I had a no-show today from a provider I know well.   If you are reading this and are an escort, please give me some feedback on when you think it is appropriate to conclude someone has no-showed, and what kind of communication, or ‘space’ you’d like from a client in this situation.

I'm sorry if she's got things going on with her family, but she can at least text you. There are enough ladies here that you'll find one to appreciate you, I wouldn't waste any more time on her.  

You should have bailed yesterday when she did not reply, and it's certainly on you for driving to her hotel after not being able to reach her.  

I agree, however this is also where I am stuck.  There is nothing going on other than she is one of my ATFs.  I know her real name. The hotel is 10 mins from my house, and I was on the doorstep of another one of my ATFs a few hours later for a great session.

You have to have dignity.  If someone does something inconsiderate to you (making plans then just going MIA), don't ask her when you can reschedule.  No girl likes a pushover guy.  A guy should be rational and in control.  Tell HER what's going to happen now.  Either she'll keep her plans or she won't see you again.  She wasted your time and you're a busy man, so have a good life.  Etc etc.  

I'll beg for pussy, and I'll pay for pussy, but I won't beg to pay for pussy.

This woman obviously is a God-send. It is truly an ultimate honor in this planet for you to be able to give her your money. Please ignore previous recommendation and instead get on your hands and knees and beg that she finds it in her heart to give you another chance to give her your money again.

muck

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.......how would you know what room she is in ? like everyone said forget her and find someone else.....

This is something not to be tolerated. Way too many fish in the sea to put up with this bullshit. I fired a regular last year for showing up 1 hour late to an appointment. If you see them alot they take your for granted.

and let her get her personal life back in order. If she wants to call you, it's up to her.  

i'll write that one down. LOL

He is a very busy, type A business mogul.  He should be a judge on SharkTank.  He also doesn't tolerate any crap apparently, as I found out the hard way.

thanks guys this helped. I'm going to leave it alone. For the record, I didn't know the room #. I just called the front desk and asked them to ring her room.  I promise I'm not a stalker. LOL.

reading this again, that is a good point. I'll let it alone.

I do not care if you know her real info, you should NEVER show up without her permission!!!!

She might be your ATF and she may have let you in more than she should have! Using personal information like an SO would is a huge no no! I really hope you realize your blunder. She's going through a hard time and although you might think you are her relief right now you are a thorn in her side! There are some things you just don't do, and boy have you done them! She'll see you when she's ready, if at all! I'm pretty certain you've blown it if she knows all the lengths you've gone through to track her down. How do you think she would have responded had you found her!?! I'm with the others on stalker behavior. Discretion and some semblance of privacy is key to making all this work and not spiral out of control. Instead of you helping her in her time of need you've completely managed to stress her out. When we take on this line of work we get that nasty feeling that creeps up our spine and says that something isn't right, even if we don't get any clear signs. We rely on our gut, we trust our gut because it screws us every time we don't!

I see my issue, which is why I put up this post.  Thanks for the frank feedback.  

good point.

How would she "blacklist" him..............do you mean her own personal blacklist............or is there some way to centrally blacklist people providers and hobbyists?

Well said.........can not believe you are so young..........such a wise, young lady!  Kudos!!!

But you are being awfully easy on her.  Far from "she'll see you when she's ready" - he should have walked away from this repeat no-show offender and never looked back.  Neither goes down as a text book example for good client or good provider behavior, respectively.

Lol I was gonna say "she must have some goood you-know-what" for him to do all that but your last paragraph works too 😂😂👌🏻

Never will be considered bugging.

So if you were my client and I knew you for 9 months and we shared info and you did not show up how would you feel if I called your work asking for you, then drove over there and walked in and asked for you and then went about stalking the places you frequent? Turning it around makes it sound really bad and what you did was REALLY BAD.

A couple of points:

Yes, there's a lot of confusion about what the term means but there are several BLs out there.  The worst of them is the so-called National Black List.  It has no credibility at all.  Anyone (even a guy) can put up a fake posting there and smear someone.

I wouldn't see this person if he was calling hotels looking for me. I don't give out my real name unless absolutely necessary and I've only no-showed once...and that was because the hotel my client was at got raided by the police. I told him later on that day why and he understood. Never went to that hotel again in nearly 10 years. What he did wasn't discreet and not very wise. Is he a new hobbyist or seasoned? I would've left her alone after she no-showed and didn't say why.

walking will do just fine, just walk fast, and do it now. lol

you kinda went over the top starting with your 6th bullet point.  I ain't driving anywhere unless I get the same day confirmation at least an hour ahead of time.  My 6th thing would have been a text to her saying..."I'm sorry we weren't able to connect today, I hope all is OK with you.  Let me know when you would like to get together again.".