Calls you "babe, honey, baby, hottie..." from the very first exchange? Is this off putting somehow? Do you like it?
to call a guy one of these terms in the first exchange. So if the lady starts off responding this way then is it OK for the guy to respond the same way?
once I've developed a relationship with someone, I'd don't really take issue with it. However, from a new person, it feels super infantalizing. So whenever i get it, I usually just stop communicating at that point. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Most call me "babe" or "sweetie" (I think it has to do with age difference). One calls me gorgeous every single time and I adore this. I would take any of these over "miss" or "mam" I think that would be weird.
I can’t get past the fact that it is the name of Paul Bunyan’s blue ox.
I’ve certainly taken my share of balls on the chin.
He may have wood, but it’s not going in the flume.
I do not like to be called in an initial email sweetie,baby,babe to me it comes off like a guy is sending a copy and paste email out.I don't use those words when I address a gent by email,pm,or on the phone.
even if "baby" is fully spelled out. So no, I'm not a fan. While I appreciate compliments, if one doesn't demonstrate a level of intention and specificity, it doesn't really leave the best impression.
Chaturbate where they don't speak English that well. I remember this big-belly Eastern European dude trying to get more money by saying, "Come on Guys! You want to see me do ass fuck?"
"Oh BBY ( Bee Bee EEE) I want big cock ... in ass ... now! Don't make me wait!"
I laughed so hard I had tears in my eyes.
I can attest that whatever you talk to back to this person ends up in total waste time. Xo
I think that it's usually meant in an endearing way. It's almost always followed by a nicely worded and respectful interaction. The words can be used negatively, but over a computer screen, it would have to be quite derogatory.
I think it's ok, and just a way to show some admiration. It's not personal by any means, but overall I don't find it offensive.
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I dont find it nessicarily offensive but it makes them come off as a time waster as ive Noticed most guys who talk like that flake or dont end up booking.....
If someone text me baby they don't get a response back. It's off putting.
I've always texted "hey, beautiful" or "hey, gorgeous" to the ladies I frequent, but NEVER on the first communique, and I usually don't do that until I've seen them at least 2 times.
that's what im talking about.
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I have no problem when a client calls me something sweet. Makes me feel special. 
she follows "babe" with "I have to reschedule." Like tonite! SMH
Then I do like being called SweetHeart.. Most all the time.. Xoxo
....should be used when the person is endeared (is this sentence grammatically correct? oh well)
I'm an old fashioned in this instance. I need to meet you and and establish a connection before we use terms of endearment for each other.
Otherwise, it feels shallow. . . .you haven't met met yet so why are you trying to flatter me so much.. . .
But that's just me
I am not "courting" you, If I have contacted you, I fully intend on being naked with you within five-ten minutes of meeting you at the "longest" If you really think being call "baby" is shallow, you haven't seen anything yet where it comes to being shallow.
In the immortal words of Chris Rock, "when a man flatters you, he is simply "offering dick""
"Hi Beautiful" is synonymous with "can I offer you some dick?"
You fuck and suck dick for a living, please get over the meaningless platitudes that go along with the job for fucks sake.
Generally because it usually is lined up with u avail now? Any specials?
Lol
that's the part that gaga doesnt get. the way a guy may come across says a lot about them. gaga thinks we are just making a big deal about little stuff. I like the per names. just not on the very first email. first email should be about making a proper introduction and show youre mature and serious.
thats all im saying.
I don't know what or when I have ever posted anything that would make you think otherwise.
I am not "applying" for an appointment, if me asking for an appointment later on today or tomorrow at the latest doesn't prove I am not a time waster, the manner in which I address you certainly is not. The old, toothless waitress down at the Waffle house is much more likely to call my sugar, or hun rather than my given name too. It doesn't bother me a bit. I just "consider the source" and go about my day. There are a lot of old guys who still use terms like "doll" or even "missy", for someone to start whining about that on a fuck board makes as much sense as the whiny johns who come here to whine about some hooker who wants to charge them fifty bucks more than they used to.
Personally, I don't believe I would ever start my first contact with "baby", but if I did and that was the reason the girl never got back to me, I would consider it a bullet dodged. You people are getting WAY too fucking sensitive and that goes for you hookers and you johns alike. Lighten the fuck up already. and remember the cardinal rule that many of us whore mongers live by "I will beg for pussy and I will pay for pussy, but I will NOT beg to pay for pussy" If you are going to demand I call you something other than sweetie or honey before you will respond to my inquiry, you are coming dangerously close to demanding I beg to pay for pussy. Some of us don't respond to well to petty demands and whiny hookers.
and I am neither. lol
Honestly Sasha, for someone who lets all the tranny shit roll right off your back, to get all bent of shape because some guys opening email starts with a rather cheesy "term of endearment" seems a bit out of character for you.
Many/most Johns are a bit socially awkward and a lot of them think they are "breaking the ice" that way. Which would you prefer, "HI Sweetie" or "Yo bitch"???
And while I don't keep track of such things, but I have received a LOT of first texts/emails from women that start with "Hey babe" or Sweetie among other terms of endearment. I don't take them literally, but quite frankly I have more important shit to be worried about, like some asshole having the temerity to call me of all people a "gentleman" I am still seeing red over that one. lol
And it's along the lines of clients asking if it's off putting for a provider to call them schnuukums before the first date. Lol
After all, were in a job that has a lot to do with attractive qualities that people are all over the spectrum with. Some like things, some don't.
Why not attract what you like and enjoy it?
But I agree. Babe guys rarely turn out. It really depends on how it is approached. Hey baby instead of "hi Courtney" means it's a form letter sent to multiple ladies a lot of times. I'll let them have em lol
You don't get Gaga. He has a fetish for putting down people. He does it 24/7. Then he offers a lame justification for acting retarded that is so old it has been a movie trope since Al Jolson -- " We're just having a bit of fun." Gaga is all about acting superior. He drips it from every pore. He brags in each missive. He puts others down in every other. You need to understand that Gaga is an ego on steroids.
Can't stand it. My dad calls me 'sweetie pie' and he's the ONLY man allowed to do so. Do you want me to think of my dad when you email me? No.
As a client I don't like to be called "hun." And the reason is because "hun" is so frequently used in impersonal situations that when it is used it brings to mind an impersonal nature -- as someone above mentioned, like a waitress answering a question about what's on the lunch special. Why telegraph that the person you are dealing with means nothing to you. Where is the fantasy in that?
same difference.
i get that same shit look on my face w both.
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don't do it.