I can understand if any and every girl wants to be careful with someone new they meet up with considering the consequences if they don't. But, when it gets to the point where they become paranoid, it ruins the evening and in my recent experience, wastes my time and money.
I met up with this girl last Thursday who probably was barely 20 years old. She asked me to bring a photo ID to which I replied I will bring my ID from work. I showed it to her and it wasn't good enough because it didn't have my address on it. I tried to hold in my laughter and didn't want to insult her intelligence by telling her companies (at least my company) don't print his or her addresses on IDs and showed her my driver's license instead. Even this wasn't good enough for her because the name on my work ID was my nickname and my driver's license had my birthname. Sort of like Tony/Anthony, William/Bill, Robert/Bob.
Then as I disrobed, she commented me on my body and looks telling me I was too good to be true. I exercise a lot and she wasn't the first girl to tell me that, even though no one ever said it to the extent to which she did. So, I was getting the impression she didn't think I was legitimate.
She started to give me a hint of what I had read about her in reviews but after a few minutes she stopped what she was doing and said let me hang up your jacket. I couldn't believe she did that after we got started instead of before. When she got back, she was gently caressing my legs displaying none of the skills I had read about. I was rubbing my hand on her back when I told her she had soft skin just like a girl should. She asked me if I would say the same thing if she wasn't a girl. I was shocked by this, didn't really want her to elaborate but I did push back on her to explain. She got defensive and I was hestitant to find out because of what the answer might be. She hadn't taken her clothes off yet, so naturally I thought the worse. Suddenly she said lets go to the bar down the street and have a few drinks first. I told her that's not what I had planned and didn't have much cash with me. She said she would pay and I agreed but was thinking how I could wiggle my way out of this mess.
She started to get dress, put makeup on, etc. When she finished, she told me she didn't want us to leave together and to call her from the street. Right there, I knew she was going to blow me off for good and figured I could finally get out of this with my dignity still intact. But, being the nice guy I am, I called her with the sole purpose to tell her let's forget it and when she picked up the phone and I told her it was me, she hung up. Fed up with enough bs to last an eternity, I headed home.
Driving home, the only thing I could think of was how I was going to write up my review of her here. As someone who likes to leave no stone unturned, I sent her an email the next day telling her she owed me an explanation and I was only going to ask once because after this email I would have said all I want and need to say to her. I also told her I was going to write a review of her on TER mentioning the part about her maybe being a guy at one time unless she gave me an explanation. She never replied back and apparently had no objections to what was going to be written.
I put my experience with her on the NY discussion board to warn others. One guy who was with her didn't think she was a guy. Another guy regretted that he was with her. Plus, one guy showed her picture to someone who can tell those things and that person thought she was a guy at one time. For me, I was iffy but am glad I didn't do anything extreme. All I got was a covered, 2 minute bj.
So, do you think someone can become so paranoid with who they were with that they would go to all the trouble to say they were a different gender at one time? I wasn't really sure what to make of this since I didn't do anything different with her than anyone else I was with where I had no problems whatsoever.
Sorry I rambled on, but I just had to vent.
ps - I guess the next provider I contact, I'll have to make sure commone sense and intelligence is part of their makeup.
It took me awhile when reading your post as to what exactly you were getting at, but now I see you're more than justified need to ramble on about this experience. I don't think it's right that any gentleman be caught off guard such as you were. Providers should be honest - ESPECIALLY when it comes to issues such as gender. You have reason to be upset, I definately would be if I were in your situation... but then again - I love men AND women [wink].
especially when you don't know what's inside the book. Telling me something like that was really stupid on her part. Unfortunately for her, I was looking for someone to hang out with maybe once a week through the summer. Think of the lost revenue from me, not to mention guys who read my post on the NY board who hadn't been with her or any guy who was and won't make a return visit. For lack of a better word, she blew it.
That is a very interesting and strange story.
Stephen King could write a novella about it, except he is more interested in farts and Bic lighter ignition.
You did the right thing IMHO, but a little late.
It's best to hang on to the $$ until you're sure you want to stay.
I think you need to spend a lot of time on research before you venture out again to find someone with whom to hang.
It's all in the TER reviews.
Sometimes I put $50 down and show the rest, and once I decided to leave when it got weird with a chick who was on something.
You should provide an URL, a link so that independent thinkers can bring up her page and speculate on whether she has a dick or not. The Asia I found on Eros-NY looked 90% dickless, but you never know. She'd have to be an idiot to be surprising guys since she's little and we are big. There are enough homophobes out there that she could get hurt.
