Nevam1,
Well, what everyone else said is true, trust me. Actually, you already answered your own question. You've seen a provider and had a great time because it didn't bother her. Just be clean, be polite, be on time and have fun. Continue to seek out quality, independant providers, and you'll be in like Flynn. In fact, you may find them to be especially excited to see you, because us bigger guys tend to be more appreciative of them, and thus more respectful. The ladies are people too and have feelings like everyone else. Sadly, not every client treats them as the ladies they are.
Also, when I contact a lady, I always always always tell them I am super morbidly obese, and even send a picture so they can see my 5'8" 410 lbs. (Down from 417 just this past Sept. 4 ... which is also my birthday thank you.) I ask them if they have any hang-ups or do they mind seeing a guy my size. So far, not a one has said, "No thanks I'd rather see a GQ model." I'm honest and upfront, and it has paid off greatly. They appreciate me even asking, and of course I'm super appreciative of them seeing me, because they don't really have to. But again as everyone else has said, if they are professional and have been around a little, they won't mind a bit seeing a guy who is overweight or obese. Actually, they're smart not to say no, because with America at 60% plus overweight/obese and growing, it's a safe bet that most of their guys are a bit on the heavy side. Some more than others sure, but still heavy.
So don't concern yourself with it. Yeah, I'm limited in the positions I can do, and it's been a bit of a challenge, but we made it part of the fun, laughed it off and had an awesome time. They are pros, and know ways around the body to make things fit, so to speak.
On a personal note, and I'm speaking from my 20+ years of being big, overweight, husky, fat, obese, morbidly obese and now super morbidly obese; if it bothers you being overweight, then do something about it. NOW!! Trust me on this dude. You're still young enough to really enjoy some of your youthfullness. I just turned 31 and am facing a gastric bypass. I've done the diets the pills the fads the counting calories the exercise the Weight Watchers, the Deal-A-Meal, the Slim-Fast, you name it I've done it. I've Sweated to the Oldies, I've Tae-Boed, I've Tony Littled and more. Only to lose a little, and eventually gain it all back plus interest.
My point is, I beg you not to get to where I ended up. Being this big, this young is litterally killing me. I could die in my sleep tonight from obstructive sleep apnea, or a blood clot. Thankfully, my heart and lungs are in great shape considering my weight. For now that is, if I/you continue on this path, heart disease, lung disease, high cholesterol, certain types of cancer, high blood pressure, Adult Onset Diabetes, arthritis, sore muscles and joints, fatigue. Not to mention the lower self-esteem, poor-self image, lower wages (if you get hired at all, which I can't,) lower chances of dating/marriage, lower chances of being accepted at a college or university and all the other mental/psychosocial aspects of being obese are in the future if I continue on this path to certain death. Morbid means death. Obese means fat. Morbidly obese is literally a dead fat guy, or being fat enough to die from it.
For these reasons and more; I have chosen to undergo a gastric bypass. To NOT get to that point where I'm on 12 different medications, none of which will treat the cause, the obesity. So, if it's hurting you, or bothering you, or keeping you from doing or being what you want to do or could be in your life, then I urge you with all I have to make a change.
Pills, diets, fads, weight loss bars and shakes ... none of them work. They don't get inside your mind to help treat what's really wrong, why we eat the way we do and all that. But Dr. Phil's new book, The Ultimate Weight Loss Challenge is phenominal and is right on target. It's what this country needs to embrace in order to prevent obesity from surpassing smoking as the number one cause of preventable deaths in America. Obesity kills over 280,000 people a year in America. I don't want to be one of them, and I hope you don't want to become a statistic either. There is too much to live for to let it slip away, especially when one can do somethinig about it.
If ya wanna talk or chat about it, let me know. I'll be glad to help in any way I can. Until then, seek good quality ladies and you'll be treated well. Like the lady says, just because we're bigger doesn't make us any less of a man, or take away the pleasures and fantasies that a man has.
Happy Hobbying,
Jimbo
oes size matter?
