Is when a lady does not ask for money up front. Seems like telling that is setting her up for a rip-off.

On one occassion, when we had both hit it off very well, I was back on the road when I realized that the donation had been totally forgotten. I went back and gave it to her and she still hadn't realized it. Found that embarrassing but also flattering.

I frerquently see reviews that mention that $ was never discussed, and wonder if that has caused any problems later.

with the donation being taken at the end of the session, whatsoever. Dont'get me wrong. It doesn't mean to say, that nothing will ever happen out of it, but I am just more comfortable with it at the end of our appt. versus the beginning.

There was a gentleman who had reviewed me mentioning that I never not once asked for the donation, and he loved it


Mel

You have a way to make the entire encounter very special. ;^)

well, babycakes .

You make sure to cum right on back, and I will make it even more entertaining

Love, Hugs, and Kisses,

Mel

i think cash-up-front is a legitimate necessity for most providers but perhaps only on the first visit. any talk or mention of money (counting it, etc.) is unseemly and somewhat of a turn-off. i would even say "unromantic" but i don't want to make you all gag laughing!

i think we all have "war stories" when it comes to the almightly dollar. i was reading a review by one guy (an ex-navy seal) who after having encountered a total RIPOFF artist, played along with her games ("$300 is just for me showing up! for another $200 i'll let you touch my boobs") and even went along to hand her a fistful of his hard-earned cash, only to pull it away at the last minute (as if to say: "i don't think so, honey")  YES!!! god i wish i had balls like that

by comparison my puny cash stories are more along the lines of "sorry, i ran out, i'll have to go with you around the corner to the ATM"  or best yet: an ATF who like me, so disliked even the touch/smell/feel of money that we switched to personal checks. made out to CASH, of course!  

1) never discussed or
2) discrete & immediate placement on arrival or
3) discrete placement on departure or
4) left it in the morning while she was sleeping (the best)

It just seems to me, and this is on first dates mind you, that when enough time and energy has been invested in a pre-meeting courtship and a measure of trust naturally surfaces donation becomes a secondary concern, if a concern at all.
 
Such behavior typically surfaces, at least with me, when a provider comes to realize that I think of them as a person rather than a warm spot for my gratification only.  Hell, I've become friends with several providers, some closer than others of course, but still friends.  Come on over for dinner or hey, you riding this weekend and want a passenger type phone calls are fairly commonplace for this hobbyist, as are upsetting calls about the jerk who has crossed the path of one of my friends. And it's way cool folks, way cool!  I even drive for one of my favs when her regular driver has other committments.

I guess what I'm trying to say here is this....do your research and choose wisely, then treat your provider the same way you would a good neigbor, and do so because you genuinely feel that way.  And yes, I am single so I can get away with late night calls and non-hobby invites for plain ol' stuff.  I wish it were this good for everyone.

Shit...weren't we supposed to be talking about donation timing and leaving them out of review?  Yes it is better to leave it out so as to put our sweet ladies at risk of being ripped off or put in an otherwise uncomfortable situation.

Didn't mean to bore ya with the "other" good side of the hobby but it kinda relates. Be safe out there and enjoy one another.

-- Modified on 5/13/2003 9:57:22 PM

Turning the tables. In my mind,wheather I have ever been ripped off or not, if someone walked in and I never looked or knew if there was anything in the envelope, it might be in the back of my mind and could affect the intensity of the session. I just wouldn"t want to have to think about it.

I assume you are talking about a repeat client whom you know and trust, or a new client with good references. I can rather imagine you could be a target for a shortsighted few who might pull a "no cash & dash" after the session! (not realizing, of course, that they just probably trashed any future hobbying if they tried to pull a scam like that)

better to be shorted with a cash or dash or to end up with LE and taken to jail. PLEASE..PLEASE..PLEASE ...don't get me wrong: I am not saying this is how it should be with all girls! Girls need to feel comfortable with how they conduct their businesses. I will say, that I have never been shorted out of the 4 years, that I have been in the business (way before TER). To me, it ruins the moment with having the donation upfront, talked about. If a gentleman wants to leave it on the dresser or t.v., then go for it If not, TRUSSST ME, I will find ya butt,  on the way out of the door lol I just feel most comfortable, with it not being talked about upfront, that is all

Mel

-- Modified on 5/14/2003 8:42:19 PM

I see ladies outcall 90% of the time, so putting the envelope on the counter in the bathroom (behind the flowers) makes sense. Since the bathroom is usually the first stop for a lady after she arrives, she can discreetly check the money if she so chooses, and it never has to be discussed.