Hey guys,
A few years ago, my wife told me she had had an affair. Furthermore, she said she did it because she suspected me of having an affair. Long conversation... lots of emotions... but long story short, I told her about my hobbying and we arrived at a deal, where we would have an "open marriage", with both of us allowed to date and sleep with others, as long as we tell each other about it, in as much detail as our partner wants.

Does she have a TER profile yet?

Haven't done that in a marriage. Both my marriages ended  because of changing needs and we couldn't adjust to those changes together. I was monogamous in both marriages, not because of some moral dictates but because I wanted to be at the time. Different things are appropriate at different times.   Don't know if i would be again, I can't tell the future.

I immediately wanted to say YES, I would take this deal in heartbeat.  Then I started thinking "what if she brought something home?"  What if, in the heat of passion, she fucks some guy BB and the next thing you know I am at the doctor with some dreadful condition?  And with the FC2 the only cover I will use, and the cost of these is fixing to skyrocket, what to do?  Just not sure either way.......

...but I'd like to think that if the shape of the relationship I was in changed we could talk honestly and openly about non-traditional approaches to getting the best out of the relationship for both of us rather than throwing away what we have for the sake of convention or tradition.  

The more the Merrier..if it works for you great!!  As long as. everyone's Happy...Wink

but as soon as I found out he was doing other girls I cut that shit right quick. Nope, definitely not for me. I definitely want the focus to be on me and vice versa. I can't and don't share. Major kudos to those that can, it's just not in the cards for me. I just can't feel comfortable doing all the freaky things i want to do with my S.O. knowing that he's doing things with others.

on the topic of doms/subs ... I kind of like the idea of being dominant and playing out some power scenarios, but my short time on the Fetlife forums kind of turned me off to it all -- a lot of damaged people there.

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I think if guys are looking for that sort of arrangement and aren't already in a relationship, a good place to start would be with gals already in the p4p biz.  I think civie gals who would be up for that are rather rare and finding them would make looking for a needle in a haystack seem like a walk in the park (if I can mix metaphors.)

I was turned off by it also.

I'd love a relationship where we both want each other to be happy and fulfilled wrt intimacy. And if that means one or both of us would need to go to others, fine.

After she twice caught me red-handed hobbying, she allowed me to continue if she could see boyfriends, which was fine by me.  I enjoyed a few years of. bliss that way

I could go without my wife telling me details of her love life but I would totally be down for an open marriage. I think it's foolish that society expects the woman I marry to be the solution for all my sexual needs forever, and vice versa.

taken to be sure nothing unwanted (i.e. disease) gets brought home.

... followed by many years of greater bliss. Not bad.

...is playing with others together.  

That sounds amazing and so much fun. If I was married and our marriage maybe going south, I may suggest something such as that. The issue is so many people in this world think it is so wrong to have a open marriage. What your both doing especially if you both agree to it there is nothing wrong with it. It actually sounds pretty hot and your both being satisfied and it's bringing more excitement into your marriage. Enjoy.