Where are the rants you speak of from "TER men" that they shouldn't be screened? I am asking with all due respect Lexi. I don't ever remember seeing a thread like that here.

What, just because one or two black guys were bad dates you're going to ban seeing all black men?

Your statement about "the many have to pay for the sins of the few" only applies if your clientele decides to go along with your new stance on deposits.  

Question:   Is anyone whom is concerned about this "deposit issue"
aware  that some local and national Providers always require the  
entire donation upfront, or at the very least, a substantial deposit for
every meeting?   {said Providers whom label themselves as "exclusive"
at around $600+++/hour}.
 
They don't seem to be lacking in Clientele, and some of these very Clients,
are also "our" own personal Clientele......  Just a moment to ponder that.

Do you really think men only use one site???  Men that participate in this hobby almost all know and visit different sites about this lifestyle.

I expect screening but I go be on her add too  for example ask for a know picture.  

"specifically TER men?" Can you explain please?

What exactly does "specifically TER men" mean?

If the deposit thing catches on I may have to just stick with Sugar Babes.  

Some suckers, err I mean clients might go along with it for a while, but the first time they send a deposit to one of these women who refuse to be reviewed on TER or in any other way be held accountable for their actions and the girl ghosts on them, those guys will be right here again echoing the sentiments we have been preaching for twenty years here. No deposits, ONLY see "well reviewed TER providers" etc etc.

You can only state what you read on their site or what they tell you. Girls will bend and break their own rules and protocols when they see fit. Many women will say one thing publicly then do something completely different privately.

my TWO most recent indie references for screening.  A provider is free to ask either one if I have ever NCNS'd her.  If that assurance from a fellow hooker isn't good enough, then I cross her name off of my to-do list and contact the next name on the list.  

When TER went away and twitter became the new spot deposit talks picked up and started like a wild fire.

I simply provide ALL my "okays"  as references, A provider is free to ask anyone of dozens of providers who have Okay'd me anything they want about me. If that isn't good enough, I go to the next lady on my list as well.

a formal agreement.  I just tell them to include in their responsive email to me that they are in agreement to reciprocity on the cancellation policy, which I have already spelled out "with some degree of seriousness" in my response to their request for a deposit.   Granted, no takers so far.  

You know where they SAID they came from, at best, and that's if they even remember themselves and IF they are being 100% honest bc most guys don't give a shit about your advertising numbers/results as they just want to get over the screening process fast.

I’m with the deposit equals a “no go “ crowd. Too many variables to be sending traceable money for that. If I see a deposit is requested, I move on immediately. Just my 2 cents.

Who knows how long Twitter will allow escort activity if it becomes the preeminent escort networking site. Twitter is not immune from liability.

Those reasons can be personal and sometimes I don't want the lady to know. For example if I feel or sense an anti-Ter bias coming from the lady on twitter, or her board posts, I will make up anotherwebsite just to satisfy the question but not tell her the truth. Who wants to be ghosted for that? And then I may never know why she ghosted so its better off not telling the truth as it could jeopardize my date request with her.

leave!

I also had 2 NCNS in the last 2 weeks.  From fellas that I had met previously.  

First off, I am very sorry this happened to you and it is not acceptable. I just think that people are becoming more and more reliable and entitled... on both ends!
In the past year I have:
Paid a $1200 deposit to a well reviewed provider. I had seen her 4 times before. She canceled. I lost the deposit and stopped communicating with me.. So no, I will NEVER pay a deposit again. While I respect and understand your position, I have too many options outhere to gamble with my hard earned money.
Drove from Long Beach to LA on at least 3 occasions to end up with a no show or cancelation after the date was confirmed... 1.5 of traffic each way and hotel room ( in nice hotels, $400-$500 ) lost.  
Flew to Vegas twice JUST to see a lady. no showed once and canceled once 20 min after the date agreed time.
All of this probably cost me about 3k when all set and done.  
All I am saying is, while some of us might be real asshole, the sense of entitlement and lack of respect from some of the ladies, some well reviewed is also very shitty and will lead me to only see a few reliable friends.  
If you choose deposit only, I hope this works for you.

Now THAT is an attitude I can work with. I can completely agree that this is a two way street and that there is rudeness on BOTH sides, there are also a lot of very good and considerate people on both sides as well. The jerks seem to dominate the conversation however.

Do what you gotta do, but with the exception of 1 provider that I've followed on twitter for a while, I will never pay a deposit to someone I don't know. I've done that twice, and that was 2 times too many.

Lots of good points in this thread but I want to point out that respecting your potential clients goes a long way. I perused your web-site and you have threats of "blacklisting" and "losing deposits" all over the place. The way you write about your expectations are also, lack of a better term "bossy." My initial reaction after reading through your web-site was that if you are that threatening and harsh on your website language, will I have a pleasant interaction with you?  

Twitter is a USA based company publicly traded on the NYSE and answerable to USA law.   TER is (probably) a foreign owned company outside the immediate rule of USA law.  Those aren't comparable situations.   If the primary venue for escort activity coalesces around Twitter, expect the law enforcement arms to start making moves against Twitter.  If Twitter wants to protect their brand, they may restrict escort activity, as Deputy Fife would say, nip it, nip it in the bud.

I wonder if Lexi will now blacklist clients who leave the toilet seat up, don't put the donation in an envelope, or God forbid throw their clothes on the ground and not hang them on a hanger and put them in the closet.

