I can't get this question out of my mind.  Perhaps it should be "Why am I this way?  Oh like you are sooooooooooo much better than me.  

Anyway let's face it we all know this is not exactly something that we go bragging about to our family and friends.  I mean there is a reason why that credit card charge reads CCbill.com and not I like to F--- women for money dot com AND we use handles like Ridgetucky.  

This question became more pertinent today as I booked a future session with a local provider and in it I requested some pretty weird acts.  Well as you all know not weird for me (LOL).  She agreed and we sat a date.  Several hours later I sat at dinner with my family and couldn't help but wonder if everyone in that restaurant knew what I did in my very private life.  How could this seemingly normal looking family man pay a woman to engage in such taboo acts?  I know they weren't thinking it but I couldn't help but think that they were thinking that?  But I also thought how could the Provider engage in such acts with me?  I mean look don't get me wrong I am VERY HAPPY that she agreed to uh accommodate me (for several hundred $$$).  For a moment there everything just seemed really weird.  Thus, my question "Why are we this way?"

You are NORMAL!  Don;t think to much into this.  You are healthy and normal.  Just keep enjoying yourself safely.

Well...you would have to define normal. What is outrageous for some is perfectly acceptable for others.

While you are sitting at dinner deep in thought as to why you are a sexual creature...there was definately someone else in that resturant thinking about their AFT.

I do not believe in putting lables on what is normal and what is not normal. You are human and you have a curious mind, a sexual appetite, and the need to fulfill your fantasies....what is so WEIRD about that?

We do it because we like it.

I am a pro-dominant as well as an escort so I see a bit more of the darker side of sexuality on a very regular basis. I think it's just part of our journey and it is so different for each person. NOTHING that we are doing sexually here is new. NOTHING. Pain and pleasure and using every orifice and body part has been done and done again. This is how humans brains are wired. Taboo is such a deeply complex and dense subject. People ake these studies their life's work,ya know? Keep safe and enjoy it.

Simone

they just are to afraid. You my dear take the initiative to do what you lust for which is why most are here.

I too am doing the same thing as many ladies will attest to themselves. This is what they enjoy doing.

More and more people are turning to this page in their life and wanting to know what they have missed for so long.Now that the word is out that they can find a way to experience what they dreamed of for so long their doing it.

Kisses Haley

"But I also thought how could the Provider engage in such acts with me?"

Um, because you are paying her dude.

with two other physicians: one gay in a permanent relationship for many many years with two adopted kids and the other a lesbian female physician also in am ongoing and apparently loving relationship. (I can't believe I was there to represent "normal", if only they all knew.)

During the extended lecture work shop, some student would always aaks: "Have the figured out what causes homosexuality?" to which one of my partners answered: "Well they haven't figured out what causes heterosexuality either."

Who knows why you are the way you are, I am the way I am, and all the other apparently normal ones are the ways they are. Let's just lean back and enjoy it.

I think the question you are grappling with is: Why am I this way? It sounds like there are things bothering you about yourself. As for the "we", each of us have a different reason for doing what "we" are doing.

I was married for 17 years to woman who had absolutely no passion or sensuality. I loved her, nonetheless, eventhough she eventually walked out on my and my three girls. During the last 5 years of our marriage I had affairs with 11 different women. A few of them were one nighters, the rest went on for a few weeks to a few months. We met on-line. We talked. We got to know each other. We went out for dinner. Then I would get a nice hotel room. In some ways they were providing me with a service and I in turn was doing them one by going on dates and buying gifts, etc.  Because of their lives and committments, or because we didn't connect, they and I went separate ways.

In some ways, when I see a provider now, I prefer to simply call them ladies, I have eliminated all of the emotional issues. I am friends with one lady, who I enjoy seeing emotionally - the sex is great too - but I get from her or from another lady all the fun things I want, but do not have to deal with the reality of the total relationship.

Currently, I am re-married and I have a nymphomaniac for a wife, but I still see a provider because as much as I love my wife, she brings into the bedroom all the emotional garbage that I say can be dealt with at another time. This looms over our love making. When I am escorted by a terrific lady, none of that hangs over my head.

That is my answer to your question for me. I am satisfied with it. You need to find an answer that will be satisfying for you. If you cannot find one, then maybe you have other issues at work here other then just sex. Good luck to you.