Lets say one of your clients is polish! He is in his thirties and has a business and is very busy and just doesnt have time to gou out and find a girlfriend. He has seen you five times and tells you that you are more like a friend to him now and it difficult for him to see you anymore and says its better if we dont see each other because its just feels wrong!

But he has an idea! He likes american woman, he is looking for a real relationship and he suggests that if you can set him up on a real date with one of your friends (doesnt have to be a provider)
he is going to give you a bonus!

If she is provider and she has just started because she has no family in the states and she has to do it to survive BUT doesnt really want to work as a provider but has no choice .... he doesnt have problems helping her so that she doesnt have to do it!!!

Lets say you like this guy as a client....what would you do in this situation?????

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I would refrain from acting as a matchmaker with my personal friends. I would also refer him to another provider, since he has expressed his desire not to partake of your professional services anymore.

I think most statistics demonstrate hobbyist are not that different from general public ...  If he feels like  a friend towards you, this seems to be a reasonable request, why the alarm?

Seems like the rational approach would be you would ask him to take you out on lunch or dinner, and other social occassions so you woulld know him better.  If on these occassions, you sense he is a normal person, why not introduce him to one of your friends?  I live in San Diego, I can vouch there is a major supply of women here, but of course for some of us married, there are constraints! So who knows,  you could be doing a favor for your friend!

I would politely decline.  I mean, how involved do you want to get in this person's life?  And he'll pay you to find him a woman to go out with?  How would your "friend" (the woman) feel about that, or the whole situation?

I'd refer him to either another provider or a dating service.

-Anya

Sounds like maybe he likes you . . . a lot!

Also sounds like he may be feeling like he is "dishonouring" you in your current arrangement.  He may be sounding you out about exclusivity, he may not want to share you. Men's definition of "friend" varies widely but tends to be a lot different than women's.

Question is how do you really feel about him?  Client, friend or possibly more.  If there is anything more than friend, you owe it to yourself, and him to say something.

HPG

Can we assume you are the Provider in this situation..??? If so, the premise behind the Hobby is allowing "EVERYONE" the option to have their needs met, However that happens and with whomever it happens. I don't understand Providers who won't recommend another Provider, for fear of loosing the client. Get over it..!!! It's not about you..!!!! If a client wants a  hairy midget, with a big pussy, that can sing "America the Beautiful" while he rolls hard-boiled eggs at her Pussy..then that's what he should have....Now if your tight, tall and allergic to eggs, what's the problem with sending him somewhere else to get his needs met...? If he offers to pay you a "Finders Fee" then that's just a Bonus...!!! He's told you he wants something else Sweetie...now it's all about service...help him find what he wants and keep him as a friend.....Just my opinion...Kisses Robyn

That's why I love you, Robyn!