References are nice. Yes they are. But they can also bite you in the ass. There are other ways to screen, and quite frankly, better ways to screen without telling the world you are seeing another lady's client.

Most will be fine, but you get the one or two (especially Wisconsin) who will make that guy cancel. Or even gladly pass them on to you not remembering a thing about the guy.

In any business remember , people are nice, but your livelihood, problems, and safety - not to mention finances - mean zero to most people. Being real