I flew out to my ATF’s house for a Halloween Party that she invited me too. I had a blast. I met lots of people, her family and friends. Later she then told me the one of the guys that she introduced to everyone at the party as her friend was really her boyfriend. Immediately I felt like the “third” wheel. We have been friends for quite a while, but the fun part of me seeing her was that for 59mins and 60seconds she was my girlfriend. The gentleman in me wants to respect their relationship and move on. But the naughty side wants to block out the memory of meeting him and continue on seeing her.
What would you do??
it "hurt" you to think that you weren't the "guy" for her. And by accepting her invite to the party I suspect you thought that meant something other than what turned out. Sounds a little (or maybe alot) like the "I've fallen for a provider" mantra.
You've been playing here for long enough to know what the game is really all about. But you got yourself "caught up" in this one.
Can you truly step back and just have fun with her going forward? Or is it time to move right along and find that next ATF. And don't screw up again and fall for the next one!
I suspect that the next posters will be a little tougher on you than I have. But it is the holidays and it sounds like you've already had the shit kicked out of you ![]()
You never mentioned that..If you can't handle the fact that providers also have families and personal lives, you are better not hobbying... If she is still fun in the sack, and you think you would still be able to fuck her (now that you have new found knowledge about her personal life), by all means go ahead.
I would be flattered if some girl would invite me to meet her family. Today this girl gave me a home baked cake, and I am the only one in the department that she gave it to. I am already feeling like a KING...
Yes, I have met my ATF's BF.
Yours obviously (1) trusts that you are mature enough to meet him, (2) she likes you as a friend, or she wouldn'T have invited you to meet her family.
It is really up to you whether you can accept the reality or not, but do not look at it as "gentleman" walks away and "naughty" stays. You can be a complete gentleman and stay--she is saying SHE can handle it, and it is up to you.
She had to burst your bubble and tell you, he was anything more than a friend!
Unless she didn't realize you had feelings for her. ( which we all know, this is not the right place for that )
Respect her relationship?? How are you gonna do that, by not fucking her? It's the way she makes her living man!!
My advice, skip the halloween, cmas, and new yrs eve party invitations from now on.
Do yourself a favor, find one, pay her, fuck her, forget her and go home.
Looks like you have been at this for awhile, thought you would get it by now, THEY ARE NOT OUR GIRLFRIENDS!!!
Not trying to bash you man, but u know the rules of this GAME we play!!!
Good Luck!!
I don't really care! Apparently he's completely unaware that she's an escort.
revealing personal information to a client is in extremely bad form. Sounds like she has some pretty catty friends.
It's good that you don't care, but that doesn't change the fact that her "friends" should mind their own business.
One question, how come a great many guys here think the ladies should be up front with the their SO when they themselves are seeing sex workers behind their wife's back and think that is OK? I happen to agree with you that she should be honest with hum, but the double standards around this place are insane. It is the height of hypocrisy for a bunch of cheating men to condemn anyone for cheating.
Please note, yes I am married, and yes I see sex workers. The big difference is my wife knows I see escorts and has given her blessing as we have a somewhat open marriage. We both see other partners.
OK for preaching here is a photo of Malena Morgan from Met-Art.com. I am off my soap box now. I doubt it would hold my weight much longer anyway.
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when he hasn't had a pleasant word to say to anyone in his short time here.
He's been here less than a month and is a fucking expert on everything. How many of these fucktards have we seen come and go over the years?
The good news is, asswipes like him rarely stay long. They pop in, bloviate about what's wrong with the site and then crawl back under whatever rock they crawled out from under.
Oh I almost forgot the original topic, married guys have been using this double standard for millenia. He is just the latest hypocrite to do so. Most guys here are married and cheating on their wives, and most guys here are hypocrites. That doesn't make our AggieFan anything special, just another hypocrite.
but you really were fairly nice and didn't level him as much as I thought some might have.
Oh yea...Aggie does know everything...just ask him ![]()
I might just go over the the S&P board and see if they'll consider a "Dear Aggie" board. Seems like there's alot of wanting new boards here. Can't really blame folks tho...this one has way too many hypocrites on it!
Bloviate, now that's fucking funny!!
Gotta look it up!!
Shit, the word originated in Ohio,,WTF, i'm moving!!! lol
It was strange being there and meeting her family and significent other but I was happy for her as we have become good friends. Not that it matters but she married another women
And yes at least half of the providers have one. I myself am a SO to a provider. The only time meeting a ladies SO has bothered me is the one time that the SO had know clue what she did and I had to lie for her. That bothered me.
I would still see her and be glad for the dose of reality she gave you. She still is your GF for "59mins and 60 seconds". Remember you are not the one cheating. Truth be told neither is she as he knows and is apparently fine with her fornicating with you for cash. My marriage is open, and so is apparently theirs. I would respect that they have an open relationship and she her if I enjoy my time with her.
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I had them over for dinner. Their relationship didn't last very long however. She came back to me for good; HASN'T FRICKEN LEFT YET! lmao
It was a little uncomfortable. I got introduced as the reason she gets out of bed so early twice a month. Once I saw that they were totally comfortable with it, it really was no big deal. I like that she has a SO. It's nice to know tht she has someone to come home to and share her life with. I'm glad she has someone to spend the holidays with. Some of these girls sacrifice a great deal in order to be in this business. The bottom line is I am very happy she has someone to share her life with. She's a great lady and deserves to have a real true relationship. I'd be sad if she didn't.
On the other hand, I've done threesomes with my provider/girlfriend, so that's sort of the same only the converse. (Or is that the inverse, or the reverse or the obverse? I've never figured those out.)
family members and an ex, every once in awhile. I don't pry or ask questions.
I have met Fav's adult daughter, after a session we were dressed & hanging out, daughter stopped by. She is single & unattached... I wondered why... but them who is going to displace her (large guard dog) from the other side of her bed... heck, we can barely get him off so we can do the deed. They (there are 2) are friendly... because she is friendly but I am careful to not make startle moves.
Another Fav has taken called from her husband after our session, while we were just hanging out. It was not a surprise as she had spoken of him before...
It is a personal decision if she has spoiled the illusion for you...
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Most of us here either see providers or are providers. Many of us have someone else in our life. Last I looked, providers are people. As adults, they are entitled to have another adult person in their life. What providers do for a living is a job. A lot of guys look at it as a dream job, but honest women would argue that. It typically pays really well and that offsets the other side that guys ignore. She probably shouldn't have told you about him, because it shattered your illusion of the hour. In that respect, she broke the GFE for you. You need to decide if that's shattered for good, or if a little super glue will repair it. I know a few guys that won't see a lady because they know a guy in her life. I personally think it's foolish, but they aren't me.
I've met boyfriends, husbands, kids, parents, gay bar buddies, and an employer or two. Then again, I could say that about other people I know. You know, the people that are people but not providers.
and also met a provider's husband at a M & G. Only saw the second gal once because of lack of performance. Don't have an ATF.