Anonymous screening like P411 is the biggest risk I will take and is fine, but no way am I providing a deposit ever.  Cash is king here.  Even gift cards are traceable.  Besides, if I show up and the lady is not as advertised or we just don’t hit it off because we just don’t, I’m not going to incur the expense of a walk away.  There is a degree of trust involved in this and if you discount that, then I’m not interested.

Her site says she will blacklist anyone who reviews her. She uses TER to advertise but has a retaliatory no review policy.

Not just because you are about 6 weeks too old for me. lol but because you don't take short notice appointments. I too don't like my time wasted and to prevent this from happening I don't make appointments more than a day in advance at the longest. Yes, I realize that means that a LOT of TER providers most likely won't be seeing me, but like you I accept the trade off.  

At the rate she is losing and blacklisting clients, doubtful she'll be in business long without supplementing income with hanging out in bars or street walking, again.

Lexi, do you require deposits for ALL clients or just first-time clients? Because, at least two existing clients did NCNS, not new ones. Has a first time client ever bailed on you?

TER should find a way to point out on this website.  I realize you ladies have a way of blacklisting men.  But there should be a way you can take a hobbyist's TER I.D. info and simply post a one liner indicating he/she was a NCNS.  No more is needed, actually.  Would be very easy to detect a pattern and would require no subjective info that may prove sensitive, or controversial to hobbyists.

I understand completely the situation and have made the best efforts I can to show up for an appointment.  I have never not contacted a provider before a cancellation.  I fly through Chicago a great deal, and it is always a crap shoot if I will make it to my destination on time, or at all.  When providers call out loss of deposits or cancellations on the day of, I pass them by, particularly if I have to set the date on the night of arrival.   I cannot control the weather or the airlines, so give me a break.  Plus, I make it clear when booking that I am hostage to the travel Gods.  I do tend to offset with some form of compensation, gift card, etc when stuck or late.  

My Dr requires a deposit, so does my childcare, and why not me?  I have required deposits to book for almost 10 years now because I never have my time wasted. I am sorry that happened to you. No deposit=no booking & screening is for my safety it is my #1 priority.

First of all, I've never heard of a doctor requiring a deposit and most professionals don't either. You are also ignoring the fact that in an illegal business with not much accountability, there's a long history of guys getting ripped off when they send a deposit.
So I will simply avoid anyone who requires one.

My money, my rules.  

It would create a paper trail and thus you are placing not only yourself, but in turn every client who pays you that deposit, in increased legal jeopardy. Keeping it "simple", as you state, would mean no deposit. You are making it much more risky and complex by requiring one, but it is certainly right for you to handle your affairs any which way you wish, as it is our prerogative to tell others why it may not be right for them.

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It was there yesterday. She removed it.

I'm sure February will be a fabulous month for you with more clients than you'll know what to do with.  

Exactly, she saw aw all the negative feedback and edited her website.

That's certainly your choice to do.

So it would be impossible for me to pay a deposit. However, I did prepay once. One of my regulars had to postpone our appointment to go out of town for a family emergency. However,  she needed the donation to cover travel costs. So she swung by my house and picked up the donation, and then immediately left town. When she got back, we scheduled a new appointment and fucked each other's brains out.

I refuse to do deposits. Free market.

COMMON FUCKING SENSE is what stops me. lol

I wouldn't say that screening is necessarily a new things, maybe some have different methods outside of the normal P411 or employment, Id, reference.  I will say that I have seen an uptick in ladies requesting deposits and wanting their Uber/Lyft fees paid for outcalls, which TBH seems like GPS has set in.  To each his own, but I personally continue scrolling when I see a provider requires a deposit.  Those requests are normally followed by " I understand that life happens, but should you need to cancel within 24 hours a 50% fee will be charges, etc...."  I've heard too many stories about providers ghosting clients when it's the providers fault the session didn't take place.  I think the game is already lopsided enough in favor of the provider being that most prefer the money in an unsealed envelope which is counted and put away before the session even starts.  TBH unless said provider cares about her reputation, at that point you're at her mercy.  At the end of the day it's P4P, your time isn't anymore important than the client's and vice versa.

Im sorry this happened to you. I don’t think anyone in the ‘hobby’ has not experienced a NCNS if they’ve actually done this longer than a year, which is exactly why I would never pay a deposit, especially to someone I’ve never met. For the same reason the OP described, but from the opposite side of the fence. As a small business owner, I find it comical at times how escorts (another business really) feel entitled to guaranteed income based on an interaction with a potential customer.  

I charge a membership fee for all new members of my "bdsm club". It covers maintaining a play space with 5 themed rooms with equipment etc and I then know they have a little skin in the game and will probably show up. I seriously doubt that would fly for the escort side of things for shorter engagements if you want to make a high income, but I see plenty are doing it. I do charge 25% on longer engagements no matter the services or whether I know them or not because I have many 48 hour - up to a week sessions and tend to book out a couple of weeks. Everyone who knows me knows this, so rebooking it last minute is unlikely. I charge deposits for anyone under 30, because in my experience, they tend to chicken out more often and generationally they lack the etiquette of generations before them. I think if you are dealing with a reputable established provider and you are serious about seeing her for an extended engagement, a deposit isn't farfetched or out of line.  If you want a professional provider who deals with you in a professional manner, you should not be surprised when she treats this occupation as if she is running a business because SHE IS!