Ladies, do you consider dick-slapping, ass spanking/slapping during the act a bit degrading or insulting?

I never do it unless the girl asks me to. Even then it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable beating a lady's face with my sausage. Pre-cum sometimes splashes on to her face and hair and does look nice visually though. lmao  

A few have asked to slap her ass harder but I was getting concerned it will leave red marks and didn't spank too hard, only lightly.  

As for fingering, any cues on how this should be properly done... ladies?   Some seem to want more than one finger in the vagina and 'go much faster' and some times end up with a wound afterwords. So I always remember to keep my nail trimmed where isn't too sharp. Wouldn't want to slice or cut anything down there while digging in with the finger.

Hmm, come to think of it, I'm such a gentlemen. No wonder the ladies dig my ass, asking me to do ever kinkier stuff than they would normally allow.