Based on the fifth thread down and since we're voting on the type of BBBJs we like, ladies please tell us how you like to recieve DATY

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With 5 Franklins.

That is exactly how I do it! I'll throw in a Coolatta if you make enough noise...

It's like asking Pincas Zuckerman to tell you how to play the violin.

It's lame. The ladies will tell you the same. SAD!
If you can't maintain an erection, don't kid yourself the providers think you are a maestro because your tongue can move, but your cock can't.
Just being honest.

Words of wisdom. . .

I think no replies by ladies proves your point, lol.

2002 Bernardus Rosella's Vineyard Santa Lucia Highlands Pinot Noir ($50)
With your mind ticking off "Write this in Review":
Baking spice, soy sauce, earth, black cherry, cassis and spice aromas are intriguing; the palate is packed with ripe red fruit, rhubarb and mushroom, backed by mouthwatering acidity.

Then giving me a diet Coke. Warm.
Damn, thats a let down.


-- Modified on 5/13/2008 11:43:44 PM

first start off very slow, like its a scared kitty you're sneaking up to.

just some small licks please
then you can increase pressure when i start wiggling.

i also like a guy to hum while he does this but not off tune or loudly, just so i can feel the vibrations. this actually drives me nutso.

do not suck on my clit.
not at all.
dont suck on anything down there.

lick lick lick
thats all.

do not like shake your head back and forth like you are a dog with fresh kill.

if you have stubble on your face, try not to move your head at all or you will scrape the skin off my hammer and put me out of commission for a week..

just lick.. move your tongue around.
its very easy.
you guys think its complicated and its not.
dont POKE my clit with your tongue.
lick it.

do not go mining for gold by trying to stick your arm elbow deep inside of me. there is no gold in there.

just lick and hum
lick lick lick
the slower the better.

if you use too much pressure on me i'll pull away... if you do it too soft i'll pull you closer.. you can decide which you would rather me do.  .... do not think i am pulling away from you because i am about to cum, that is retarded... i am pulling away from you because what you are doing is uncomfortable for me and i dont like it and im trying to get away so stop it.

when i'm about to cum and you will know this by my increased breathing and moaning, i am more likely to be pulling you closer but do not change anything you are doing in any way.
dont go faster
dont go harder

just stay the exact same.. you are making me cum doing what you are doing dammit so dont change it now PLEASE

and i'm very very sensitive afterwards so please dont try to stay in there ... i am so scared i'm going to really hurt someone... i spasm uncontrollably... please get out while you still can, i hate it when i have to gouge a guy eyes out in order to save him from getting kicked in the head.

I've thought of humming to cause vibration, but it seems ridiculous. It's interesting to read that someone likes it.

Any particular song?

I really only like DATY as a preliminary to Greek.
I like my clit licked while being fingered in the ass with LOTS of lube.
Use more lube and gently and slowly add the second finger. Gently and slowly add the third finger after a while or when I tell you to always using motre and more lube.
Then we can move on to Greek.
I like to be fingered while I hold my vibrator to my clit. That is my version of DATY. I prefer to suck your cock so I really never want DATY but I am willing to fake it for you so I can get back to sucking your cock.
But if you must DATY you should be very closely shaved, I always have razors or maybe you can bring your electric.
Try not to press your mouth against my pussy very much and lick SLOWLY and gently on my clit or suck gently on my clit. NO SIDE TO SIDE. I hate that.
I do love to have my clit licked while inserting too many fingers or a huge dildo but that is just when I get in a really kinky mood.
  I like gangbang movies and can let you DATY while watching porn if you bring one I will probably get really crazy.
I also like Eastern European porn.

what the heck is up with the obsession around here with DATY recently?? believe it or not, it's not something all women enjoy or desire, and even of those who do, i'm sure it's not something they necessarily desire with/from a client.

also, as has been mentioned, we erotic companions are basically paid to please YOU...so why the concern over or interest in licking the girlie bits??

I like to DATY.  and while I may not be great at it - I have been told that I am enthusiastic about it... and that seems to count for something.... as to the other part of your assertion... sometimes we all have a little problem - but know what, there are times when pounding away is good too.  and as long as we are being honest here.... I have found that IF I get into a good DATY session, and the lady appreciates it (or at least pretends to enjoy) Mr Woody gets a bit more enthusiastic about getting in there too...

just don't get it, there are those who seem to think that the best way to enjoy a session is to "Be serviced"  while there are others (myself included) who like to at least for an hour or two or three -- pretend that this georgous sexy enthusiastic woman in front of them loves them and wants to have wild crazy sex with them - for them...

