50. That's why I pay for VIP. LOL

On her show. Dr. Laura was in insufferable effing hypocritical moralist. And she didn't just bash men -- she bashed practically everyone who didn't adhere to her interpretation of very strict Orthodox Jewish values which also pretty much match strict Catholic values in many respects.

Nevertheless, her book naturally being oriented toward married people -- and targeted to wives in particular -- she does a very good job of showing women the zillion things they do wrong in dealing with their husbands but their husbands will never tell them.

Let's be honest. Though there are some good women out there, your typical wife is entitled as hell, walks around constantly feeling righteously aggrieved over both real slights and not-so-real failings of her husband, gives him zilch information that he can use to meet her needs in any form that he can understand, takes her husband for granted and quickly turns sex into a twice-a-year thing that is yielded so grudgingly a husband feels sex with his wife might be borderline rape. She furthermore fails to take care of herself and seems to go out of her way to be as unappealing as possible. At least, until the divorce when she will temporarily shape up again.

And then when he strays -- and, of course, ideally he shouldn't because a promise still applies even if he is being treated like shit -- she is shocked and hurt -- and then turns into a screaming banshee wanting blood. Never acknowledging, of course, that she broke a great many implicit promises along the way well before he strayed in most cases.

What Dr. Laura's book explains is important stuff. She explains how to communicate with men so that they have the tools available to meet their wives' needs. Nothing is more frustrating to a man than the feeling of utter impotence at meeting his wife's needs. He wants to be her knight in shining armor -- and Dr. Laura explains to women how to facilitate that.

She explains to women how important it is for them to actually have sex with their husbands -- REAL sex, like they mean it. How important it is to look nice, express appreciation, and not take their husbands for granted. She makes sure women have an understanding of THEIR vows, and how them upholding their end of the agreement helps men uphold theirs.

Now, Dr, Laura is even more ponderously pedantic than me in some respects, and a hypocrite to boot. She really looks down on people a lot. And so, there are some areas where she clearly doesn't think highly of men. She acts like men are in some respects no better than puppy dogs. I'll have her know that if it weren't for us puppy dogs, radio and the printing press wouldn't freakin; exist.

But in spite of its flaws, I think this is actually a very good book.

Our educational system puts a lot of emphasis on sex education -- more than is needed, imho. But it puts ZERO emphasis on relationship education, leaving people to learn as they go.

I think books like those I recommended have importance in educating people to make the most out of relationships as we model them in the current era. Are they a panacea? No. Because they mainly deal with humans as infinitely plastic entities entirely formed by nurture; and they dispense with too much of the biology.

But in practice these books contain practical and actionable data. It isn't 100% -- but it is 60% which is better than most of us have to start with.

Sire, did your ring my bell?

OTC time from a sex worker is the ultimate form of flattery and truly a reward for your good behavior and decency. It would not hurt my feeling one bit to interact with someone who I've met through this channel as friends in the manner which you have described, as long as there is going to be "Pay when we Play" If there is no more envelop involved when playing with a provider, that would disturb my sense of the game. Been there, done that and did not like the outcome.