I'm curious to hear the thoughts of the boards on what to do when a hobbyist has an off day and an appointment isn't the best. The type of circumstance I am talking about is where it is due strictly to the guy. Perhaps he is just tired, nervous for some reason, or whatever. The appointment is okay (even multiple rounds), and he could see that the lady had a lot of potential, but things just don't line up.

To clarify, I'm not thinking of the chemistry issue, because on a real off day, the issue would happen with anyone he saw. Also not talking about anything at all negative done by the lady. So, no ill will, no drama, etc. Just a bum day.

So, guys:
Do you write the review anyway, knowing it would come across as underwhelming, through no fault of hers? Do you just skip writing, since there is no danger or negatives to warn other guys about? Do the chances of seeing her (due to her being a visitor vs. a local) impact your decision?

Ladies:
What would you wish the guy to do in those circumstances? Does it even make a difference, if the potential review wouldn't call her out at fault for anything, but just wouldn't be a gushing list of acronyms accomplished and feats performed?

I know I have had a bad hobby day here and there. I assume other guys have too. Ladies as well, but they aren't in the position of deciding to review or not. I have a few sessions I haven't written up because of this reason. (A few for others). Anyway, I wondered what folks thought about the issue.

Ren'man

I would not mind if the gent reviewed me as long as he mentioned that the "missing link", so to speak, was on his behalf and that I had done all that was expected of me as a professional.

Now if he chose not to review me, that would work also.

Bottom line, for the review system to work (IMHO), honesty and some form of objectivity has to come into play.

I've had those days, I posted reviews each time.  I could see the potential in the service but my lack of performance or state of mind made the date less than perfect so I said so in the reviews.  I'm not under an alias so you can read them if you'd like...take note of the most recent.  I saw the potential but we didn't click, it wasn't a bad she just wasn't my type...so that's what I said in the review.

submit a review.

In one case the lady was new-ish and needed a review. I discussed it with her and she asked me to submit it anyway. So I wrote a very frank review,  credited the lady with the excellent effort she put out, along with her delightful personality and appearance. Gave her the best review I could - but not quite up to the par she later established.

She white listed me.

Recently I saw someone who had one really excellent review and my experience was pretty poor. I thought it *might* have been "me" but was not sure. So I held off reviewing.

Then several reviews popped up which reflected the same experience I had, and, on reflection, I realized that my session did not go well due to the lady's disinterest, so I submitted a review.

TER is a very very small part of hobby world. Providers stay busy with poor reviews all the time. So I do not feel "guilty" about submitting a poor review. I feel that I owe the information to my fellow reviewers. But I will hold off on a review if I am not at my best and this would result in a less than deserved review in my judgment.

Awesome!

If she was an excellent partner by all standard measures, say so in the review and give her decent marks.

Heck, I had a real bad experience quite some time ago, where a lot of crap happen before the session. I probably should have canceled but that would not have been fair either at lat minute.

I did the review, gave her excellent marks, and saw her again a couple weeks later. And yes, I explained that I had a shitty day personally, which caused me to NOT EVEN GET A POP ($400 no pop lol).

Shit happens.

As a matter of fact, it's one of the reasons I am taking a couple of hours off this afternoon to get laid.

I don't expect mind blowing sex everytime I see a provdider, and I certainly don't expect to be at my best today. More importantly, I don't care whether I am at my best.

I am looking for a simple hour or so of stress relief, and that is what I am paying for. The lady I will be seeing isn't looking for mind blowing sex either, she is working for a living. She will be happy with my donation, and I will walk out a lot happier man than when I walked in. What could possibly be wrong with that scenario???

On that happy note, I am off to get laid. When the ladies start paying me, that's when they get to decide whether I am going to be a sexual dynamo or if I am going to be looking to get pampered

I can honestly say, I have never had an off day in the hobby. In a 100 plus reviews, I have given for performance, two 2's (one was a BS half hearted massage..I still came and the other was a lady who just rushed the process...I came) one 3 (a surreal massage, but I came) and one four (A mechanical non GFE fuck, but I came) I know, I know, cumming does not always mean the session was great, but cumming would surely eliminate the notion of an off day by the hobbyist!

