How about???

We could meet in a very public place...like outside HSBC Arena?

There are so many.  Quick answer on LE:  Have a discreet incall.  LE can more easily stake out an outcall for entrapment.  If you can afford it, occasionally go UTR to reduce your profile.  Dangerous men:  Screen his reviews and references including white listings.  Push the envelope a bit, if he won't fill out your form, then you could ask for a pic (he asks you for them) and purge it and all emails only after the session. If he resists giving you his TER handle so you can check his reviews then you should be hinky about seeing him until after thoroughly checking out his references.  Despite our terrors we legit gents care as much for your safety as ours.  Too many horror stories of bad vice guys and dangerous men.  These are simple, common sense, and essential starters.  Provider's 101.

A Few Thoughts - I Hope They Help!

1.) Just as men should be TER VIPs, ladies should take advantage of the free VIP they get for being providers so they can see a gentleman's White List and read his reviews to see if he is someone they want to meet.

2.) A Lady should be a member of as many verification services as possible so Gentlemen who have built up significant verifications on sites like Date-Check can use those for verification.

3.) Again the TER provider VIP gives ladies access to the providers only board where "problem" guys are discussed.

4.) Guys using a single email across their hobbying life is helpful too.  One addy to verify and use for verification.  (I have one ID "Terrev" on three sites and one email address that also covers all three sites and my communications with the ladies.  Ladies can search for me by that ID or email on any of those sites and verify me.)

5.) Again the TER Provider VIP allows PMs to providers and TER Men to verify their id and their connection to White List and reviews.

I am sure there are a hundred other things to do, but I work hard to maintain my White List and my Date-Check profile.  When ladies will not accept that, I seldom see them, because I have done my work, I should not have to give up a bunch of personal information to them because they haven't done their work.

This is their business, and if they don't treat that with respect, I have found that they aren't likely to treat me with any either.

Just my 2 cents worth.

Good Luck and Good Hobbying!

While nothing is a 100% certain, I think the safest alternative is the combination of a reference from a well known provider (a provider that you are comfortable with accepting her recommendation) and contacting the gentleman's place of employment would alleviate 99 % of your fears. Having a solid reference from another provider should eliminate most of your concerns that he is dangerous while contacting the gentleman at his place of employment (calling the general number to the office) should eliminate most of your concerns that he is LE. I realize this is asking a lot as most gentleman do not have both to offer.

Now I realize that some gentleman do not have a reference and refuse to give their work number. I think you have to walk away from these men. If they dont care enough to provide you with the information you need in order for your peace of mind, then they are not worth seeing. Yes, its turning away potential business, but your safety must come first.

Generally I feel good about giving my personal information to someone that I have gotten to know through this or other boards, and that's how I solve the problem.

Also, references from other providers of a cetain provider go a long ways towards increasing my comfort factor.

I provide my web site for work - that has a brief bio of me on it, my picture and my work #- it also contains the names of my work colleagues....  and for most that is very comforting.  As to LE finding that on "someones" C drive.... they could have googled stuff and come up with me without me ever sending them anything... as for verifying that it is indeed me?  they call the number on the web site... and I tell them to google my real name... they get more than they really want.  and they are happy - if I am not the guy in the picture... guess what - they can walk away... (or more accurately  - send me packing).  As it is hard to miss a big green dude, I am usually ok.


For those who insist on speaking to someone that I've seen in the past - I usually give them a name or two... but that is kinda overkill... in most instances.  Do I refer to the white knight?  not really - although I think that the white knight status is more a "you're ok" to me from some ladies... than a reference to others... and it is a kindness much appreciated!

As far as being safe from a whacko?  Sorry, I've no clues.... especially after VA Tech.  Just don't have any clues....  

One night on a civie date, I had a lady (well considering maybe she was not a lady) pull a gun on me and the other couple we were with... why? Because she thought that the other dude was supposed to be with her, and she did not like the other dude's date holding his hand....  yea, and people wonder why I hobby!  sheese!

but for a different reason.  I'm new to the hobby and have only seen agency providers; hence, no references.  I do what BizzSD does and give the URL to my company website and give out enough info for them to check me out there.  I also can provide P611 and DateCheck IDs.  I can then provide a photo ID at the appointment, if desired.

Unless you are a prominent person, I think this personal info fear is way over played.  No one cares if your number is among hundreds or thousands in a database.  Besides it could have gotten there in any number of ways.

It may be that it is a FORM.  Forms tend to try to cover all situations and are not interactive.  I would much rather send an introductory email with some information and then respond to whatever else the lady needs.  On the form I may be asked questions that are not necessary for me.  In some cases the form is designed to require answers or you can't submit the damn thing.
 The information you need is what you need.  But if the purpose is screening why does a person have to list all possible dates they might want.  What seems like a convenience can soon be an overwhelming form.
 Because I am new to this area I like to get the screening out of the way before even trying to find a time.
 I think if there were a better way to cover security it would have been suggested already.
 Stay safe.
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Once I am communicating with a lady I will suggest she google me and I tell her what she will find.  I send her a photo of me (also reduced the greeting shock (notice no awe) and tell her she will find another one when she googles.
 I have had a number of civvies google me.  I don't know if any providers have.
 Sometimes I will offer the license on my car.
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the tone of the letter of introduction should be two items critical to helping you make a decision.  While services such as Date Check, RS2K etc., are ok they do not give you any idea re the personality of the client.... a referral from another provider plus the tone of the client's email(s) should go a long way to giving you some insight into their personalities.