Good luck at finding a dickless hottie.
There are only a few hundred in Manhattan.
I had never given her my money. So, I left there not poorer but puzzled. When I read her reviews, other guys had given her their money first and then the fun started. Not doing that might have raised her suspicion coupled with the ID problem she had. Plus, when she commented I was too good to be true she didn't think I should be doing this compared to who else she was with. Her telling me that was probably a little too good to be true itself. I kind of got pissed thinking she was all over guys who were old, out-of-shape, unattractive but she barely touched me. I try to make a habit of not taking what they say too seriously but in this case, I did.
Other guys who were with her went the distance and it wasn't like she had something to hide under her nightie even though I never saw the promised land. But, she made it sound like she wasn't always a girl and was trying her best to get me to leave whether it be on my own or in her own way; hence the let's go out and have some drinks first after we sort of started.
I contacted her based on 4 reviews and was waiting for this wild girl to take over and she acted like I had the plague. If she was trying to get me to leave, she sure picked a strange way of doing it by raising my suspicion about her gender. And I sent her an email telling her about TER and she never replied. Since that, there's only been 1 review and it probably took place the same day or day after my encounter with her.
Yes it was strange, and without knowing what happened, I can only speculate on what I saw and heard.
I would love to hear some ladies opinion's on this.
Sorry to hear your terrible experience and it is great that you are sharing this with the boards so guys and gals can figure out and prevent this type of thing repeating in future. It seems like you are very much bothered by this. Hope my 2 cents can make you and other guys who've seen her feel better. I happened to be at my client's place and using his login info to join the discusion.
First of all, I agree with Spermbomber's observation. From Asia's pics on Eros-NY, her hands and feet are small. You also said her boobs are only A cup and saggy. TS usually have implants and they are usually large, C cup at least. I don't know Asia and I don't gain anything by defending her since I'm based in LA. I just hope other guys who've seen her could feel better by less doubting that they've unknowingly been with a TS. The fact that you did NOT put the donation on the table first set the tone for the whole show. She has reasons to relate fit guys to LE. ID is not necessarily enough if she wants to stay unharmed. The fact she still performed a bit on you without any compensation is an insult to her so she migth be justifiably pissed and that's why she hung up on you when she got a chance. I think you two are even. No need to mope around. What da ya say? Cheer up and enjoy your next encounter! 
Elysina
I brought this experience forward because I felt it was my obligation to do so. It was strange and I certainly wasn’t pleased with the outcome. Since I left with questions unanswered, I thought others could share their opinions.
I never thought she was a TS because other guys were with her and had intercourse. One thing I noticed about her pictures on Eros. There are three of them. The first and third pictures look the same with reddish/brown hair. The second picture looks like she has black hair. The girl I met had reddish/brown hair. One of the reviewers said she had black hair and she definitely didn’t have that when I was there. So, did he meet up another girl and are the pictures of two different girls? Who knows? If she was paranoid, don’t you think asking me if I thought she might not be a girl a really strange excuse to give? Apparently she doesn’t have a better-prepared excuse to use. I did not know if she was a guy at one time and had a sex change. I said what I said because that’s what happened, as strange as it might seem.
I did not put the donation on the table because she didn’t ask for it. Everything I do, I do based on what they say and do. If they ask for it before we start, I give it to them by placing it on a table. If they don’t ask for it beforehand, then I give it to them afterwards. The last two girls I was with didn’t ask for it in the beginning and I gave it to them after we were done and had a good time with both. When she hung up my jacket, my envelope was in the inside pocket of my jacket. I saw it sticking out and she saw it too and commented that I had an envelope.
Where is it written that fit guys are LE? Does that mean any guy who has some semblance of being in shape is going to come under the same suspicion she had with me? I don’t know any cops in NY, but in all the times I’ve seen them, believe me, there are more that are out-of-shape then the other way around. Lately cops are more prevalent with all that’s happened in NY since 9/11 and what’s going on in Iraq now and they are more concerned with protecting the citizens of NY than busting some $250 an hour escort.
This girl was young and not too wise to the ways of the world. She actually thought I was a southerner because she said I had a southern accent on the phone despite the fact I have lived in NJ all my life and have a NJ accent, if there is such a thing. One thing I don’t have is an obvious southern accent.
I just think she was too paranoid, made some errors in judgement and it cost her. And that was the whole point of my post. Where does one draw the line with being careful and too paranoid?
that is not cool at all.
So many providers have good business practices, others well a cash and dash.
Research, research, research.
Shaye
