Why oh why do I think they actually care or enjoy my company. I must be really stupid. It's a job and nothing more. Just like everyone else- do their job, get paid, move on.
This is what is wrong with the entire country. Everyone is in it for themselves. Companies no longer have loyalty to their employees.

Not all ladies will treat you that way.. but it does make me wonder.. about the lady you choose?
Also, As my mother once said.. The only person who will take care of you at the end of the day is YOU.. Therefor be responsible for YOU and what you get and give back to the world...

what's so hard to understand.  Maybe you need to learn how to research better, so you won't feel compelled to write this stuff. Do you work for free?

I arrived to a date, and had sweet, quiet, sweet sweet sex with a date. Nothing was said, we just communicated with body language... kisses were slow, touching was slow, looks were passionate and sweet... all guided by the guy.

I genuinely enjoy the company of most of my clients. Some more than others. Occasionally, the chemistry is just NOT there. Or, sometimes it's there on the dude's side and decidedly not on mine. But I'd never treat a client like 'not even a time of day unless there is an envelope'.  

Those are rare.. I too have mixed feelings about those..

but then I found others who offered genuine friendship!  Along with paid for services - so, pick yourself up, get going, and you have a great day....  remember not everyone (even in the normal world) clicks... same here.

...a fantasy for the guys, work for us!

B/c they give great service & are always friendly & warm when we are having or arranging a BUSINESS TRANSACTION.  I would love to hang out with them outside of work and chat on Facebook & emails but...guess what I understand boundaries & that they have real lives & are making a living, don't exist to be my BFF/girlfriend.  This goes even more so for providers (the more upscale ones especially) b/c the affective labor is part of what you're paying for.

I treat a date with a provider mentally just like any other date.  You have to develop chemistry and create some sexual tension if you really want to have a great time.  Some girls are awesome at faking it.  But it's much better when it is real.  Are you focused on her pleasure as much as your own?  Are you confident and smooth?  Do you expect her to just be into it because you are paying?  work a little harder.  Listen more...to what her words say but also her body and body language.

It's the ones who have you thinking it's real who are the awesome fakers.

The guys who cry 'fake' usually just want too much, in my experience. If they just accept this for what it is...a friendly, social business transaction involving sex - they wouldn't be so disappointed. No need to vilify us just because we expect to be paid...that doesn't make us heartless b****es, any more than your local bartender who'd no doubt sneer derisively at the thought of coming in to serve you for free.

I don't vilify providers because they expect to be paid; that's the entire nature of the transaction.  I was merely pointing out that the most successful providers are able to forge the illusion of a genuine connection, and others are not able to muster the same apparent sincerity.  That's not a condemnation or value judgment with respect to either.

Were you expecting an occasional "Hi how are you doing? Hope life is treating you well" type of email? Were you expecting friendly conversation and compassion? Were you expecting an experience wherein the provider was engaged and focused on you? In that case, then I'm sorry you haven't found that.  

off topic....but now you have me thinking about how fun a client/therapist role play might be  

so get that cash...  

f FYI.. all women pretty much want your money (In some form or fashion)  almost inescapable truth.  When they want to marry you.. that means they want ALL of it.  ha ha

Are you talking about my Grandma?
She would say. "Ill push your face in."
Then smack you for whining.
She would then say it was for your own good.. That whining makes you look weak.
Weak is not attractive.
Then she would get really mad.
Saying how spoiled this younger generation has become..
That she had to chop off duck heads, and sew in a sweat shop for a pittance.
"For Shame!" Says Grandma!!
You have the extra money to indulge in a luxury like this, and you are bitching?
Apology not accepted.

Dear dobbie, Dear dobbie,  

Not sure what you meant by that and if it was a joke Hun, so forgive my response if so... but escorting is for me at the moment. The day I start feeling consistently empty and hating what I do, then I'll know it's not.

I read your account of your encounter. I can't speak from the provider's side, but I like it when I experience some positive emotional connection with escort. I don't expect us to get married, but I hope she enjoys the experience as much as I do. I can understand the find 'em, fuck 'em, and forget 'em attitude that guys have, but usually that is not my style. Might as well invest in a milking machine than go through all the expense of paying a real human being.

It won't happen with everyone, but it's possible to have a really nice time with the majority of clients... doesn't mean the two are in love.

Do you ever get feelings during your dates? If you jive with them...

"Super hot and super empty. Kinda' makes you leave depressed?"

Can't say they're not for long-term marketing purposes but it's still nice knowing they think well enough of me to say hi once in a while and to keep themselves in my head for future visits. I get these from business colleagues as well and they're not making any money off me, we just worked together at one time or another. This biz is strange in that many providers feel it's a waste of their time to contact a client unless there's an immediate appt involved. In the real business world, random contacts are made quite often to stay in the loop and keep up with what's going on in our respective fields, even when we don't see each other for years at a time.

..that they care or enjoy my company, I move on.  Any provider I see more than once is a lady with whom I feel some sort of genuine chemistry.  Not talking about "love connections", but Yeah, there is an element of genuine….friendship?  (I know that's not quite the right word, but it's the best I can come up with on the spot)

I don't think of myself as nothing but a human ATM when I hobby, and I assume the ladies I see regularly don't think of me that way, either.  I've often sent out "Hi, how'ya doing, long time no see" emails to my regular providers, with no immediate proposed date being mentioned.  I virtually always get back an equally friendly response.

Who knows, maybe they're just exercising good business sense.  But whatever it is, I feel like I'm getting the "time of day" and then some with my regs.

Any one can be any thing for an hour or two...

Yes, of course someone like me who puts in a good 5-8 hours on the damn internet, might have the time to pm and email various guys (even those I have never, and will never see) lol, but that is not common for most providers. They have LIVES and families that actually live in the same town or in the very same house with them. They have other jobs, hobbies, friends, and yes, even boyfriends to tend to, and most of us are HIDING this life from just about everyone we know personally, so that is the biggest reason for not being able to carry on a full on relationship (including a chat room one) on our OFF time. Consider the person looking over her shoulder when YOU are not paying her to be there!  

Of selfishness and greed trampled everything in this world.