......there are the ladies who sit back and wait and allow you to make the move because they are just not all that into the kissing aspect.

But then there are the minority of great providers who either seem to enjoy the intimacy that kissing allows or are great actresses.

They don't sit and wait for you to make a move but actually grab hold of you and plant a warm wet one on you on an equal basis throughout the time you spend together.

I'll never forget the provider that told me " It just isn't great sex without a lot of passionate kissing ".

1) She is not a clock-watcher and her only rules are cleanliness and respect for boundaries.

2) She treats you like a person and not the next guy. Her repertoire is genuine, not fake and over-the-top.

3) She minimizes distractions (no TVs, phones, and pimps waiting in the wings).

4) She gets into the session and doesn't have a mechanical way to coax your love butter into the sleeve.

5) She treats you like someone she wants to return.

6) The session is the aphrodisiac and the money an after thought.

I'm sure this varies based on client's individual preferences, but for me:

1) Overall attitude/approach that exhibits "I LOVE sex and am enjoying this every bit as much as you are" on the part of the provider

2) Removing her clothes and/or my clothes hurriedly (or sensually seductively), like "OMG I can't wait!"

3) bbbj given with passion and "hunger"

4) Genuine enthusiasm, vocalization, aggressiveness... switching positions, suggesting, participating, rather than just passively following along...

the day i get there, she looks great, does exactly the right thing at the right time and it seems like i knew her in another life, all of which differ depending on mood (and i'm a moody bastard), will be the day of the most erotic session.  must be hard to be a provider.

Now you're calling me a provider?

If I wasn't in such great company, that might hurt my feelers....lmao!!!

You get the best of all worlds!

You got the lube. You got the friction. You got the snack when you DATY.

WTF else could you possibly want?

"there are the ladies who sit back and wait and allow you to make the move "

 If you are visiting a provider and the guy doesn't make the first move,it's not her fault.
If she's smart she will talk until he works up his nerve.
Until she knows your style,she can not tell what will make you smile.
Some guys would be horrified, if she seduced him jumped ,without romance..
Not speaking of horny mutts or male sluts.

Btw, this discussion is in no way unique to sessions and providers.  Everything that everyone has said here applies equally to civvie sex.  And the most erotic civvie girls (in my experience) are always the ones who have confidence and know themselves well enough to very specifically direct the action (not necessarily through words) to maximize their own pleasure.

A girl who is confident enough to say, "Let's do *this*.  It makes me cum," pretty much pegs my erotic-meter.

VERY well said, and I can only hope my"friends" have thought all of these things about me

For me, the less "generic" the session, the more erotic and memorable. Providers who tease and convince me to try new things, for example, are ones I've always remembered. Sometimes it's a little thing (like pulling hair or biting nipples), other times it might be challenging a much larger taboo. This is especially true if I repeat.

My ATF makes me feel like she is genuinely passionate about being with me.  Our sessions are more like intense love-making than pay for play.  There is both passion and intimacy, and it seems real.