Why oh why do I think they actually care or enjoy my company. I must be really stupid. It's a job and nothing more. Just like everyone else- do their job, get paid, move on.
This is what is wrong with the entire country. Everyone is in it for themselves. Companies no longer have loyalty to their employees.
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Not all ladies will treat you that way.. but it does make me wonder.. about the lady you choose?
Also, As my mother once said.. The only person who will take care of you at the end of the day is YOU.. Therefor be responsible for YOU and what you get and give back to the world...
It is not just a job.. but let's be honest.. Someday's you like your job better then others and some days you like your co workers better then others..
I can only assume that you are not creepy and weird.. That could also be the cause.
Sometimes the chemistry just does not work!
Smile.. Find another lady friend and move on.....
This is what is wrong with the entire country. Everyone is in it for themselves. Companies no longer have loyalty to their employees.
Sorry for complaining or preaching, but I feel hurt by the $$$ attitude with not even a "time of day" unless there is an envelope.
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Also, As my mother once said.. The only person who will take care of you at the end of the day is YOU.. Therefor be responsible for YOU and what you get and give back to the world...
It is not just a job.. but let's be honest.. Someday's you like your job better then others and some days you like your co workers better then others..
I can only assume that you are not creepy and weird.. That could also be the cause.
Sometimes the chemistry just does not work!
Smile.. Find another lady friend and move on.....
This is what is wrong with the entire country. Everyone is in it for themselves. Companies no longer have loyalty to their employees.
Sorry for complaining or preaching, but I feel hurt by the $$$ attitude with not even a "time of day" unless there is an envelope.
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what's so hard to understand. Maybe you need to learn how to research better, so you won't feel compelled to write this stuff. Do you work for free?
This is what is wrong with the entire country. Everyone is in it for themselves. Companies no longer have loyalty to their employees.
Sorry for complaining or preaching, but I feel hurt by the $$$ attitude with not even a "time of day" unless there is an envelope.
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I arrived to a date, and had sweet, quiet, sweet sweet sex with a date. Nothing was said, we just communicated with body language... kisses were slow, touching was slow, looks were passionate and sweet... all guided by the guy.
Afterwards he got up, after being so sweet, didn't really even look at me much. Just got ready to go, walked me to my car, nothing. I was surprised that my feelings were hurt because I hadn't had sweet sex like that in a looong time with chemistry attached. I mean the chemistry you have when you've wanted someone for a long time and it builds up and you just do it because you want to.
I opened the envelope, saw I was way over paid... of course i was happy about that, but I still felt like this...
"Sorry for complaining or preaching, but I feel hurt by the 'just a pussy' attitude with not even a "time of day" unless there is pussy. -- "
They pay us to go away!
xoxo
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Those are rare.. I too have mixed feelings about those..
...a fantasy for the guys, work for us!
Though many of us enjoy it, we do have to do our duty and leave 'em alone afterwards!
LOL
This wasn't to rip on the OP, just to relate.
One more thing... sexually, we have to save our energy for work. 
so get that cash...
and if you are looking for love... that is a whole other issue.
Maybe escort work (or hiring an escort) is not for u
Not sure what you meant by that and if it was a joke Hun, so forgive my response if so... but escorting is for me at the moment. The day I start feeling consistently empty and hating what I do, then I'll know it's not.
I stated one instance, and I'm not the only one who has been through an event or two like that. If I had no feelings, then there would be a problem.
I'm not the judge of what job is for who... I don't think anybody is... so I really take others' opinions with a grain of salt. Unless they are the ones whom I am providing for, behind closed doors or on a date with me.
I intend to do the best I can and that means letting go and not seeing them again. That is a good business move.
I'm hoping this wasn't meant to put ME or other ladies down who do the same thing as you. Who would want to see a lady like that?
My goal is to enjoy life, as well as use this income and experience for other life goals. I'm enjoying life, and am enjoying my jobs.
Good luck with your goals.
Xoxo u
Courtney
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I read your account of your encounter. I can't speak from the provider's side, but I like it when I experience some positive emotional connection with escort. I don't expect us to get married, but I hope she enjoys the experience as much as I do. I can understand the find 'em, fuck 'em, and forget 'em attitude that guys have, but usually that is not my style. Might as well invest in a milking machine than go through all the expense of paying a real human being.
It won't happen with everyone, but it's possible to have a really nice time with the majority of clients... doesn't mean the two are in love.