And yea, I know it is a fantasy - but for me - that IS the fantasy....

yea dude... you might as well just buy a fleshlight and be done with it... you'll save a bundle....  I suppose that you don't want the lady to talk to you either.

is my dog has fleas... Bwahahahaha... made ya look.

Thanks for your eloquent response.

The other night I was with a stripper... she is someone who had gone the single dance with - even gone to the champagne court with, but she had made it clear that she wished to pleasure me immensely... I could not figure it out... until a few nights ago....

As I have FREQUENTLY mentioned - it is easy for a woman to fake an orgasm - by moaning or even by "twitching" it is MUCH harder to spontaneously "cum" or get a light spontaneous sweat "all over thier body" or get goose bumps...

Anyway, she requests on this night that we go to the Champagne room... and I say ok.... We get in there and she very quickly lets me know she is there for kicks... she immediately goes down on me member... and gives a quick but pleasant BBBJ.  this is followed by her spitting on her hand and continuing a nice hand job...   I insist on DATY and she obliges by positioning herself so that I can partake... well.... she says, I gotta please you, and she proceeds to rub junior against her pussy, and continue the HJ.  as she gets more and more into the HJ, I start to cum.... and she softly moans... and then, she breaks out in a light sweat -  yup... she gets off on that!  she loves and takes great pleasure in getting a man off....

for me - DATY is more like my ultimate way of pleasuring a woman... it is a way of making love to her, without the need for me to be satisfied... I love caressing a woman, smelling her, taking her in - as it were.... and if and when she cums... it provides me with a stimulus to partake of her charms... in a way that sets the act apart, it provides a completeness....

There is one woman who breaks all my rules in my hometown... she says little - and I DO enjoy that banter with providers... it makes the session more like my fantasy... but her body SHOUTS volumes... she shudders, her eyes roll back into her sockets... and her abdominal muscles (and she is muscular) contract and her PC muscles grip you like there is no tomorrow... You know, she enjoys what she does... there is no question... and you leave - well, satisfied beyond comparison... but she says little...  

for me, the mutual satisfaction of the session is the "Sweet spot" of the hobby.... and that does not always include the sex.... sometimes it is the friendship and companionship that I pay for as well... and in that sense the term/label "escort" is highly accurate... and anything that happens behind closed doors between two consenting adults.... well, is just that.... between two consenting adults.

and leaving.  When I entered the hobby, I thought that it would be all about pleasing the man, making him cum and getting paid (for my time).  Luckily for me, I found out rather quickly that for the friends I have seen, the GFE is about mutual satisfaction. Our time together is spent getting to know each other's bodies, kissing, fondling, love making (yes, in some cases it is) and down right, up against the wall, wild sex. I can say that 99% of the friends I have met wanted to please me as much or more than I did them.  Makes me wonder why I didn't start sooner!  LOL

Kari

I like when a man begins by sucking my nipples and slowly travels down my stomach heading to my sweet spot.

Slowly take my clit in your mouth, flicking your tongue up and down while gently sucking.
As you feel me swell, begin licking faster and slightly harder.
When you feel me getting wetter and wetter, slowly insert two fingers into me. Curve the fingers into a "c" and make a "come hither" move.
Make sure you wear goggles at this point as I am sure to squirt all over your face, neck, and body!

Damm!  I need to go get my "friend" out of the drawer and relieve some pressure!

Kari

So for this population of gents, refraining as you suggest, is diminishing their own pleasure.
Many guys in fact refrain from seeing a provider if her profile clearly indicates that DATY is not an option...  

Now to the extent that some of these same DATY fans also feel that the experience is enhanced if the lady enjoys his efforts then the posed thread question is an understandable curiosity.





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Doing my very best to see that the lady is pleased is very, very important to me. It makes my fantasy a lot more complete. I absolutely love giving oral.

surfing all those videos, and gettin hornier by the minute. LOL

I'm a baaaaaaaaad girl. Didn't even need a vibe to get off. hehehehe

xoxo
Lusty

I also  have been extremely surprised at how awesome it can be even from a guy who is inexperienced.
You just never know what can happen. Sometimes the chemistry is just there and somehow he hits  all the right places like magic.
If a guy is going to become more confident and experienced it makes sense that he will experiment on you rather than women in his daily life.

  It is easier to let down your guard and admit what you really like and want with someone you don't have to look at from day to day.
  Some of us become shy and embarrassed when we are with civvies.

