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don't know if it is fair for me to reviewconfused_smile
MrMcCabe 1263 reads
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I'm pretty new, but still think this goes on the main board.  I've had about 10 providers in LA.  Great women, great looking, work hard.  It turns out, I'm the ultimate "chemistry" guy with no correlation whatever to other people's tastes, the providers' visual beauty, whatever.  I'm moody.  A really good looking girl, trying like hell, might do very little for me.  A fairly plain girl, with the right spark, I'm doing her every which way.

Is it fair to the providers for me to review them under these circumstances?  Yesterday, I had a beautiful super-pro, who I clicked with conversationally, gets 9s and 10s across the board, ready to do whatever I wanted, and I wasn't that into it -- had to think about a high school cheerleader or this chick at work.  two weeks ago, had a young hottie who was kind of mopey and drippy, but within 2 seconds of meeting her, wanted to rip her clothes off.  A few days later, another provider shows up, beautiful, exotic (looking) space cadet -- we clicked, I'd marry her if I was younger and stupider.

The more I do this, the more I run hot and cold for no known reason.  I'm ready to give a 6 for performance for somebody who'd do anything to please me, and whom I know other hobbiests would like, simply because it was impossible for her to please me.  And most of all, I'm ready to continue the hobby!

Guys, gals, you want to hear these reviews?

om4swgas202 reads

that reflects YOUR strange turn on and turn offs.
Or whatever mood swing your having that day.

Just my .02 , just sayin' !!!

MrMcCabe139 reads

see, now you seem really cool, but I'm not feeling any chemistry, so you get a 4.  if youre lucky.  just sayin'

-- Modified on 12/29/2010 8:07:35 PM

Of course it is fair to review them. Just be as objective in your review as you were in this post. You are reviewing her performance, not your own perfomance. So she wasn't a 10 for you. But it sounds as though she went the extra mile for you, so an 8 or 9 would be appropriate for HER score. In the body of the review, be honest about her attitude and performance, and honest about how much of your response to her had to do with you as opposed to her.

the picture when selecting the rating. It's about her. Now if she has great techniques, but is very mechanical, I consider THAT to be a legitimate reason to decrease the score. Not because you didn't hit it off.

There's nothing wrong with describing something and acknowledging it just didn't click with the two of you.  Pretty much like you just did here.  I think what you described here comes across that way:  she was pretty, willing, friendly, but the chemistry wasn't there.

Another option is to start with the ones that went well--they're easier to write most the time anyway.

Be honest, be objective, be polite, and everything should be fine.

It is almost ALWAYS a reflection of the interaction of 2 people instead of an accurate description of one, and chemistry always plays a part in the perception of both the subject and the reviewer. There is, unfortunately, no other way to get relevant info out. Does chemistry, or a lack thereof, justify low numbers? I don't know - that's why I ignore the numbers. Write a fair, honest review - hopefully, we know enough to distinguish between a lack of chemistry and poor service.

sauberschwantz145 reads

have a testosterone check up ,you sound like an old woman going through menopause

scoring her performance should be based on her professionalism, and what she was willing to offer, whether or not you were in the mood to receive it.

Oh, I don't know how old you are, but it might be helpful to you to look into the symptoms of manopause.

shudaknownbetter106 reads

You have given a very clear description of your side of the equation and it does take 2 to tango.  You certainly can review but you must review her half fairly, not your mood & chemistry which you admit is "you".  If you can be fair, you can review.  
I find looking at the written description of the score...  to be very helpful.  Did she "go the extra mile"?   Give credit where it is due.
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This has happened to me a lot of times. I always review the provider based on her efforts, not solely on my connection with her.

It is easy to score her favorably if she performs well, even if you do not click. That explanation can be saved for the narrative and the infamous YMMV.

I saw a very highly reviewed provider who was sexy as hell and did everything to make our session perfect...but I was just not into her. She got a nine from me because she truly made me forget it was not a service. I felt like I was on a true date....with a beautiful girl that I would not see again!

...simply because your experience was different than what you expect others would be. Unfair to your audience and to the girls you do click with. If you were in a crappy mood, then, sure, you should skip reviewing her. For that matter, you'd be better off not seeing anyone in that condition. However, if it was only a matter of your eccentric tastes and quirky chemistry coming into play, I want to read about what happened, not how you imagine it might have gone for other people. Readers will assess her based on a cumulative impression from a variety of viewpoints, so there's no need to hold back because yours doesn't match the consensus.

-- Modified on 12/30/2010 11:26:24 AM

...to know your own likes & dislikes, then please write the reviews and included a brief summary of those likes/dislikes and how she matched up to them. I'm not a big fan of many red wines from South America, as they have (to my tastes) too many green, stemmy and herbaceous flavors that don't match well with my taste preferences. When people ask me to taste their South American reds, I generally explain these personal biases up front and then (after tasting the wine), let them know how it interacted with me.

Now I can't *stand* oysters, so don't get me started on them! Not that there's anything wrong with that -- ;)

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