I had a great afternoon with a 35+ year old lady who, despite her age, is only 2+ months in the hobby. This wonderful lady gave me a great time that I would love to write about, but alas I don't want to betray my promise to her. Perhaps because she is new to the hobby she asked me that I not write a review of her.. and I agreed. My review could only help her business because I was delighted with her (I have found that experienced ladies have plenty of other pleasurable tricks to offer to compensate for the over supply of enthusiasm and energy of some younger ones). So the question is: to whom do I owe my loyalty? to this wonderful lady who gave me a memorable time? or to my fellow TER hobbyists who might benefit from my review? And would it make any difference if I had not enjoyed my time with her?
If you promised her you wouldn't, don't go back on it unless she tells you to. Particularly if she is older but new to the hobby, she may have other long-standing relationships (maybe kids, maybe parents, maybe exes, etc) that she wants to keep this from even if an alias is used.
I can't agree more!!.. I have had to learn the hard way about being loyal to this board... Don't screw with a good thing and keep your promise.. do not play around with that trust factor.. you will be the looser in the end... and what do you gain from that!! Don't Do IT!!
You have no "loyalty" to your fellow hobbyists. Sure, it would be nice to let the group know about her, but, as the wise gentlemen above have said, it's a matter of trust. She asked you not to, so don't.
You will get alot further in this hobby by gaining the respect and trust of the ladies.
I join the crowd. She may have many reasons why she does not want a review. Respect her wishes. Regarding your question "And would it make any difference if I had not enjoyed my time with her?" my rule of thumb is based on honesty and effort. If showing up, services, pics, contribution, etc. were honest and I feel that she tried to please me, then I am likely to not post anything even if the encounter did not live up to my standards. If I think the honesty and/or effort was missing, then I do feel the obligation to let others know, especially if I have given a second chance. Fortunately, this has only happened to me once.
I know ladies like that too and they have very good reasons why they don't want reviews. One had hers pulled immediately after I wrote it. They are so wonderful that I would really love to tell someone, but a promise is a promise.
So what I do is casually mention that she's my ATF during ATF threads. If anyone asks about her I tell them to PM me. Only VIP members can PM so I figure it's OK. And all I tell them is a brief menu, how much I love her, and point them to her website. I wouldn't give out her number or any personal info if you paid me.
Do the right thing...nothing. You don't want to betray your lady's trust do you?
So your assumption that he is an ok guy just because he is VIP is way way way off base. Just because a guy can fork up the 20, or was smart enough to write fake reviews does not give him any credibility.
I only give limited info to guys I have talked to on the board. The ladies I'm talking about have reasons they don't want reviews. I keep that in mind when responding to PM and never give out sensitive info. Usually just enough so that they know she looks like her pics and is honest.
No, no review. Honor her request, unless... she effed you. Even then, I don't review, bad or good. Mostly good. I hate to share. SORRY! Even the marginally good, I don't review... could be diamonds in the ruff, hate to upset the apple cart, or...
I'd honor her request, but should anyone want a reference personally from you for a mature provider, tell them you've got the girl for them.
Seems like she wants to remain under the radar. I used to be like that as well and it was cool, but after a while you can't stop everyone from writing reviews, so now I just embrace it.
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