Thank you for your appt request and your interest.   Unfortunately I have been declining appts of gentlemen who aren't 30 plus.  I hated generalizing gents by age but after not really negative review but not really positive by a 27 yr. old I came to this decision.  
   I'd like to share with you what tends to have young men such as yourself be interested in a mature women.  95% of my reviews are written by gents who are close to my age or older.  Given our ages and the fact that we probably are holding up better than many women who might even be some younger the reviews have a tendency to make us sound like we are untouched by time.  This is truely not the case but yes we're holding up fairly well.  But we no longer have the body of a 20 year old.  Younger men have a tendency to still be gravitating towards the physical aspect of  this service where a mature gentlemen has realized the physical aspect only still leaves him with a void.  Those who have evolved are looking for a more full-embodied experience which takes in all their senses  which are found withing the heart, mind, body and soul.  Those are the gents that I am always striving to endeavour.
   I apologize for having to stereotype by age.  I have definitely had the above described experience with gents under 30.  Those gents are usually mature beyond their young years and you very well could be one of them.   Unfortunately, it only took one to spoil it for the rest. To you I'm sorry for the decline and I hope this helps to explain and realize this is no negative reflection of you.

With Warmest Regards,

Cheridan

Why care what the letter says at all?

I mean...if you aren't going to see the guy, then why are you concerned about how he feels about your rejection?

I am not saying you should be cruel...I understand that your intent is to not be harsh. So even without your letter, I am sure you would never respond "I don't see you young ass stupid punks".

But...do you really think your letter will make a difference to the person you send it too? He isn't going to care what your reasons are, because as far as he is concerned, your reasons don't apply to him (do you think ANY guy thinks of himself as anything but mature?).

Let's be honest...this is to make YOU feel better for doing something I suspect you really feel is not right.

If you really want honest feedback on how best to handle the guys, I would say simply put on your webpage that you don't see guys under the age of 30, and leave it at that. You'll have far less need to send out your letter, and when the need arises, you can simply respond "sorry, I don't see men under the age of 30". No explanantion necessary.

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I feel your point completly & I'm only 27 years old.
I prefer older gentlemen (they know whats up!).....
Often, I can't trust a younger guy will know how to behave.  sorry guys. Its true about the bad apple boys.......
so, yes, I too, am selective with appointments for a better experience for both overall.......just like all of you guys!

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Makes me glad for every gray hair! (eom)

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Makes me feel better to be an old fart in the hobby.  But Mylife makes a very real point, if a bit harshly: why bother, just do it.

And hooray for the gray!

One bad apple spoils the bunch, that's too bad.  I will say that most men that age are probably into "hammering" and I can see why you would not want to see them, plus the young guy you saw should have done his homework and realized want he was getting into.  

Just a thought, there are those "young" gents out there who know how to appreciate a more mature women and actively seek there companionship.  Usually, again, usually they are comfortable with themselves and are sure of who they are and want they want.  That in it self makes you ladies sexy, beautiful and desirable.

Knocking out an entire segment of gents could have effects on your business as well, but hey, it's your business, your life, mind, body, and soul.  Do want you want, be safe and enjoy yourself.

the young, but not so young,
lildevil

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Bottom line for me is that young guys just don't do it for me. I like to look at them, but that is about it. Older men care more about your "happiness." They are also more uninhibited and wild!!! I hope I don't come across like I am "young guy" bashing(they have good qualities,example.... "eye candy"). Maybe when I am the older woman I will be into younger men, but currently I prefer the more mature male

Lisa

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Cheridan, I am happy to fall into that old fart category and to have experienced your wonderful charms. I can see your caring personality coming out in your letter. I really don't think that you need to send the letter, but simply put a statement on your website. Since the letter will be an automatic response to the younger guys, I don't think that it would hurt either.

I do hope to see you again very soon.

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Cheridan,

      I happen to be one of the very lucky, younger gents to have met you!  I have always liked older, more mature, women.  To me, they have the WHOLE package; looks, brains, sense of humor, wildness, and sexiness!  You definitely have that and more!!  I, too, think that posting "no one under 30" on your website is simple and straight to the point.  However, I feel badly for the ultra-mature kid in his 20's who will miss out on the time and experience of a lifetime.

    PlanetU2

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I think that is a great letter! A nicely worded letter is better than no response, plus it probably gives the guy in question something to think about.

Being under 30, I can sympathize w/how a younger man focuses solely upon looks w/out focusing upon the experience as a whole. I tend to like older gentlemen for several reasons, no run around (they know what they want, schedule, no hunting for info or them). They are way more likely to be considerate in case of a cancelation. They are realistic & aren't as likely to pursue you on a more personal level.

I could go on & on, but the best thing about older gentlemen.....experience!

Only the best wishes!
Lisa

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As everyone else has said just post the age requirement on your site.  I agree with LifeasMe that it probably does not sit well with you having to discriminate against a certain group of men.  I have seen plenty of provider advertisements and web sites that discriminate against men based upon race, age, physical condition(weight), looks and type of job (white collar vs blue collar).  You will not be the only provider that will not see younger men.  I know this does not make it easier but it is just the way things work.


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Being 65 going on 55, I too say hooray!  Having enjoyed your company on several occasions, I must say that it was truely an experience of heart, mind, body and soul.

"Let's be honest...this is to make YOU feel better about doing something I suspect you really feel is not right."

Except for the above statement I agree with the opinions in your response to Cheridan.  This is very much a word of mouth (and word of review) business so I think she is just trying to make as few waves as possible.

But I agree, it's like trying to meet a girl at a bar or club, whether she has a valid excuse why she can't meet you or just says "f**k off" it's all pretty much the same.

So I concur, a simple "I choose not to see men below a certain age" would be just as effective as a long letter.

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my main thing is I find that older men tend to respect women more, and appreciate other qualities in us other than tight, tan, and silicon
maybe i see it because i dont have any of those things hehe
i  may be singing a different tune if i did
kisses
sasha love