Oh My...just spent a weekend with a new "non hobby"lady friend visiting for biz, that was really into edging and we had the most amazing/no sleep/intense sexual experience that ive had in while...i get the concept and which guy doesnt want it too last all night...but to be with someone who's into it and understands when she needs to back off and then knows when shes close and WANTS me to STOP!..WOW!! are there providers out there-that features or focuses on this option???...its rare when a date doesnt want me to finish...

to hear from the edgers...  
sounds like you greatly enjoyed yourself.  

Masochist?  Last all night?  Really?!!!  I just want to last long enough not to embarrass myself and then sleep all night. If I wake up horny I'll see a different girl tomorrow.

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Older guys are good for one shot so it makes sense to make it count. OTH young guys have plenty of energy to spare so why limit themselves because for them more is better than less

If I have to pay good money for it no way in hell I'm not going to get the most BANG (or CUM?) for my buck.

OTH even if it's a freebie I can't imagine myself going to sleep with blue ball. Just get it over already so I can roll over and sleep like a baby

I've actually perfected my skills at this particular niche

Regardless, it's about learning to control the destination and enjoying the journey, with no goal in mind. Too many men are used to the race to the finish, which not only can decrease the orgasmic sensations but also can leave you feeling less satisfied.  

When you really take your time, get out of your head and into your body and enjoy the sensations for what they are, that's the ultimate in pleasure, IMO.  

Totally on the same wavelength as you, just not with the no sleep part. Orgasm or not, I am grouchy when sleepy! lol I love T&D and have the soul of a Tantrika, so what you described is right up my alley. Pun not intended, of course.

... it has been temporarily bumped out of my ad by all of my gimp-related disclaimers!

I personally love the tactile experience of slowly stimulating my playpartner into a state of exquisite arousal.  However, in my experience, most gents who request this kind of playdate enjoy it more in theory than in practice.  About 30 minutes in they usually decide to go for two...or three...and who am I to say no?  

You know how " pegging " is new skool slang for " strap on "  ?  Well .. " edging  " is new slang for " tease and denial " .  I thought T & D sounded fine.  I do not embrace " edging " as a new word because it sounds too much like " edge play " which is taboo subversive sex like fucking someone with  a loaded gun is " edge play " ... I wish people said "tease and denial "  still instead of  " edging " ..

Enough "teasing" and "edging", relax and let the experience happen slow; and when you do come, your brain melts. As you return to your senses, you realize she's busy cleaning the ceiling.

All we need is just a little patience.

Sigh! I love to be edged.  
It is different from tease and denial.  

I know a few ladies,  including Lexi,  who are exceptional at it. They are exceptional because they really enjoy playing that way.

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All the tantrikas I have seen employ this method to one extent or another

I'm with you, i hate shorter sessions. IF you've oly got one shot, make it count. Let's play and have fun, not just cum quick.

Alot like GFE, PSE, and some of the other terms out there, the original or actual meaning of it can be very far away from how it is being used by someone who doesn't understand the difference. (I still don't know what a PSE is and how that is different from GFE and how they both are different from the standard FS model from days of yore because I get different explanations all the time for each)

So what I do know about is this and this might help clear up some misconceptions.

Yes, pegging is the new slang for strap on for most folks. She is correct.

But edging is not actually tease and denial. Where tease and denial employs more art, playfulness and sensual/erotic engagement of ALL the senses. Edging is limited to the physical mechanics/method of keeping someone's arousal in a state of near climax without release. Its like the difference between exotic dancing and strip tease burlesque.  

And while some form of denial as self control is employed in tantra, without the actual education of what you are doing, why you are doing it and the other teachings that make up the other spokes on the wheel of this practice that make this ... well, tantra... what you will end up with instead is an empty and confusing investment of time and money because you'll be like... that's it? THAT was IT? Where's the nifty prize at the bottom of this box that I thought you were supposed to get?

Tantra without understanding the actual practice and putting the layers of it on from solo practice to partner practice is like taking all the things that make really exquisite liquor what it is, and only keeping the very utilitarian components to make it. You end up with the equivalent of "prison hooch" being passed off as 100 year old Scotch. Tantra isn't for everyone. It is more suited to people who are thinkers and/or enjoy the subtleties of things rather than the overt, the graphic or the pedestrian which is probably why it isn't more popular. It's not an action film. Its more like an art film. LOL

And with "edging" there is a possible complication of over-stimulating someone to the point of no return rendering them "frozen" in this state for hours afterwards. It is entertaining but like going through each page of the kama sutra, if the only thing you are getting out of it is novelty value, you will find yourself disenchanted with it and enjoying it less, soon enough and looking for the next new thrill.

Hope this helps

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"Pegging" is actually a word used to specifically refer to a woman using a Strap-on on a man. "Strap-on" play can be woman to woman as well.

I just read through and I think edging is a bit of a different concept from T & D.  In T & D there is an element of negative reinforcement, i.e. taking away a pleasure or sensate.  Edging is more akin to playing a stringed instrument where the player always keeps tension on the string and drives the vibrato.  In edging the stimulation is applied slowly and delicately but it continues to build and is not removed or backed off.  The trick is not to give too much too fast and maintain the sexual tension.  Men who are sensitive to the slightest touch and who can relax into the sensations will find out how truly smooth, wet, and tense a woman's mouth can be.  The idea is to expend the same energy but enjoy it over a longer period of time - us men are pigs!

We stand corrected. Thanks for the clarification!  

It never crossed my mind about men using strap-on's with women but, of course, they can and do. I won't confuse those terms again now.

 

 

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Find the erogenous zones all over her body, not just the obvious ones...and EDGE away on her.  

Edging is my Specialty! I Love it!

...OH MY!!...how can we meet??...wanna share this experience with someone who REALLY understands it...only able to last 6-7 hrs before i explode...are you able to help?....btw/broke rubber last edging session......where are you...im able to travel worldwide...

...also...if we hang....YOU FIRST!!!   ....yum