See somebody else.  Try her later.  YCAGWYW (You can't always get what you want).

I have invented a new achronym for the board!!

Harry

Re:Does persistence pay off or is it just annoying?

Check her travel schedule if posted on her site--maybe she is away.  Also, providers have a life and even visit their families time to time...

I'm not a "Provider", but I'd say, annoying. Perhaps you should leave her alone. If she hasn't contacted you after two weeks, she probably won't. The last thing a woman wants is a stalker, (not that you are, just that you may come across that way.)

My feeling is that, "this is what it is". You have a life, they have a life. Never intrude on theirs, and they shouldn't intrude on yours. I never make this more than it is, a temporary thing. "Thank you, had a good time. Have a good life."

Look for someone else, and happy hobbying.

then if you don't hear anything make sure you have the address right then move on.

Shaye

ps. She also might be on vacation or taking a leave or retired.

then if you don't hear anything make sure you have the address right then move on.

Shaye

ps. She also might be on vacation or taking a leave or retired.

Re:Does persistence pay off or is it just annoying?

Send an e mail, if no answer, on day 3 resend, still no answer by day 5, drop her from your list or down on your list and move on... Don't take it personally though there are 1000's of reasons she may not have replied and there are 10's of 1000's of ladies to choose.  I have over 60 ladies that are on my current to do list, I'm sure you also have many others. hobby safe hobby well hobby all you can be... her lose .... someone elses gain ...

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And, I suspect, that is also true for many (not all, don't get in an uproar!) ladies in this 'biz. Really to keep up with it all I'd honestly need a good suckretary on hand!  Sometimes I miss an email. It happens like this.

8am, bleary eyed, checking mail. "Hmmm, this is interesting. I'll write him back when I'm more awake."

10:30am... oOoooops, now I'm late for an appt, I'll write that email back later.


9pm.... 50 more emails in the box and that one from this morning is now lost in the queue.

Sometimes it's not personal, just write and ask.

On the other hand I have had a few situations where I've used the evasion tactic. ie: I haven't a clue what to say to this person because I cannot see them and I don't want to hurt their feelings... so I'll just not write back!

That's horrible and I don't usually do that, but I am not perfect and have fallen prey to it once or twice. Once the guy wound up being persistent enough that eventually I did write him back and explain why I couldn't see him again, and wound up being sorry.

So, judgement call... I would say go ahead and email her again.

If it's me, go ahead!!!

Hugs*
Tamara

There are MANY reasons for no response and they could have NOTHING to do with you. Example: about a year ago I met a PS at a club. She gave me her card with e-mail and phone #.  I followed up with an e-mail about two weeks later...and heard nothing. A week later, I tried the phone; left a message... and heard nothing. The same week, I sent two more e-mails. Again, nothing. The following week I left another phone message. FINALLY, I received a rather curt e-mail which gave me another phone number. I called and made contact.

It turned out that the lady's husband answers all her e-mails and he hates e-mail (go figure!). The phone number on her card was for her home in another state, and she was on the road and her hubby didn't check for home phone until after my 2nd message.

Happy Ending: I've met the lady a number of times over the past year including time as a guest in her home.

BUT...I'd made other contacts and had written her off until 'hubby' called me.
Good Luck