i haven't as of yet, but i'm thinking about dinner when my atf comes to town.

i guess someone might recognize her, but i'll take my chances.

While it's not the usual thing for me, I've done both & more than once...never failed to work out well.  As long as the gal doesn't look or act like a drugged-out street ho (& none of the gals I've done it with fit that description), then I couldn't give a rat's ass about the public seeing us together.  Of course I'm sinlge & don't work for someone else, so maybe I have a 'luxury' in that regard that others don't.  

As to paying someone "over 1 thousand dollars to have 'diner' with them or stay overnight"...how is that different than a few of the reviews I see where guys have paid that much for an hour--usually for the so-called porn "stars" I guess.  I'd much rather invest in a longer time with a favorite if I'm gonna spring for that kind of money.

This is merely my own take & my own experience with respect to your question/observation...there isn't any right or wrong answer.  Whatever works for one isn't going to feel right for all, & that's as it should be.

I love the dinner date.  It's so far removed from the "wham-bam-thank-you..." feeling one gets with the one or even two hour appointment.

I enjoy getting to know the ladies a little more than one possibly can  with just an hour of bedroom gymnastics.  Most providers are humans too and become very pleasant and interesting people to talk with once you are in a different place.

I have made several dates for play time before dinner, then some fine dinning in a nice restaurant and rejuvination time, followed by a nightcap back at the room.  This is most enjoyable.

Even more fun can be had if you can get away for a couple of days (or more) together.  You find a new level of involvement and intimacy and IMHO discover the true definition of what an escort is.  This is the ultimate date and GFE takes on a whole new meaning.

As for paying a $1000 or more; well I think that you get more for you money than paying $350 to $450 for one hour of fairly rushed, performance based, hope I can get in just one more pop, date with no real time to relax an just play with eachother.

Keep in mind that your major sex organ is between your ears.  Long dates optimize the pleasure.

Try it, you'll like it!

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I do this fairly regularly.  There are some providers I know that this is a common type of date.  And for me it's better than a 1 hour "quickie".  I feel more of an attachment to my "date" and on the whole it's a much better experience.  Insofar as $1000 is concerned, I had trepidations the first time I paid that amount, but the provider was so incredible, vertically and horizontally, that to this day I count it as one of my most memorable experiences.  We spent more than 4 hours together, and that's only 250/hour, which less expensive than most quality providers' hourly rates.  And every time I'm in that provider's neighborhood (she lives far away from me), I go out of my way to spend time with her, even if ONLY for the lunch or dinner.

If you haven't experienced this type of session, and the $$$ isn't a problem, then I recommend you carefully choose a provider, or better still, ask a provider who you have been with and enjoy, to join you for a lunch, then "desert" date.  You'll probably thank the guys that replied to your post.  To me. this brings out a truer meaning for the term "GFE".

I have had the pleasure of seeing clients for dinner dates overnights, weekends and travel. This time spent with  has been the best. I feel that if you pick a provider that has a similar style as yours you would not be worried about being seen in public.  Their is something very erotic about being out in public having a nice dinner or seeing a show and knowing that when you get back to the hotel you are going to be a "whore" nasty with no restrictions. This is part of the whole buidup and just thinking about it makes me horny.
In my case I do not date, so I love this biz it is truely the only physical contact I have with men and when I am invited to  go away for a weekend, musical, or dinner it makes me feel great  and special.
Dinner dates also allow you to flirt a bit with eachother and so the passion build even more.
All in all, all sessions are special it is just a matter of your needs and what turns you on.
Kisses & Licks.........
Mara of San Diego

The overnights are great and if you can get a GFE that you really click with they may be less expensive then you think.  I've spent several weekends with my absolute fav who - as I've posted here in the past - lives 3000 miles away.  What I do is fly her in to a city between us and meet her there.  It's so much more intimate (and far less stressful if you're married) because neither one of us lives there.  We're there for each other only.  As for cost - she doesn't ask for $$$ for services anymore.  It's become a mutual vacation of sorts.  She knows everything is paid for - everything is top drawer and yeah, I take her shopping.  No more expensive then a real date as far as I'm concerned.  And it feels completely natural.  And what memories...  I got lucky.

I'm considered a high end companion. I have a several hour minimum as I prefer to see only 2-3 gentlemen per week as opposed to 4-6 men per day.  Yes, men do choose this type of companionship.  My new friends do not look to me for a quickie (not that there's anything wrong with that); instead, they want a courtesan....dinner, dancing, travel, skiiing,  theatre, hiking in the mountains, etc followed by or prefaced by serious debauchery. I would say they love my spirit, talent, and wit nearly as much as they adore my physicality.

Longer engagements allow a sexy build-up, an unfolding of the individuals, and make for a stimulating time.   When a man selects me for an extended, overnight, or several day engagement and I reciprocally choose him to play with and to pamper, he's not paying 4-6k merely for a slam bam.  He wants something else.

I do not even have reviews about my intimate times so gentlemen needing 6-8 hours, travel, or overnights just use their judgment, intuition, and sense when they contact me and discern our compatibility prior.  We chat for several days in advance.  Obviously, at my tier and level of gift, they already know my backstage behavior is superlative.  Adult film stars have nothing on me....(I just don't broadcast it.)So,my men tend not to inquire about specific intimate things in advance.  They call me from their offices or cells and are able to discern our compatability by that contact.