I really can't explain the mindframe behind the deed, quite honestly. There are the one or two who have that vibe that makes it super duper hot, and then there are the ones you enjoy the physical contact with and the company... the money? I'm no psychologist, so I can't say if it causes a 'switch' in the brain or not. I guess it does, but there are people I'd rather not see again for good enough reasons that even a large sum of money couldn't change my mind about.
I got off track, but regarding the milking machine... Of course we're in it for the money. Most anyone who is working a job is in it for the money. If we weren't, we wouldn't be charging. But some people enjoy their jobs, and I would think we providers would need to enjoy it somewhat because the sex industry is an entirely different dynamic. We're giving something that is extremely intimate... physically.
Super hot and super empty. Kinda' makes you leave depressed?
"Super hot and super empty. Kinda' makes you leave depressed?"
That reminds me of something Woody Allen said: "Sex without love is a meaningless experience, but as far as meaningless experiences go its pretty damn good." Still, I understand what you are saying. At the same time, I have a feeling that the women who post on these boards do enjoy their work for the most part and have quality customers. Unfortunately, I'd say most sex workers don't. But that's another matter. And for those who say most people in general don't like their jobs, few other jobs require you get naked while a stranger joins his body with theirs!
I genuinely enjoy the company of most of my clients. Some more than others. Occasionally, the chemistry is just NOT there. Or, sometimes it's there on the dude's side and decidedly not on mine. But I'd never treat a client like 'not even a time of day unless there is an envelope'.
However - sometimes, if the client expects TOO MUCH from me, he might feel that way. For instance, I had a client this summer whose company I thoroughly enjoyed for a 6-hour date. Great! If he'd just left it as that, emailed me once in a while to say hi, and booked me again when he wanted a date...he might still be enjoying my vagina. But I guess he was very lonely, and let his imagination jump ahead of him...he arranged a gift for me that he knew I'd have to travel within a block of his office building to pick up, then asked me to lunch! Obviously, I didn't want to set a precedent (and felt this was manipulative), and so I refused. I'm sure he was hurt....but, he found me on Eros! What did he expect? I told him I enjoyed our time, etc., etc., but in the vein of 'you were a nice client'...in no way did I ever intimate that I wanted things to progress further.
I have some regulars with whom I have a relationship that extends beyond time booked, etc. However, that developed over time. I trust them...they 'get' it, they're not looking for freebies or a girlfriend. And they don't take advantage. Above all, it developed without them expecting such a thing from me. They weren't the guys asking me to free dinner after the appt...or to 'sleep here if you want.' Or emailing me every 2 hours. Which allowed me to feel comfortable enough with them to let such an informal relationship develop.
Be content to be a 'nice client'... treat her as you'd want to be treated...respect her time and business...and remember, this isn't Match.com.
but then I found others who offered genuine friendship! Along with paid for services - so, pick yourself up, get going, and you have a great day.... remember not everyone (even in the normal world) clicks... same here.
B/c they give great service & are always friendly & warm when we are having or arranging a BUSINESS TRANSACTION. I would love to hang out with them outside of work and chat on Facebook & emails but...guess what I understand boundaries & that they have real lives & are making a living, don't exist to be my BFF/girlfriend. This goes even more so for providers (the more upscale ones especially) b/c the affective labor is part of what you're paying for.
I treat a date with a provider mentally just like any other date. You have to develop chemistry and create some sexual tension if you really want to have a great time. Some girls are awesome at faking it. But it's much better when it is real. Are you focused on her pleasure as much as your own? Are you confident and smooth? Do you expect her to just be into it because you are paying? work a little harder. Listen more...to what her words say but also her body and body language.
Sometimes you just don't click. It happens. But since you picked the girl from many that you could see. she must be your type. Not go fucking turn her on!
It's the ones who have you thinking it's real who are the awesome fakers.
The guys who cry 'fake' usually just want too much, in my experience. If they just accept this for what it is...a friendly, social business transaction involving sex - they wouldn't be so disappointed. No need to vilify us just because we expect to be paid...that doesn't make us heartless b****es, any more than your local bartender who'd no doubt sneer derisively at the thought of coming in to serve you for free.
It's impossible to like everybody, but it's our job to be nice to everybody, no matter what our feelings. There are some extreme cases in which I've had to be utterly fake...but that's not the norm, and I'm sure those guys don't have an easy time gaining admirers, in general.
