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MegaHurts 7041 reads
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But since you bring it up, I'll admit that I'm offended by her assertion that I'm too stupid or otherwise incompetent to get a condom from the store to her place intact.  Somehow, only she posesses the intelligence to perform this difficult task.  And this is all too frequently the subtext that runs through so many of her posts IMHO.  So maybe I am reacting to that on an unconscious level, and I'm willing to apologize if I am.  But when I reread my post, I don't see it.  

I go to a great deal of trouble to find and purchase the condoms that fit and work for me.  If I have to keep mine in my pocket so that I can make a forced choice among the brands she offers, then yes, I think that is unecessarily controlling behavior.  Why should I trust my safety to HER.  I don't know where HERS have been either.  Maybe she has a cat that chews them when she's in the shower.  Doesn't this work both ways?   I have no reason to trust her anymore than she does me.  

More importantly, why should my safety be subordinate to hers? Yet the assumption seems to be that the provider must be right and the client wrong.  What is basis for this?  I've known escorts who were irresponsible and I've known some that were brilliant women.  But the bottom line remains, I'm just as concerned about taking personal responsibility for my own well-being as she is.  Why should I turn over that over to her or anyone else?   Why would you suggest that course of action is preferable to me taking that responsibility upon myself?  I was buying, storing and using condoms before she was born, am I suddenly incapable,or does her being an escort impart unto her some special knowledge.

And please don't suggest I'm not taking the health and well-being of the woman seriously.  I've offered to show every escort I've been with a current AIDS tests before a first session.  None has ever responded in kind.  

-- Modified on 7/24/2001 6:47:06 PM

FILMHITS9649 reads

How do you ladies feel about  hobbyists  bringing along his favorite condoms.I enjoy a particular   type, and dont expect   the provider to have a vast array  of selection  readily available.

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Cyclona7313 reads

Unless a gentleman is so well endowed that he must have his condoms specially made (which I‘ve never seen--but I would allow for the exception,)  I would hope that he would be willing to use one from my supply. (I do keep more than one kind.) It may sound overly cautious, but: I know that my condoms are stored in an environment that won’t weaken the latex--and were not kept in a wallet, vehicle, etc prior to use. I also check my brands against one of the handy little condom test-results charts that are released yearly--so I know that I have not inadvertently chosen a type that is more likely to break. Occasionally, even major manufacturers recall certain lots of condoms, though I have never heard the 5 o’clock news pass on such info--and I know that I do my best to make sure the ones in my collection aren’t on the list. Also, many ladies find that the lubricants added to certain condoms are very irritating (especially non-oxidol 9, but some others as well,) which would really spoil the event altogether.

If not for these concerns, I’d have no problem abiding by the gentleman’s choice. But, for the above stated reasons, it maintains my  peace of mind if I always make use of my own supply.

-- Modified on 7/23/2001 12:50:57 AM

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MegaHurts9860 reads

I used to date a self-confessed control freak, but she's looking pretty mellow in retrospect.  

We love you Perspicacity, but it must be a lot of work being you.  :-)

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Cyclona10633 reads

My definition does not include someone who insists on the observance those things that may potentially influence the well-being of both parties, as well as her own physical comfort.

To date, I have never had one break--or had any apparent failures while following the manner in which I see fit to do things; if the price I must pay for this is being accused of having `control issues’--such a label is definitely a preferable alternative (for me, at least) than knowing I am not doing whatever I can to prevent any potential mishaps.

I suppose that thinking in this manner is a lot of work...unfortunately, I cannot be any other way. It would be quite liberating to not even be concerned with such things, though. Maybe someday I'll learn how to forget those little details:)

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EroticExplorer8248 reads

have the considerate people gone?

Sometimes I wonder... with increasing frequency.

Here's the simple solution:

If you have a favorite, ask her to carry it.

EE

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MegaHurts6709 reads

there are two perspectives that need to be considered.  I think they are both valid.  

I apologize if any of my comments were viewed as personal, I only want to debate ideas and facts- not personalities and emotions.

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brightone8983 reads

personally i use my own. I have had clients bring their own ultra ultra microthin Japanese condoms and I won't use them. They just don't seem strong enough.  
I guess what it ultimately comes down to for me is it's my body so if  i don't feel comfortable i just pass. no amount of money is worth more than my peace of mind.
I'm sure that there are some providers that won't have a problem with you using your own but i guess you can ask before you go if you can bring and use your own stuff (hopefuly they'll know what you're talking about). By the way, AIDS test don't mean much considering it takes months after initial infection for a accurate test(isn't that maybe how it broke out in the porn industry?)
anyway good luck

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MrMobius8473 reads

Haven't you and your friend/alter ego had enough fun for one week?  I think she already made her point in this thread (you should listen to her, she seems really smart).  

I thought turning things upon themselves was supposed to be my specialty, but you two have done a commendable job.

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Cyclona8896 reads

So how could you have a `specialty,' at all? Or is that you again Megahurtzs/NOTDEDYET/TRIKYDIK/AverageMale or whatever alias you might be using today?

No, Brightone and I are not the same person. I know you don't care much for me--but this use of aliases to `gang up' on me is really sad, mean, and unnecessary.

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girlie8129 reads

Mr. MObius,
I don't understand why you seem to be so bitter and mean. I too have followed your aliasas and mean spirited comments and truly think that you don't deserve to be on this board at all.  If you don't have anything nice to say, then shut the **** up.

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