Borrowing from the post a few days ago about DATY, it seems all the ladies are telling all the gents that they are good at it during a session.
Maybe it's like a "bad" blowjob..."the worst blowjob I ever had was fantastic".
Of course DATYlover and ORALsewer have to be good at it, hell their name must be honored.
From the ladies perspective though, is everyone really that good? Or is that another part of the acting? Or more probably....both.
Are there any techniques that are better than others? I enjoy clit sucking gently and tonguing vagina alternately and usually get decent response, but always looking for whatever improvement there may be. Are there any techniques that are really bad?
When to stop? Sometimes right through the orgasm, continuing just adds a little extra, and sometimes it's just too much.
Does personal attraction change the desire any?
Please teach, as DATY, next to GFE, is soooooo important.

they don't like my technique.  I do like to suck and pull the labia and clit into my mouth and "push and pull" them in and out... but a couple of gals found that either too stimulatory or painful, so I had to use another technique, and one lady said she did not care for oral sex, at all!!! it takes all kinds! and that is what is fun about the hobby, never a routine, always fresh and new.

Damn hummingbird!
That is my trick! LMAO!
It's all in the bottom lip.
If you are doing it right. Hold on. They don't stop moving around.
Makes it very hard to stay on target!

medium pressure, using his or her lips around the clit area, making sure there's a nice amount is saliva with a finger or two inside. Sucking, pulling and pushing the labia is painful and defiantly not comfortable IMO. Tonguing the vag doesn't do much for me but its a nice little tease to get me going in the beginning.

and only a few have it mastered. I actually found the BEST daty guy, right here lol. No one in my personal life (past husbands or boyfriends) have ever been that good, except for my first husband, who I rank number 2. I don't like fingers in there except for maybe half of one, and right when I am about to cum. I don't like just constant attention right on my mouse either. You have to think of eating kitty like you run the baseball diamond. Hit all the bases with attention, but always come back home. Home is the little mouse. Also, I don't like a lot of pressure or when a guy just presses his face and mouth really hard against it and wiggles his tongue around. I like puppy dog licks with a flat tongue, not the tip.

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Some like less pressure, some like more.
Some like penetration with oral, some do not
Some like more licking, some like more sucking

Best advice is look to the lady for cues.  We don't wear a poker face when getting oral, our face, body, and sounds we make should lead you in the right direction.

As for me, personally, I like my clit licked and sucked.  Softly at first and then more intensely.  As for sucking on my labia or finger fucking me, I don't care for either of those.  I enjoy being licked everywhere except my anus.

And I know this is silly, but some girls worry that if you suck their labia it will stretch it out and make their pussy less attractive.  But I wouldn't mind a big fat clit.

every gal is different & even different between experiences...  sometimes moments appart.  My technique is (drumroll please!)  I I pay close attention to her responses & keep doing what she likes.  I don't believe I have ever 'given' a lady an "O"...  I have offered her my touches, my carresses and given her the freedom to enjoy the sensations we create.  Rather than hold her, I support her so she can move her hips (sometimes but not always, I might cup her buns) as she moves against me.  
I view the shared experience as I am the motor...  but she is the driver...   I confess I was not so enlightened as a younger man.  The Civies I have loved have seemingly appreciated my attitude but my best feed back has come from Providers.
One told me she "Never cums with clients" but eventually she has with me...  though it is not every time.
Another exclaimed "If you do that again, I'll have to pay YOU!"   She will usually cum if she allows herself to, though I have not been able to witness that again.  

It would be very nice IF that would happen in a SO situation.  

The clit swelling - keep doing what's working.

I mean, sheesh, let's not over-complicate this. Those who've said every girl is different are right.  So try a few different techniques and, if it's not completely obvious, ask her.
Oh, and Hound, you didn't invent the Hummingbird.  I did!  LOL!

But with a new girl, the response is "everything". The main question is, LADIES, what don't you like?
Everyone is correct in that everyone is different, but expressing likes and dislikes in this forum is a little easier than after collecting a donation. I have certainly found the keys to all my favorites, but want to have some discussion about all the different experiences.
During a doubles session, I sit and learn as two ladies teach such good techniques, that I seem like a school boy sitting at my teachers feet! That is the hottest shit in the world.

