Question for hobbiests: Are you married? Yes or No, with an explanation of why you see providers and what your relationship with your SO is like.

Question for providers: Are you married/have a SO? Why are you a provider (be honest now), and how your hubby/SO feel about it (be honest again)?

Love my SO.  When we're frisky-  its totally superior to any provider I have ever dealt with- even the gymnastic attack mode PSE ones.

But we fight a lot and she is like a guy with her demands- and I like to be romanced and fondled slowly sometimes- she lacks skills or inclination to do so.  So I like Massage ladies a couple of times a year...

SO is of many years but is losing interest.  She is superb and our love is very strong but she has always been somewhat inhibited.  Providers supply those exploritory areas the SO will not touch.

because they're a heck of a lot more fun to talk to than my pillow.

My relationship with Bev is hot, hot, hot!

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my wife nags the fucking shit out of me, so I hobby for revenge...........Oh, that and the fact that she hasn't given me any pussy for over seven years now.

Never have been married, never will be.

married over 30 yrs, SO is my best friend, confidante, but she has developed multiple health problems. Makes sex the last thing on her list. I hobby because it makes me feel good/like a man. She could care less.

with two wonderful kids who occupy a lot of my time.... so I do not have the time to play many civie games....  besides that, I never did play many civie games and therefore are somewhat blunt and direct with ladies - that seems to turn a significant # of them off.

I through this hobby have met ladies who I both like and respect - if circumstances were a tad different... who knows - (but only from my perspective, I am not speaking for them).

So I hobby, and have found significant friends (who I hope are well and happy) through the hobby...  really not that bad an answer.

20 years divorced.  Two grown kids.  Retired from teaching a year ago.  

Hobbying before retirement could have been disasterous had I gotten busted by Uncle Leo.  

Hobbying now because I can, because I can spend intimate time with gorgeous women that probably wouldn't give me the time of day in the civie world.  I'm not ugly, but I'm no movie star look-alike either.  Also because I don't want to
go through the time and money to develop a relationship with just to have sex.  I'm sure you have all seen the financial breakdown for a civie date compared to an escort date.  I am not looking to get married again, so I don't really want a LTR anyway.

I'm married too (28 yrs). Sex is the last thing on the wife's list of "things-to-do", comes right after cleaning the toilets. Sex with my sife usually means fucking with her clothes on, just push the panties aside a little bit - just enough to get it in. SOOOOOOOOOOOOO I need a little more than that so I HOBBY.

Happily married with 2 sons.  Sex with the wifey is not as frequent or as hot as I want it to be.  I basically hobby only about once a month when my wife is on the rag.  It gets me by.

The hobby is guilt-free for me.  I seem to be the sort of guy who it's made for.

I'm very independent, and I don't compromise very well even though I'm very attracted to women and have I high sex-drive.  

As I was growing up, I had too much experience living in a home overshadowed by parents who stayed together (and are still together) though they hated each other.  It made me very negative and practically allergic to the possibility of a relationship. I'm only now getting over after good experiences with providers.  

For me the hobby is not only fun but therapeutic.

my s.o. doesnt like having daty and I love daty so I see providers.

spin cycle... lift the dress, push the panties aside.... and oooooh yea babie.... take me on my journey.... with the vibrations of the spincycle helping the moment....  oh yea!

Now were do you live?

Answer: I have an SO. He knows about my profession because that is how I met him (oops, I broke the rules). This is still a relatively new development for me though. We only met 2 months ago. Our situation is absolutely perfect in my opinion though. He isn't local to me, but his business brings him to my city about once a month. When he's not here, I work. When he comes into town, I block off the days that he's here and spend them with him. So far so good at least.

I don't know yet how this will work in the long run. For now, we don't talk a great deal about my profession. He knows what I do and he's ok with it, but I don't think he needs to know any details.

Divorced for 20 years.Old but still Horny.Spend so much time with my Grand-Children that I don't have time for a Civvie.

Biz, I think you might be a little warped, but I like the way you think. (lol)

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Divorced no kids. Started Hobbying AFTER I was divorced.  I actually got into this hobby while between girlfriends, to get me by until I found another one.  The Hobby fits my lifestyle right now since I began traveling a great deal more for the company I work for, and I am away from home for long periods of time.  Needless to say, I have yet to find another SO right now. After meeting some wonderful and beautiful ladies in this hobby and the incredible times I have experienced,  I'm in no hurry.

My wife had bi-polar disorder (manic-depressive), and the only time I hobbied when she was still around was when she was in the down part of her cycle. Had it not been for providers, I really don't think I could have stayed married to her for the 25 yrs. that I did. She passed away a little over a year ago, I've just recently gotten back into the hobby.                                      Now it's more like easy, certain sex. Civies are very unpredictable, but a provider is a sure- fire thing. Probably less money too. Too bad our idiot legislators can't see it from my perspective!

Married second time 30 years.  Triumph of hope over experience.  Seems like relationships just like our bodies and the physics of the universe are entropic. Menopause does not treat either sex kindly.  The hobby provides me with the sexual pleasure and variety of my youth.  The ladies I see respond to my human need to give love and tenderness without being bitched at. It also keeps me from evolving into a mean old man waiting for death.  It offers an ephemeral chance to answer the ultimate question "What did he do to make the world a better place?"

Married for 16 years.  Started hobbying because as soon as she had the rock, the sex life started to change and now after 3 kids, she's only willing to provide a BJ every now and then.  All this despite more than a year of couples therapy and she got almost everything she wanted.  Ii found couples therapy to be superficial and opportunistic on the therapists part.  According to the therapist, it was always all my fault.  Since we pretty much stopped working on issues after she got what she wanted, and she doesn't see the point of continueing therapy, I've recently returned to hobbing because I didn't make a vow to become a monk.

Okay, I'm cured no marriage for me either. Seems like a total waste of time.

Trust Me! It is.