I don't vilify providers because they expect to be paid; that's the entire nature of the transaction. I was merely pointing out that the most successful providers are able to forge the illusion of a genuine connection, and others are not able to muster the same apparent sincerity. That's not a condemnation or value judgment with respect to either.
Were you expecting an occasional "Hi how are you doing? Hope life is treating you well" type of email? Were you expecting friendly conversation and compassion? Were you expecting an experience wherein the provider was engaged and focused on you? In that case, then I'm sorry you haven't found that.
But were you expecting her to give freely of her time constantly? Were you constantly emailing her, asking for advice? Were you expecting to get off the clock time just because you saw her a few times? Did you expect her to be your friend or romantic partner just because you felt a connection? Were you pushing her to open up to you about her personal life? If that's case, you were being very unrealistic.
Yes, this is a very intimate business, and I understand that it can be a very vulnerable experience for some. But there's a reason it's called the girlfriend EXPERIENCE. You can't buy an actual girlfriend (unless you're Donald Trump...and I'm sure that relationship is based off of real love).
It would be like me complaining about my therapist for not going out with me for a beer to listen to my problems for free. I'm sure that there would be some genuine care and compassion on my therapist's part, if he/she was any kind of good, decent therapist. But we're never going to be friends, and the relationship is always going to be emotionally one sided. That's just the nature of the relationship and if I have a problem with it, that's on me, not the therapist. And if I can't handle an emotionally one sided, commodified relationship, then I really shouldn't be seeing a therapist
off topic....but now you have me thinking about how fun a client/therapist role play might be 
Can't say they're not for long-term marketing purposes but it's still nice knowing they think well enough of me to say hi once in a while and to keep themselves in my head for future visits. I get these from business colleagues as well and they're not making any money off me, we just worked together at one time or another. This biz is strange in that many providers feel it's a waste of their time to contact a client unless there's an immediate appt involved. In the real business world, random contacts are made quite often to stay in the loop and keep up with what's going on in our respective fields, even when we don't see each other for years at a time.
I tend to forget about providers who I never hear from which is probably why I get those random "Hi, how are ya's?" Most know if they don't say hi once in a while, I'll completely forget about them and they'll never see me again, lol...
f FYI.. all women pretty much want your money (In some form or fashion) almost inescapable truth. When they want to marry you.. that means they want ALL of it. ha ha
find an escort that seems to like you. Escorts often enjoy the company of clients. For me it is the norm rather than the exception. but I've honed my ads and style to find the guys I jive with (kudos, me)
Consider you might really be wanting a regular relationship. Maybe escorts are not for you and you should find a regular girlfriend.
Do you ever get feelings during your dates? If you jive with them...
Any one can be any thing for an hour or two...
Are you talking about my Grandma?
She would say. "Ill push your face in."
Then smack you for whining.
She would then say it was for your own good.. That whining makes you look weak.
Weak is not attractive.
Then she would get really mad.
Saying how spoiled this younger generation has become..
That she had to chop off duck heads, and sew in a sweat shop for a pittance.
"For Shame!" Says Grandma!!
You have the extra money to indulge in a luxury like this, and you are bitching?
Apology not accepted.
Seriously though.. What do you expect? Late night chats on the phone?
Quick thoughtful responses to texts?
That isn't fair..
Think of it like this...
When I worked at the bar. No one bothered me for a drink when I was off having MY dinner.
It's just polite. Get it?
Dear dobbie, Dear dobbie,
You have no complaint,
You are what your are and you ain't what you ain't,
So listen up buster, and listen up good,
Stop wishing for bad luck and knocking on wood.
I am not Dear Abby and I agree about some of my meetings that could have gone a little better with just a little bit of acting or show of mutual appreciation
..that they care or enjoy my company, I move on. Any provider I see more than once is a lady with whom I feel some sort of genuine chemistry. Not talking about "love connections", but Yeah, there is an element of genuine….friendship? (I know that's not quite the right word, but it's the best I can come up with on the spot)
I don't think of myself as nothing but a human ATM when I hobby, and I assume the ladies I see regularly don't think of me that way, either. I've often sent out "Hi, how'ya doing, long time no see" emails to my regular providers, with no immediate proposed date being mentioned. I virtually always get back an equally friendly response.
Who knows, maybe they're just exercising good business sense. But whatever it is, I feel like I'm getting the "time of day" and then some with my regs.
Of selfishness and greed trampled everything in this world.
Not just this country. When the whole thing blows up, people will get humble again.