 If you don't like it maybe you should learn to like and act like you like it.
 He may get so turned on that the session is great for both of you.
 I only meet one or maybe two people that I do not enjoy a year.
    In the DC area the guys are really good at doing what they are asked so speak up and tell them what feels good. Ask them what they did when it does feel good.
  Give them a chance to at least try it. If he isn't hurting you then just fake an orgasms and tell him it's his turn.
 If you have been in a long enough relationship then surely you have had to fake it now and then. LOL

 

But I, and many other guys out there do like to dine on your girlie bits.  I know you are basically there to please your client, but maybe letting him DATY is also considered by him to be pleasing.  It is for me.

I have yet to be not allowed to dine, and all the ladies I have been with seemed to like it.  If they didn't, they never told me.  I also like the lady I am with to be pleasured, that is also pleasure for me, knowing that I made her feel good, too.

Swim

It's quite clear, from the wide range of responses by the ladies, regarding what they experience as pleasurable, that the guys, if they want to experience the level of intimacy that mutual pleasuring brings, are aided by having a "learners mind." In this context learning is indeed fun, and of course very, very pleasurable.

anagangbang in her post is adamant: "lick, lick, lick. Don't suck. Lick"

Now you say "Slowly take my clit in your mouth, flicking your tongue up and down while gently sucking."

What's a poor guy s'posed to do? Ask for directions? We don't do that.

do guys with BJ preferences (eg. hands vs. no-hands, ball play or not, covered or not, slow vs. fast, head play or not, licking, sucking, etc. etc.)

The best any of us can do is to let our partner know (either implicitly or explicitly) what we like best.  It's ridiculous to think that one style fits all...

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i dont know any girl that likes to have her clit sucked on or your arm elbow deep or her skin scraped off by your facial stubble.

also, if you go softly and just lick, you wont hurt anyone...

you might not be doing exactly what she wants but you wont be doing what she doesnt want.

if she likes it rougher, she can tell you.
and wouldnt you rather hear a woman have a woman pulling you closer than pulling away ?

you can never be too gentle and if you are, you'll still be pleased with her reaction.


i stand corrected, kari likes hers to be sucked on.

that hurts me.

so its still better to not do it and have a girl tell you to do it... then do it and hurt a girl.

the less you do, the better... the less you do, the more we want you to do.

always make a woman want more, not less



-- Modified on 5/14/2008 2:46:09 PM

And I, for one, don't mind at all taking directions. If it's going to teach me a bit more about pleasing the lady I am with, I'm all for it. Having had a sex life (before the hobby) that was both incredibly ordinary, and amazingly average, I'm more than happy to have the lady tell me what she likes, and how she likes it done. Learning is wonderful, and who better to teach me about girlie parts than girlies.

well, get Viagra cuz some of like penetration or bbj for satisfaction!!

Several of the things that Ana mentioned are great and right on the button!  However, every woman is different. Some men forget this sometimes.

For me:  Start out slow, even suck in the creases on the legs where they meet my flower.

Please don't keep tickling my pee-pee. Some men must think that this is the clitoris. It isn't. Get an anatomy book, read it and view the pics.

If you have a scratchy mustache or beard, it hurts like hell. Shave it or only lick it gently. Personally, most women like clean-shaven men these days and it's more hygenic to shave. It also feels much better when eating pussy. I really don't know why men even grow mustaches or beards anymore.

A lot of men also like to insert their fingers while licking -- please don't with me. It clearly states on my website not to, but they do it anyway. Geesh! I usually get infections from men's dirty fingers and nails (no matter how hard you try to clean them, you're not a doctor). I don't want to take a week off with a paintful infection, taking medicine and missing out on other dates because of you. Now, some women like fingers. I used to, but now just the tongue, please. Always ask first. This is my biggest pet peeve.

Change it up a bit. You don't have to keep on the same area, unless I am moaning and telling you to continue there. I also like a little light sucking. When I am feeling good I will tell you, but it never fails that men switch to something else when what they're doing was getting me wet and close. If I am breathing heavy and telling you, "That's it. Right there," how come some guys want to do something different? We don't need to prolong our orgasms, okay. That is frustrating. I'd rather not get close at all.

The best piece of advice I can give is to ask, ask, ask. Never assume. Oral: I love it, love it, love it!

Hugs,
Ciara




-- Modified on 5/14/2008 3:19:47 PM

I HAVE been with women that
1) loved to have her clit sucked on and
2) another who couldn't get enough of my appendages inserted and
3) yet another who went wild when my upper check stubble skin scraped not just her thighs but also her labia.