Obviously "satisfaction" can be "had" for much, much less. While sexiness is definitely a major component, it is not the only thing they are seeking.

In considering a lengthy rendezvous, make sure you talk with the person directly prior....you do not want to be stuck with a tab with someone with whom you share no chemistry.   (I always chat extensively  with my men prior and throughout the week...my last overnighter is taking me to NYC for 4 days and I am going to try to stay out of trouble.


Oh,  while I respect and appreciate and truly LIKE all  my new gentlemen friends, I have never made an error in getting emotionally involved. I know that I am not a girlfriend. For men with situations, there are no Anonymous calls to his home,  histrionics at his office, blabbing about him to others, pregnancy scares, or other tacky tactics ...Those things are simply not done.

If your selected companion has obscured photos that are very discreet and maybe even (gasp, conservative), that is a good indication she will have the same discretion and tact in dealing with you.  

Girl X

Re:Diner Dates, Events and Overnight stays.

Actually, I find dinner dates or multi-hour (3+ hours) dates enjoyable.  However, I only see providers when traveling on business, usally states away from my home, so I'm not worried about running into anyone I know.  But I can have a great time out with a lady and never make it back to my room.  Being married, the sex with a provider deosn't always fit my needs as much as a "date" with someone new does.  I like the date aspect of the hobbie the most.

Longer dates are by far more enjoyable than the quickies that are provided by some.  Yes, it is difficult to come up with the large amounts requested by some, but I was fortunate to have found one that was reasonable (not necessarily cheap) with the cost.  I ended up with a lunch that started at 11 and ended after 4.  We went out to a nice restaurant for lunch and got to know each other well.  It was a memorable experience.  Being seen in public with a beautiful escort by your side was almost as exciting as our private time.  However, personalities must click.  I would hate to have to spend hours with somebody I didn't like.

But, I spent my budget on a real bibmo in 2001 BEFORE I discovered TER.

I now see two ladies who might be candidates to accompany me to a warmer clime but an overnighter isn't in the cards for me, since I 'cannot sleep anyway'.

I have had the wonderful experience a few times...recently in Florida...I live in Boston area and travelled to see my ATF...combined w/business! You are right, the "large" $ factor is a significant obstacle, but if you are fortunaye enough tp connect with your ATF..the total experience is wonderfully overwhelming. First, you throw out the F****ing clock completely. Second, the love making, and in this situation...at least for me and my ATF, it was genuine and mutual lovemaking...unrushed and relaxed and intensely pleasurable...no urge to work up to the 2nd/3rd pop within the alotted time frame. Enjoyed walking outside...shopping and just being together...BUT you need to do this away, far away from your home region...too many risks at home without question! And, to put the frosting on the cake, with a genuine ATF..if you are lucky enough to enjoy and be blessed with that spectacular "connection"..the $ factor was almost a gesture of  good will ...not so much a "business transaction"...$2K for all day and night Sat/Sun..over 48 hours....YMMV of course! And as you know, the going rate for that extended time is typically megabucks and, regrettably, out of my league.

Bottom line, go for it, but do it with your MOST FAVORITE LOVER...not just a pretty face with great talents...the time together is long, very long if the connection isn't really there for both of you...just my $.02! And do it far away from home base...away from anywhere you might bump into someone you know...otherwise you may have much to worry about interms of damage control.

I have to agree that the longer date is best.  Money and location will clearly have a major influence, however.

I started the hobby with a one hour date and had the good fortune of selecting a lady who did not watch the clock and gave me a lecture on the finer points of the game.  Later attempts to equal the experience with others proved disappointing.  So I went for the dinner date on my first out-of-towner.  I have never looked back.

As other have said, find a lady with whom you connect well.  Having done this I can say that short dates have never been the same.  Also mentioned by other is the apparent trend that after a time ATF has enjoyed the experiences to the point that the fee structure changes. I remain generous and she reciprocates in kind.  

We have enjoyed dates which have ranged from 2 days to 9 and have taken us from coast to coast.  She has begun to decline my money and as such I have seen to it that she has experienced the finest hotels, restaurants and wine, and  occasional shopping that these areas have to offer.  She never gouges me with wants and expense and I try to make it a point to make the best available.  I never arrive without a little something for her and always have flowers sent to the room ahead of our arrival.

Escorting at it's finest.

Re:Diner Dates, Events and Overnight stays.

I am glad to say that yes many gentlemen do book these kinds of appointments and i have had the pleasure to have had many of them. It makes for a wonderful eveing and more intimacy, another benefit is that if i am doing more full evening appointments i spend less time oding one hours so i am not burned out and am always ready to enjoy the company of a gentlemen.

I meet this provider over 2.5 years ago the first time for a 2 hour session and she really swept me off my feet. Belive this or not I new she was for me the first time I seen her. But the next time we did a 3 day weekend trip and things between her and I became so great that I got her out of being a provider and this is now been going great now for 2.5 years. So yes the long week ends or overnights are for more better, but only if you and the provider both really injoy each others company it will work great.