1. Having a session with a provider that you are not  particulary attracted to, but who gives you a great session and treats you like she values you and your business?

2. Having a session with a provider that you're really hot for, but who seems to be going through the motions, and who (by her actions and body gestures following the session) seems to be un-attracted (repulsed?) by you?

See her (#1 of course) several more times and then realise that she's actually quite attractive.

A good provider begins to look very attractive to me quickly.  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and if that beholder is getting the bejesus sucked out of him, the gal starts to look alfully good.

is much more important to me than her looks.  I am not turned on by physical beauty as much as mental beauty.  To me the woman that is more sexy is the woman who tells me "I am going to make you very happy" and is a much preferable experience than a woman who thinks or says "I am beautiful so therefore I need to do nothing to make you happy".

Beauty is only skin deep.  Sexyness is the whole person.  To me a woman who is sexy is a woman who knows she can and will mind fuck you more than look like a beautiful item.  There are exceptions of course, but a beautiful aloof woman is not for me at all!

If I meet a woman who hugs me when I arrive, and at the end of the session says "please come back and see me again", I am much happier than someone who "goes through the motions" and expresses no interest in me.

I think that it really depends on what YOU're looking for, however, I tend to do a lot of homewrok prior to seeing a provider.  If I'm not attracted to her, I do not book the appointment.

Personally, I would much rather end the session feeling as though we both had a great time instead of leaving feeling like one of us was repulsed by the other...
Don't be so down on yourself, as the seas of hobbying are stocked with many varities of providers!

Have had both of those....  just keep trying...

Mr BIZ

Yes I've found my ATF, but unfortunately I feel like I'm her ATNF (all time non-favorite)

It is not an unusual situation.  There is an interesting challenge afoot in getting that person to finally accept you.  Is this a common occurence for you?  Nothing wrong with pursuing it by the way, and I'd like to know if you ever prevail.  (And do you lose interest if they do accept you?)

yes it's a common occurence.. dont you see my alias!!! =)

...even my wife isn't attracted to me.