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anonymousfun 6 Reviews 737 reads
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If someone told you you are the bigger jerk, would that stop you from stepping out?  

She could divorce you if she finds out!

HaveAGoodTime2052 reads

How about this scenario? Home life=awesome, except for this: wife is strict vanilla, I'm mildly kinky. There's items on the menu that I really like that she refuses to indulge in but she objects to getting these desires met elsewhere. Meanwhile, I refuse to go to the grave never having indulged, so here I am!

Who's the bigger jerk, me for stepping out, or her for refusing to accommodate

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pleaseme885 reads

Both, for staying married

Posted By: HaveAGoodTime
How about this scenario? Home life=awesome, except for this: wife is strict vanilla, I'm mildly kinky. There's items on the menu that I really like that she refuses to indulge in but she objects to getting these desires met elsewhere. Meanwhile, I refuse to go to the grave never having indulged, so here I am!  
   
 Who's the bigger jerk, me for stepping out, or her for refusing to accommodate?  
   
   
   
 

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OSP831 reads

Try thinking about something other than sex. Do you expect any answer that doesn't validate your need for xxx sex? Sheesh..........you suck at choosing a unbiased control group. Life isn't ALL about sex

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Dr Who revived680 reads

Even the hookers won't comply with many types of activities...and they are getting paid directly.

Just curious...what is the little wife not interested in doing?

Posted By: HaveAGoodTime
How about this scenario? Home life=awesome, except for this: wife is strict vanilla, I'm mildly kinky. There's items on the menu that I really like that she refuses to indulge in but she objects to getting these desires met elsewhere. Meanwhile, I refuse to go to the grave never having indulged, so here I am!  
   
 Who's the bigger jerk, me for stepping out, or her for refusing to accommodate?  
   
   
   
 

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no_email807 reads

I certainly don't care if you cheat on her, nor do I care if she puts out or not

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inicky46673 reads

She's got a right to stay in her comfort zone and you've got a right to satisfy your kinks.  Just don't try blaming her to justify what you're going to do.  Man up and do it.

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Alyssa Marie836 reads

Did you have the same sex life before you married her

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Posted By: HaveAGoodTime
How about this scenario? Home life=awesome, except for this: wife is strict vanilla, I'm mildly kinky. There's items on the menu that I really like that she refuses to indulge in but she objects to getting these desires met elsewhere. Meanwhile, I refuse to go to the grave never having indulged, so here I am!  
   
 Who's the bigger jerk, me for stepping out, or her for refusing to accommodate?  
   
   
   
 

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Alyssa Marie718 reads

I was kinda waiting for him to answer his own question.

:)

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inicky46709 reads

He never said he knew about his kinks before he married her.  Re-read his OP and you'll see.  Never understand why people are so quick to judge.  People grow and change during a marriage and sometimes they evolve in different directions.  That's life.  Judge not.

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London Rayne606 reads

he KNEW was not that way when he MARRIED her to begin with. If I all of a sudden want to fk two guys at once 5 years after being married and can't control that impulse, is that my fault or my man's? Duh....let him take up golf. People who can't control their emotions are weak...plain and simple. A 7 year old has better self control than some grown men here.

You morons marry the prude, the first grade teacher, the beauty queen to raise your kids then you want the freaking whore after the fact. Just marry the whore or shut up lol.  



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inicky46697 reads

That is my plan.  After two failed marriages, my policy is to only consider marriage to a provider with the stipulation she would continue to work.  Great plan, huh?
As to the OP, neither you know of I know what either party knew when they got married.  Which is why, in the absence of more info, I'm not judging them.

-- Modified on 11/15/2013 10:39:08 AM

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London Rayne573 reads

I am just commented from what HE wrote, and it came off as he knew what and who his wife was at the time he married her, and is now shocked that she does not share his new found kink. People do change yes, but you can't also expect your mate to change just because you do. That would be like marrying a guy who swore up and down he never wanted to bring home other people to get a gal to marry him on that basis (she felt strongly about that) and then a few years later, he is asking to bring home another woman, and mad she has not changed her mind about it.

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Alyssa Marie672 reads

I reread it about 7 times. Sure, I haven't had coffee yet.. But..

He actually doesn't say either way.

I asked the question before this of what type of sex life they had before they married, to which he had no answer..

Come to look at this thread, it looks like he has no answer to anyone..

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SinCitySinner746 reads

You are just a human for wanting to do crazy things, and she is also a woman for not wanting to do certain things.. No one is jerk here..

Now go get your jollies from hooker puking on you..:D

Good luck.... :D

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Cannonhome1745 reads

You are doing something INTENTIONAL that would hurt her. She is doing something UNINTENTIONAL that hurts you.

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inicky46617 reads

It sounds like she's very conscious of her limits, which is fine.  But her refusal is, by definition, intentional.  Does that make it OK for him to cheat?  I never did when I was married but I try not to judge, especially since he has not shared any info about what the rest of their marriage is like.

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Cannonhome1528 reads

It comes down to how they each presented themselves for marriage. Did he know he was a kink meister at that time? If yes, I stand by my statement. If no, your position trumps mine.

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skyjockey46592 reads

For taking time out to read this entire thread knowing full well that I will never get these three minutes back

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anonymousfun738 reads

If someone told you you are the bigger jerk, would that stop you from stepping out?  

She could divorce you if she finds out!

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maxwell44687 reads

I've been married to my wife ten years today.

Having sex with just one person in ten years is pure dedication.

I don't know how she does it

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Dr Who revived686 reads

Wouldn't you be surprised LOL

Posted By: maxwell44
I've been married to my wife ten years today.  
   
 Having sex with just one person in ten years is pure dedication.  
   
 I don't know how she does it.  
 

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maxwell44695 reads

Nah, I have a great marriage.

On the eve of our anniversary my wife and I agreed that whoever woke up first in the morning should wake the other one with oral sex.

Come the morning I was up first so I slowly pulled back the covers...

... and stuck my cock in her mouth.  
 

Posted By: ChgoCPA
Wouldn't you be surprised LOL  
   
Posted By: maxwell44
I've been married to my wife ten years today.  
     
  Having sex with just one person in ten years is pure dedication.  
     
  I don't know how she does it.    
 

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bludive_1850 reads

…and look at your marriage as a whole.  If she is a good woman and is good to you then why would you go behind her back and risk losing everything (women always find out!) over a fantasy?!  Put things into perspective and don't allow yourself to always be thinking of your sexual desires because although sex is nice…it's not everything!

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