Now, I may have been disappointed by the ladies appearance (based on my expectations from her reviews and website), or the conversation at times may have not have flowed freely and easily (she may be have been unusually quiet), or I may have been disappointed about her apartment/hotel room (uncomfortable and messy) but I have NEVER felt like the session was bad strictly due to me being "nervous or tired". First, excluding your first one or two times ever seeing a provider, what are you nervous about?? If you undestand the process and are seeing a well established lady, what is there to be nervous about?. You are going to get laid. Second, if your that tired, what are you doing seeing a provider? Go home and take a nap.

The bottom line as a hobbyist, is that you can NOT AFFORD (okay some of you wealthy gentleman can) to have an off day. You should enter all sessions with tremendous excitement and energy...hey, you're about to get laid!!!!! If you are entering with trepidation or feel tired, sore or uninspired, what the heck are you doing? It's a wonderful but expensive hobby...as such, you have to bring your A game every time.

My previous ATF said she saw a guy who never got hard .. he was drunk. And he just couldn't get it up.

I know it's kinda stupid, but some guys schedule days or a week in advance. And when that day comes, they're not at optimal level.

I tend to schedule closer to the session.

Why waste money? What do I look like -- a charity?

Damn straight, I don't hobby on an off day.

In an ideal world, every time I went out to play, I would be filled with energy, brimming with cum and just getting going from a pampered and full night's sleep. Everything would line up so that I was at peak performance just when my ideal provider was ready and willing to see me. My personal life would drop into place right around my hobby schedule.

In the real world, I sometimes need to schedule playtime weeks out. To see particular ladies in other cities, it has even been months. I have no idea what my sleep, stress or sexual energy level will be on that particular day. But as long as I am not actually sick and potentially contagious to the lady in question, I think it would be rude of me to cancel. So in the real world, sometimes some of us do hobby when we aren't at our best. I'm not saying it isn't fun, just that it wasn't up to personal par.

I'm not trying to be argumentative, just giving the other perspective.

Ren'man

What the hell is a "providider"? LMAO

After all the drunk shit that you have posted over the years, do you really want to take me to task over a TYPO???

and your handle itself is a misnomer. I should be GaGamblers_"drunker"brother, as I come from a long line of alcoholics, every one in my family is drunk, including the one that claims to be my "sober brother". Have you read any of his posts? He's drunker than any of the rest of us.

I have a stressful business, I'm in sales and on straight commission. I've learned not to book appointments way in advance. I'll contact a lady before a business trip, give her a few days that will work for me, call 24 hrs in advance, things usually work out well for me. When I'm home, I try and do the same thing, 24 hr advance notice. I live in the real world, just figured out a way to hobby in the real world, that works for me.

I recently had an off day. she was great and I plan on seeing her again. maybe that day she was an 8 next time a 9 or 10 I will review her after my next appointment If I felt that the provider was just plain poor I would leave a review. Sometimes a stressfull busy day can lead to a great time as you unwind and sometimes you can't relax. For us busy people it is sometimes a crapshoot.

I never review if it would come across as a whine.

I write the review, and would hope others would too. The reviews should always be written such that a reader can easily see what the provider and client each brought to the session.

On the rare occasion that I'm just a bit subpar and will honor the appointment (major malfunctions mean that the play time gets re=scheduled for later), I adjust the review.

Since the review is about HER and not about ME, I adjust to take into account the fact that I might not be in full appreciation of her abilities. If she's a 6, I might give her a 7 -- but this is with a "cooling off" period of a day or two for honest reflection and further evaluation.

Re: 'Drunker'? or 'more drunk'? ...eom...

off days happen, unfortunately for us and them, deal with it, read the reviews to see if it is a habit and write a decent review anyway..no one can be 100% all the time.

As long as the off day isn't a drunk day or too many it's hard to keep the erection or you're almost there several times and never quite get there. I'd rather a guy especially if it's no fault of mine/the provider he should either try again with her or if he can't give a good one for her since how things went weren't her fault he should do it when his head is clear. But again if you or the guy is sure it wasn't as great as it could've been and not because of her then it shouldn't stop you from trying one more time to see her.