So you are on the Internet and a civie ad for a local provider comes up. It lists her civie name and some detail about her life that is hard to hear, like a rough divorce or some other life issue.

She has shared some of the information before, but not to this detail.

Unfortunately you want to help, but....

Thoughts?

Are you saying that it's something like a personals ad?  Not saying she's a provider, but you know she is?

I know a couple ladies well enough to know the behind the scenes stuff.  That's not necessarily a good thing, but it does make the connection more real.  Do you help?  Guess that depends on your true nature.  Just try not to put yourself in jeopardy over it...no point in two people having rough times.  Also, is she asking for help, or are you just white knighting?  Sometimes, that's the toughest question to answer.

Many providers will use dating sites. You find out they are a provider wanting money. They can't post stuff that they are a provider otherwise the ad will get yanked down. Sometimes it is a good way for the provider to see what you are about. Nothing like seeing a provider who is indeed attracted to you. Some will want to see a facial and/or body shot. Smart ones will require references unless they know you from another site such as this one.

If you have seen her it is best that you don't bring up this information. Just leave it alone. Remember this is a hobby with NSA (no strings attached) not dating.

Because she has revealed her real name and intimate details about her life, I am assuming that you found her profile on a genuine dating site and not an adult site such as Adult Friend Finder. I am also assuming that when you say she has shared some of the information before, you have seen her as an escort.

If those assumptions are correct, I suggest that you meet with her again in her role as an escort and let her know that you saw her "civie" ad and that reading the personal ad caused you to want to know more about her. She may open up and tell you more about herself, or she may tell you that it is none of your business. In any case, you have approached her in an open and honest way.

I join with the others who have asked you to examine your motivations and make sure that your desire to help comes not from being a "white knight" riding to feed your ego by rescuing a damsel in distress, but rather comes from a genuine desire to help another human being that you already care about

What about a link?!?

Don't post a link. I have some reservations about even keeping this post up, because I'm concerned about the provider's privacy. Just because you know something doesn't mean you should tell it.

I care enough not to say anything about who she is to anyone. I was really just interested in hearing people's opinions.

Actually that is why I was super vague about the details. I don't even have a review for this lady up becasue of this.

I respect that this is not something to be messed with.

hey- you should use your real name here due to

State reasons

( because people that know her in real life such as yourself may see the ad )

Help her

was my answer to that. lol

I guess it doesnt pay to be nice.