I agree with you in principal, but it's also important to pay attention to the moment and make adjustments as I go. Your recommendation to start slow and work up to the required level of energy is the best advice yet.

BTW, how do you like it if I stop or slow way down as your getting close, and then resume the build up, over and over again? Does that do anything for you?


-- Modified on 5/14/2008 4:17:24 PM

means giving as much (or more)than I get.  Yes, it turns me on to pleasure her.
 
I alternate between licking & flicking...  but I'm not in charge.  I always let her guide me by how she moves her hips to what & where she wants me.  If she wants more she moves toward me, when she wants a break, she moves away.  Sometimes I'll help hold her hips up or a leg but I'm assisting, she's controlling.  In the end, I'll lie between her legs, my head on her tummy while she comes down...  and then...    

I'll just say my Fav ladies have said things which show they appreciate what I do for them...  and I am amply rewarded.  
skb

i agree that those of us who are passionate about this hobby find mutual fulfillment, companionship, even friendship within. i am quite close to most of my clients...spending hours just shooting the breeze on the phone, commiserating with them and sometimes advising them on personal issues, sometimes even enjoying a nice "off the clock" lunch or trip to the park. very few escorts have such intimate relationships with the men they see, but for me it just comes naturally and i wouldn't have it any other way.

with that said, for me pleasing a man to the utmost of my abilities (and his desires) is totally and completely satisfying. i do not need or desire anything else. but i am a submissive and so my pleasure comes from serving. when a man comes to me for the first time and realizes that he has the freedom (perhaps a freedom he's never experienced before) to be totally selfish and just enjoy being served and worshipped, by someone who is passionate about it and enjoys it to the utmost, i think they can't believe their luck. i like being challenged, being pushed, as it only makes the end result (his satisfaction) all the more valuable.

so yes, i do believe in the GFE, as that is the sort of service i provide. but from the standpoint of a submissive lover who wishes to obey your every command and desire, not of the typical vanilla partner who wants to "get hers."
but the wonderful thing about this hobby, is that there is endless variety and a place for every taste and personality type.

But the BS is the same...

Just goes to show that there is something (or someone) for everyone here.

Still, I enjoy DATY with women that truly enjoy it. If she doesn't enjoy it or feels she has to fake it, well then I'd rather not do it, or I'd rather be with someone else, someone like YOU.

"That worked"
skb

...i never fake anything in either my hobby or civie life, haven't done so since my clueless college days. it reached the point where i just decided that i wanted to live an authentic life, so that is what my clients get from me...honesty and sincerity.

but it must be understood that i am not the typical type of provider. i provide a submissive GFE, and those who choose to see me understand this and are seeking that unique experience. they want to be pampered, respected, worshipped, and to be able to release that raw primal Beast within. they are not looking for a seductress or for someone that they can bring to orgasm again and again...if such a person somehow slips through during the getting-to-know-you process, they quickly see that they cannot "convert" me and the first meeting will be the last.

still i do have some that enjoy DATY, and they will do it with the full knowledge and understanding that it's not something i enjoy or am comfortable with. they do not do it in attempt to please, they do it simply because they wish to devour a female. if a man is doing something for his own pleasure solely, i do not object to that and consider it simply another aspect of service to have to bear the things i may not like. nothing wrong with that at all imo, that is what i am here for after all.

and I don't need Viagra.

Ana -

Just read the online guides to DATY.

Variation, variation, variation. We are told 97 ways from Sunday that if we just keeping doing the same thing, that part of the female will get numb. So we're supposed to lick the alphabet, vary the rhythm, this and that. Never give her the same thing for very long.

So why do guys change up just when it's getting good? Because we are told to, that's why.

I would guess about 1/3rd to 1/2 of providers have hsve actually liked it.

I just hum without a song, as the one time I tried "The Star-Spangled Banner" the lady started to laugh so much we had to start all over..

Micromanagement seems to be a female specialty and is the major reason you can't enjoy much and are frigid.

If men had this many stipulations going on in their heads during sex they'd lose their erections.

Frigid????   hee hee!  Seriously dude... Once I saw Ciara, I was immediately head over heels in luv!  but passion????   the lady has passion.

As for micromanagement... Dude, I've my little things as well - smell is one of them... I am very sensitive to some smells in the bedroom, I also have a thing for what I like a lady to say... the temperature of the room, and many many other things... And yes, I do control them...

But I can tell you that Ciara...rescued a session with me once... I became ill on one occasion with her (the drive and the excitement of seeing her combined)... she not only nursed me back to health, but made a great session out of the night!  That - takes passion.