this is something that happened to me recently that I wanted to get some second opinions on from other members of our community.
my situation is this:
I met with a local provider for an incall at her apartment, this was the first time we had met, all went well and we had a wonderful time together. I decided to see her again and couple of weeks later, a second visit had been scheduled. just before the appointed time, she had to cancel for an emergency in the family. understandable but unfortunately I did not get the message in time, was already on my way, and showed up anyway not knowing anything was wrong. afterwards, we were both very apologetic to each other for any miscommunication or inconvenience and each felt noone was to blame. when we rescheduled, I confirmed the time with her a couple hours before, but when I arrive she is obviously home and will not open the door. also, did not respond to my email afterwards. I feel rather hurt and unwanted by this thinking that she is trying to get rid of me. even if I never see this provider again, I still don't want any hard feelings between us.  
my question for you is should I try to patch things up with her or just move on? is there anything that we should have/could have done differently?
any thoughts and comments from either client or provider point of view would be welcome  thanks mr.man

Just forget it and move on.  Whatever her problem is, it's not of your making.  Based on your post, you'd be wasting your time with any further contact.  Keep your self respect, and forget about her!

Frankly, I would move on.  While reading the questions in the past contained in this forum I've noticed situations where the providers simply did not want to see the hobbyist again.  I'm new to the hobby and have had some wonderful experiences but I've yet to see the same provider twice.  Just too many choices.  My only disappontment so far has been a very popular provider in my area not even returning my initial contact e-mails. Hows that for rejection!  Oh well, move on.  There are plenty of lovely ladies out there who aim to please.

She's quite obviously "done" with you... Move on. There's nothing to be gained by any other method. You got it right on the first go... she's trying to get rid of you. You'll never know why. Neither will I. 8-)

Agreed. Time to move on.

As a provider, if I don't want to see someone, I won't.
(For various reasons why.)
I don't know why she would do that to you. That does appear to be very unprofessional. At least that is my opinion.

As the other men have said, move on and find another.

Just curious, do you really like her?? (Because of this posting) I would think you do.

Shaye

Good Luck

thanks everyone for your thoughts and comments. I am over it now and have taken your advice to just get on with my life.
however, I would still be interested in hearing a provider's perspective on this subject to try and avoid any similar situation in the future. is there anything a client has done, other than obvious things (being rude, harmful, poor hygiene) that made you  not want to see him again when you seemed to have had an otherwise enjoyable time together. would appreciate any insight on how we can  make ourselves better clients for you. thanks again everyone mr.man

You said you dont want any hard feelings between you two?
What hard feelings?

You don't even know her.

Wash your hands of her and move on. It looks like she is sort of a flake. Lots of customers are flakes, lots of providers are flakes too. Forget it and lose her number.

yeah John you make a good point that I don't even know her.  however, I would not want anyone to feel hurt or mistreated in any way, even if we're never going to see each other again. I like to believe that I treat all these ladies with dignity and respect. but at the time I wrote that, I was not sure how she felt about this  and what caused her to avoid me the way she did.
I decided not to take it so personally and move on, I just hope that she will do the same. best regards, mr.man

great observation Shaye: "do you really like her"
I felt a good chemistry between us, we had a wonderful conversation during our first brief encounter.
now let me explain too, that I am usually never this comfortable and would not open up to somone I just met. I guess that's part of the reason I choose to see providers sometimes.
even though my mind was firmly planted in the reality that this is not a true relationship, I could still benefit from that type of  companionship. (and she would possibly gain a regular/repeat client.)
hmm.. had not thought of it this way, you really helped me gain some perspective on why it upset me in the first place, thanks Shaye.
best regards, mr.man

I had a situation where the provider and I kind of jit it off and decided to see each other outside the hobby. Only, to be blown off twice by her. The bottem line is the same with regular dating, you never know what the other person may be dealing with. Also, in this business, seems attachment could be a core issue with some of the providers. So, dont take it too hard and move on.

You sound like a good guy, she sounds like a flaky wierdo.  It happens.  Her loss...next!  Your dream provider is out there waiting for you!
Cheers