For a variety of reasons, I have not had sex since August of 2003. I ended a serious relationship at that time and have been intensely focused on my career for several years. Except for one very erotic, very surprising encounter last year (sexual but no actual intercourse), I have had zippo.
I will be traveling to Canada for the first time next month and plan to meet with some providers while there. I am a newbie to the hobby and this will be my first experience. I'm both excited and nervous over the prospect and am wondering if anyone has any thoughts/experience on hobbying as a way of breaking oneself out of a dry spell like mine....
I wouldn't prescribe for anyone else -- that's LG's territory -- but this is my experience: Hobbying is not a cure for any deep-seated or long term problem, but the short term bliss, insights, lessons learned, and stimulation can certainly help put one on the right road, and if you're lucky and do it right, with incredible satisfactions along the way. My suggestion: spend some serious time trying to find provider(s) you connect with not only sexually, but also emotionally, culturally, and intellectually, and let it ride. Even if it works out beautifully, it won't be easy or cheap, but when it's great even the uncertainties are a form of bliss. You'll have a transcendental time and you will learn a lot about yourself and your fellow humans. Good luck.
Note that the overwhelming majority of TER reviews only deal with sexual connections. Any emotional, cultural or intellectual connection is seldom refered to - just 'We did position A, then B', etc.
Yet these other factors are terribly important, at least for me.
Your emphasis that "you will learn a lot about yourself and your fellow humans" is also right on. Unfortunately, how many reviewers ever speak about what was *learned* from the visit?
From now on, I'm going to try to improve my own limited number of reviews by including some of these factors in them.
Emotionally, Culturally and Intellectually? PUH-LEEZE. This isn't fucking E-Harmony.com. Honestly, having an ass in my face, while getting an awesome BBBJ, does nothing for me culturally or intellectually. I don't know about you. We're talking about getting together for 60 or 120 minutes. For me, that doesn't leave much time for culture and intellectual conversation. But, hey, that's just me.
My advise would be, book more than one hour. After 4 years, the first one is going to go fast. Have fun and play safe
The most satisfying times I have had over the last 2 years have been with providers whom I "clicked" with at more than a sex only level. In fact it can lead to much more satisfying encounters and even a long lasting friendship should that be what you each desire. I talk/email/im regularly with ladies whom I have hit it off with to this day they turned into friends. (one even turned into a friend with benefits - I always bring a nice present) I saw those I clicked with numerous times and we did many different types of things allowing for both of us to enjoy our dates. When it comes time to part ways its difficult - both for the provider as well as for the client since you are both invested in the relationship.
1. Use the screening tool here on TER for what you are looking for (services, looks, etc) 2. Check the regional board for where you are traveling. 3. Contact the girl(s) that attract you and set up a date.
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