It's only natural that intimacy will increase between a client and a provider who get long and see each other regularly.  Speculating that it may be anything like romance will only leave you second-guessing yourself and could eventually ruin future visits.

Don't tell her shit...unless you want to mess things up royally.

Yes...it could be the holidays or anything else but the bottom line is that it is NOT "real". Maybe genuine but not real. Understand the difference.

Despite wtf some people say around here don't lose sight of this for what it is. It's P4P and nothing more. Exchanging frankincense and myrrh (there's your Christmas reference) for attention and the opportunity to masturbate into another person.

Don't give it another thought and focus on whatever you have in life that is real.

...are reciprocal. So what? If he "messes things up royally", she'll dump him and he'll find many others to p4p.

I had what had to be our best session yet.   However, as we were saying our goodbyes I was getting a vibe that the feelings between us were too genuine.  Not going into what we said but it's the little things and how she was behaving that briefly gave me a weird vibe.   This one felt different.  Maybe it was the fact that it was the holidays, I don't know or maybe I'm over thinking it but after seeing someone enough times you notice things.

Seriously, why did you post this?

The best are the most convincing and it seems like real GFE but they know that's what keeps us coming back and you are not the only one she sees who feels this way. Been there. Done that. lol.

Does she have reviews? Are other hobbyists raving about her? They are having the same experience with her you are having because she is really good at what she does and wants to build a clientelle of regulars she is comfortable servicing. That's it, plain and simple. She would rather see regulars who are nice, reliable and not demanding than book new people who might not be very nice. That's it in a nutshell. It's a business, period.

As soon as your session is over, she will be entertaining someone else just as enthusiastically and lovingly as she entertained you....then on to the next, etc.

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Had the same genuine feeling, but later on things change after a few months when GFE becomes  like the real GF (with it's negatives).

Don't be so hard on yourself or her - we are human first - and holidays DO make it harder.  

I'm so lonely I think that I would donate TO YOU at this point!  LOL

However as long as you both continue to act like it's business, that's all that matters.  Just push the feelings aside and be grateful you have someone that you can feel comfortable with.

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Why don't you check out the Erotic Highway board, the LG has the cure

...I'm just as happy to leave when the session is over.  Enjoy your time together, enjoy the experience, enjoy the person...but, it's a moment of happiness and meant to be fleeting.  There are REALLY good GFEs out there (I'm looking for a few more so send suggestions).  I've been sad when one of my ATFs has moved on or retired as they eventually all do...but, there's usually another one just around the corner.

Remember in the end that it's all just an act..like a well played theatre performance.  So, enjoy the performance.  Besides, you probably don't want the baggage that comes with an emotional commitment.

Of course I know it's an act.  I've been with this girl many times.  It's just that unlike our other farewells this one time didn't feel like an act and this is the first time I ever got that vibe from her.   I left with a smile on my face but was scratching my head wondering where all that came from.

She is probably, as we speak, planning to take down her shingle with the intention of taking you on full time…

I'd be careful  

I take it you are saying that you have reason to suspect your ATF is falling in love with you. The “weird vibe” you felt is you telling yourself that something is not right. Subconsciously, you are putting yourself on your guard. This is good. Stay on your guard.

As others have pointed out, you may simply be misreading the situation, mistaking a convincing performance for genuine feeling. Maybe there is no more to it than that. Or maybe she really is falling in love with you. I would advise you to keep your guard up and listen to your vibes.

And, harsh though it sounds, be prepared to find a new ATF.

Wow!  Thanks!  Sounds just like my ATF!  I thought she was in love with me, too!  She said I had the nicest dick she'd ever seen.  Are you sayin' she didn't mean it?  Awwww, fuck!  Well,it's back to my plastic vibrating Chasey Laine repli-pussy!

Right!  It's always smart to listen to your gut.  I had a similar situation about 20 years ago with an ATF.  Her "name" was April and she worked in a henhouse on 3rd Ave. just north of 34th St. in NYC. She was giving me head, looked up with tears in her eyes, looked in the mirror at herself and said,  "April the whore."  Tears ran down her face.  I wanted to reach out to her but something told me to just mutter some platitude and leave it at that. I don't know what I said but we finished the session.  Part of me wanted to have her as a real GF but the big head prevailed.  I honestly liked her, too, but no way was I going to step over the line.  Not sure if I saw her again (I probably did) but it never, ever went beyond a professional relationship.  Good thing, too.  For both of us.  We'd probably have married and quickly divorced...at great expense, financial and emotional.  Sounds heartless, huh?  Also rational.

Oh well, we haven't had a good "I've fallen for a provider" post in at least two days, at least none that got approved.

Tony got an early xmas present, now pass the popcorn. lol

long enough and have been hobbying long enough.

I know that I've had a few such situations.

A mix of a sympathetic ear and objective detachment is what is called for in order to avoid the disasterous consequences you allude to.

Just go back and review your posts on this board. Every single post except one concerns your feelings about your ATF. Dozens and dozens of replies have tried to convince you to wake up, but you seem to be slipping in even deeper with this latest post. You really, really need to get out and see other ladies.

What can I say?  It was the first post that wasn't someone starting a new thread to wish everyone a merry xmas.  I'm as jovial as the next guy (OK, that's a fucking lie) but can't we look to see that someone has already had the thought first, and just reply to it?  So, being all in favor of diversity, I took it as an opportunity to talk about something else.  Granted, it's not astrophysics, but it's a holiday so I'll take what I can get.  Now, back to that diversity thing...they aren't ALL blond.  In fact, I know a hot little brunette... I looked under the tree but she wasn't there, so I may have to go find her.

I thought since you've been such a good boy all year, Santa would've left a hot little brunette, blonde, and a red head. Or, two brunettes and a blond. Or, one brunette and two redheads. Or...... ;0)