First of all Happy New year!
I had a disturbing phone call and would like to have some opinions on what I may have done wrong.

I had a gentleman call me Tuesday last week left a message I called him back and he was not able to speak so he said he would call me back. On Friday he calls me again and I called back imediately and he was going into a meeting and would call me back later. On Sunday he calls me and I missed the call so I called back within 10 minutes and he mentions he can talk. So he mentions we have been playing phone tag and that he is glad we can finally talk. He says that he can not meet me the same day because he has plans, I ask him when he would like to get together? (At this point I now nothing about him except his first name) So I asked him what he did for a living and he agressively answered that he had money and what does it matter what he does for a living. I was a little shocked and tried to explain to him that I was asking to see if he had a felexible job and could meet me during the day or if he wanted to meet at night.
At this point I could not believe that he was so rude. So he says to me I do not need to talk to you anymore and I said goodnight.

I am not sure what happen ........I felt really unconfortable with his response , he was really aggresive. I some how made him mad and I do not understand why? I am glad we hung up and stoped talking however I was not asking him if he had money or not. Nor did I ask him who he worked for ...I just asked what he did for a living?

You can learn a lot  from a phone call, I am still thinking about this one because I do not like to offend, but the more I think, I can not find what it is I did wrong. Also he called me 3 x's which is an indication that he did want to spend time with me.

comments?

kisses & licks....I am a lover not a fighter....
mara

Deep inside he feels that what he does is wrong, thats why he became aggresive when you asked him about semi-personal stuff.
Just guessing.

This guy sounds like he really wants a date and has not been with a woman for a while or probably never used an escort service before. He telagraphs this by showing it appears lack of patients.

My reaction to your post is that you probably ask similar questions to other fellows when you talk on the phone, and never get a reaction like this.

Another ironic kind of thought that occurs to me is that he must not read this board - otherwise he would have an indication of how sweet you are, and would not have taken offense (not buttering you up - just stating an fact.)

If he gets upset that quickly over a legitimate question, you're probably better off not seeing him.  I'm always nervous the first time I talk to a lady and it always feels weird to talk about what I do right away.  I guess I don't want her to know too much about me until I feel comfortable with her.  He may have felt this way, but to react in anger is not a good sign.

Stay away from loonies like that. If that's all it takes to set him off, you have all the warning you need.

Sounds like his mind set was like propositioning a streetwalker.  Doesn't know what world he's moving in.  Nothing for you to feel bad about.

feedback and also for all the private e-mails. I guess I just need to move on and realize that sometimes and better yet we do not have control over peoples reactions or lack of.
Hope your all having a great week!

kisses & licks.......
mara

Relax. The guy is a jerk, and full of self-hate and insecurity. It's just too bad that you had to feel the effect of it all. xoxoxo

He was up to no good and you took on more that you should.

You did nothing wrong. You asked questions, and you can!

He obviously was wasting your time or was nuts.

Don't sweat the small stuff~ Its better to be safe than sorry.

Shaye

Who says democrats lack a sense of humor?

It was a tongue in cheek reference to Howard the Dean's very public outbreaks of anger.  Don't get me wrong, I'm rooting for the guy, he reminds me of Mondale.

Answer to first question... I do!

Likely, he only wanted "a body to bang" and sees Providers as low class people who do not warrant his concern. Men like these view other people as Kleenex: soft and disposable.

Don't give him another thought...

Could be first timer and his response was more out of nervousness than anything else. Inability to talk on phone plus anger at personal question may show fear of getting caught. And although you tried to put him at ease, at this point he was over the edge. The problem is his not yours. Better to find out on phone that he might be more trouble then its worth then in person. Don't take it personally. You did nothing wrong, in fact I admire the promptness with which you returned phone calls.