as good an idea as if something was specifically anwered phone/email....after all, YMMV then also.

This is yet another interesting topic.  

I would recommend the following (some thoughts may have already been articulated in previous posts, and others may be too obvious) ...

1.  Read the ad.  Most providers, throw an adequate number of hints to give you an inkling of what to expect.

2.  Do your homework.  Read the reviews of the provider on TER, and other boards.  I would focus on the most recent ones,(examine changes in service quality and attitude ,etc.),  However, I would take an average of all of the reviews to set up your expectations.  If the provider is NEW, you are taking a gamble...

3.  If you have a friend, who is a hobbyist, ask him for a recommendation.

4.  Never, discuss financial arrangements, and more importantly what to expect by phone, or e-mails.  The ads should provide this information, or the provider will inform you of her rate during the conversation - mind you she will not, noe should you discuss what the intimacy of the session.


5.  YMMV  - This is a general statement. I have stuggled excepting this statement. IMHO, I think the entire purpose of having review boards is to help alleviate this issue.  

There should be a certain amount of consistency in what a hobbyist should expect for the $$$ he is generously donating.   Granted, there maybe a little more inter-action to provide a perception of a GFE based on personal chemistry, etc ... but there has to be a clear understand of what the standard package is. A few special favors maybe reserved for regulars, or the intesity of the moment.  

For instance, how bizarre would this be -- you go to a restaurant, order food, and have them inform you that YMMV.

I am confident, a provider would not want a YMMV principle applied to their fees!  Or, would they?

Reading a ladies reviews to see if she offers what you are seeking... many ladies will not respond to explicit (however *coded*) requests. There are MANY ways to get that information without having doors slammed in your face

Hugs*
Nicole