I'm curious 🤨 on how you would feel if life happened and it altered your body, or mind?  

For example: A provider was injured and had a broken leg, or suffered a health issue.  

Would you, like to know these facts prior to booking?

Two years ago... I suffered a concussion 🤕 from a car accident. I told all my friends, sent refunds and rescheduled.

I had a girlfriend who worked in LV who had a broken leg & she refused to share that fun fact, and literally showed up on crutches 🩼 to her dates.

Would you be mad?  Do you think it warranted a discount? lol idk 🤷🏽‍♀️ lmk your thoughts? 💭  

Please & thank you!

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I've shown up to find a provider still in bandages from a recent boob job. That was probably my worst experience with this sort of thing, but also a few minor sports related injuries limiting the provider's available positions.  
In most cases I wouldn't cancel, but the client should be given the information. I can't image wanting to navigate around a cast.

I went to see one of my favorites. It had been a few months. She was now visibly pregnant. I personally have never found pregnant girls sexy, though I know some do. I went through with it simply because I liked her and didn't want her to think I found her unappealing. But I'd rather have had the chance to cancel in advance.

Broken bones with a cast:  Disclose
Non visible injury that prevents some positions:  Disclose
Jaw wired shut, so no BJ:   I kid, but, DISCLOSE

And, to the comment above.  Pregnant?  DISCLOSE DISCLOSE DISCLOSE.  I'm the father?  lose my number.

Whether there are limitations on our meeting. I don't need to know grainy medical details,  but I think it reasonable that I should know whether you can't do what's in your reviews. That could be anything from not being able to DFK (don't need to know whether it's recent dental surgery or you just bit your tongue), to not being able to stand or walk much (not interested whether it's an achy hip or a recent knee replacement).

 
Having said that,  I can only speak for myself, but I have no interest in seeing a lady who's heavily bandaged, in a cast or sling, or on crutches. The lady may think she can still operate at near the 100%, but I will not be able to ignore these.  I'd be happy to wait until the lady is healed.

and saying he'll pay the balance next week.

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Your title, yes. But there is no next week lol. She’s not coming back with a healed leg.

that would bother me are fake photos.   There is a workaround for anything else.  

After showing up a provider informed me she just had implants. Her breasts were sore and she had a bandage on one nipple. I couldnt touch them which actually was ok because they were quite unappealing. Stretched balloons. She ruined her looks. 🤷‍♂️

I was booked to see Aurora Snow. Popular porn star and a high ranking in thee ol spank bank.  

She informed me about a week before our booking that she had torn her butthole in a gang bang scene and would not be able to go greek but was willing to still provide a great session.

Greek with aurora is what dreams are made of though. So i told her to contact me when she felt comfortable and later that day...sent over the full booking $$$$$.  

The perks she gave me a few months later were spectacular.  

Communication...when in doubt...say something.

Also, many choices clients make in this biz are based on physical attributes and assets.  

Sellers physical attributes and assets are literally moneymakers for them.

So yes I believe almost every client would like to know beforehand of any significant issue and then decide for themselves if they still want to see a provider in such a situation.

And it goes both ways which is why I have major issues with paying deposits that may not be refunded due to an unavoidable unfortunate circumstance.

 
Many years ago I arranged a date with Kayla Kleevage. I emailed her the day of to confirm and get the name of the hotel she was staying at. No response. Sent another some time later. Still no response. These were the early days of cell phones and I didn't have one yet, but she was typically pretty quick to respond to an email. So we never met on that day. Many hours later she responded and was very apologetic. She claimed there was an issue the night before that caused her to take a sleeping pill to help her relax and fall asleep. She slept well into the afternoon, thus missing our appt. I never needed to ask for any compensation, nor would I have since I never went out of my way to meet her that day. She took it upon herself to offer me half off for the hour, which I thought was very kind, and gladly accepted. When we finally did get together, she was wonderfully pleasant and we had a great time together.

 
Another time maybe 10 years ago now, I was scheduled to meet a young woman who wound up getting into a minor fender bender on her way to her hotel. She had taken car service and the driver was hit from the side by another vehicle. Now I was unaware of this incident when I arrived at the hotel. I had called her cell to get the room number, and it went directly to voicemail. Waited and called again a few minutes later. Did this a couple of times and eventually left. I then emailed her assistant to see what happened. I wasn't upset because this woman had stellar reviews, so I figured something may have happened, and I hoped it wasn't serious. That's when her assistant informed me of the accident. Said she had been taken to the hospital strictly for precautionary purposes, and that she was OK. I had booked 2 hours with her, and her assistant offered me half price should I still want to see her. We wound up getting together over the next couple of days. I was just glad to know she was OK.

 
As for me, I've been pretty fortunate to not have many issues that have forced me to cancel last minute. Once I was on my way to an appointment where I had already been in the car for 20-30 minutes. I got a call that concerned a member of my family, and I needed to respond immediately. I called the provider I was on my way to see (Mianna Thomas IIRC), and she was totally cool about it. I apologized up and down to her, but she was very understanding. Unfortunately I was unable to see her again during her stay, and never did get the opportunity to meet up with her in the future.

 
Had another where I went out to my car only to see that one of my tires was flat. That pissed me off more than anything. A fucking flat on the day I'm supposed to get laid! What bullshit. She wasn't too thrilled when I called. I told her that I would send her a copy of the towing and repair bill so she can see for herself that I wasn't full of shit. Needless to say she and I never worked out a make-up date.

 
There are other stories. But when it's all said and done, both parties need to do their best to be patient and get all of the details before rendering a judgement. Stay calm and be rational. Even if one party thinks the other is full of shit, being polite and trying your best to be understanding can go a long way in maintaining or even repairing what may now be a fractured relationship. It may be difficult to be honest, but it's imperative. In the Porn Star section I just wrote an anecdote about a time I met with Elizabeth Starr who did not disclose a pretty important issue she was dealing with. BE HONEST!

 
I believe that more often than not, the provider will be less understanding than the John because the John may want very much to see her again. He doesn't want to anger her and risk doing irreparable damage to the relationship, which will not only prevent him from seeing her again, but may wind up causing him trouble in the hobby. I think the guys are more willing to keep a cool head and be more understanding whereas the pro may take offense and create a problem for him. And god forbid you pay a deposit to a woman who takes an attitude. Buh-bye money.

 
I've never expected a discount in any of those circumstances, but I almost always received one. And it was greatly appreciated. Nobody owes me anything if they've done nothing wrong. But it's always nice to have someone extend a nice gesture. Stuff like that goes a long way.