Vive les differences!

Paying attention to feedback and being ready to vary technique can pay dividends.  One of my most memorable escort DATY experiences was with an often and well reviewed provider.  I noticed that she recoiled just a bit with too much tongue pressure so I stayed feather light for a few minutes.  The main reason I'm sure the O was real was the look of surprise on her face when I looked up.

As already mentioned by several others, each woman reacts a differently to cunnilingus. Unfortunately, there is no single best “technique” for all.   However, what is 100% true is that ALL women love it (whether they admit it or not).  Most (~ 80 %) actually prefer to orgasm that way vs intercourse.
It can be a very satisfying activity for both parties.

A few simple suggestions:
1.Don’t start to DATY unless you plan to finish.
Every woman is different as to how long it takes her to be “satisfied”, or when she’s had “enough” and wants you to stop. Some may be OK with 15 minutes – others may want you down there for HOURS! You can’t really stop until she lets you stop. (How would you feel if she was giving you a BBBJ and she stopped right before you were ready to come?) This can be time limiting if you are with a provider unless you have booked an extended session.  Also, you need to make sure you are in a comfortable position (e.g. knees on a pillow), you may be there for a while (you can also vary positions, 69, etc)

2. Do not muff dive
Don’t just say hello, yank her panties off and face plant in her puss. Start off by telling her how beautiful she is, some gentle kisses on her lips, neck, etc. It’s called foreplay (news flash: ALL women LOVE IT!) Pay close attention to her breasts, and other body parts, tell her how beautiful they are, gently caress them, lick them, suck them. (She will probably start to get wet down yonder – yippee!).

3. Do not attack  the Clit!
The clitoris (equivalent to your penis) has 100 times more nerve endings. Extremely sensitive! Start with gentle and random licks all around her vulva; better yet “go down on her” (lick and kiss her all the way down to her “prize”). Tell her how beautiful she is down there. When you get there use your tongue and lips to caress her labia (this will tease her and make her more wet). The opening and just inside her vagina are also very sensitive –use your tongue. Work your way toward her clit (make sure there is wetness on your tongue) tease around it, by now she may be ready for you to gently suck on it. Pay close attention to it with your tongue and lips – watch her to see her reactions, she will no doubt be arching her back, squeezing your head with her legs, moving her pelvis, moaning, gasping for air, grabbing the hair on your head, all sorts of stuff to indicate her enjoyment! LOL!

4. Don’t Use Your Teeth
Do not bite her down there; just use your tongue, mouth, fingers/hands (if she is wet/lubed). Bite her anywhere else. LOL!

5. Don’t Be upset or hurt if she doesn’t Cum for you
Especially during a first meeting you may just “not hit it” since you don’t really know what she likes, she may even “fake” it to make you happy; just realize that she will at least appreciate that you are making the effort to please her. As with everything else in life “practice makes perfect”. Just watch her reaction and it will give you clues (arrange some pillows so you can have good visual contact with her).  See if she has her eyes closed, if she is smiling, etc. Every now and then try to make eye contact; smile, show her how much YOU ARE enjoying it. She may even verbally direct you (take that as a very POSITIVE criticism of your technique – she cares enough to let you know HOW to please her).

Soon, you will be ready for some “advanced” techniques, LOL!


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If my thighs are shaking or my legs get wrapped around your head, sheet gripping... then yeah you're good. If you don't do that then oh well. Honestly if it's really bad or somewhat painful then I'll switch up and move to something else or help them out on HOW to do it good lol.

My first wife taught me a very valuable technique. You know that little vertical sliver of skin below the tongue? She showed me how to flick that little sliver against the clit ever-so-lightly. This almost always works, and I get lots of compliments for doing this. You don't want to do that the whole time; I usually start with light licks of the whole tongue, alternating with just the tip and the little bit of the hair just under my lower lip - all very lightly - and then when she's getting ready to erupt, I do the sliver thing, and that usually brings out a gusher. I usually also like to cup buttocks in my palm, like I'm feeding on a watermelon.

I like my thighs cupped, but not my ass, either.