Do most providers allow DATY and are they ok if you want to give them an orgasm before intercourse

No!!!! No orgasm for me!!!!!! Nu uh!!!! Ain't doin it! No way Jose! I don't want to have ANY fun at all!!!!

(kidding of course)

To answer your question as to whether its 'ok' to give me an orgasm? Hell yes! (but you say 'an' orgasm as if I'm only allowed one???? *puppy dog eyes*)

-- Modified on 8/14/2007 1:21:00 AM

I recently had the opportunity to have a first date (2 hours) with a lovely Flower in NYC. I knew before going in that she had had a rough night before. I made it my mission to help her have a wonderful, sensual, relaxing time. I made the date about pleasuring her. DATY, sensual touch, cuddling, carressing, sharing while gazing into her eyes.

My reward? Knowing she had multiple deep-felt orgasms which released so much tension in her body. The dreamy look in her eyes, as she lay there savoring the cloud she was floating on, was priceless. Her soft, etheral "Yes", when I asked her if she had enjoyed my touch is a moment I will treasure.  

We never did get to much else, but I left her with a smile in my heart, and a skip in my step.

Hell yeah! DATY is HEAVEN!!!!! lol. I'd be sad if you didn't enjoy it.

OK, all kidding aside, oral is very important to me. I've never repeated with a lady who either didn't allow it or didn't genuinely enjoy it. I usually give my ATF at least two O's before she goes anywhere near mr. happy with either her mouth or her pussy.

I would never repeat with a lady who did not genuinely enjoy oral, both giving and receiving. Fortunately my ATF is multiorgasmic and I leave our dates feeling like Superman, although a Superman who's a little weak in the knees.

I think it is a great way to start the date- many guys find it arousing, and I know I do Especially since women tend to need a bit more warm-up before sex to get lubricated and at full arousal- I know that I personally find sex more enjoyable when I have been "warmed up" a bit first. Of course there are guys who don't enjoy performing oral, and I would never demand it, but I'd say I seldom come across a guy in this hobby who doesn't genuinely enjoy sexual reciprocity.

Plus, I love the feeling of pleasuring a guy after he's brought me to orgasm- it makes me want to "pay him back" and make him shudder with pleasure- it's only fair!

XoXo
Marea

I would NEVER intentionally see a provider who did not allow and enjoy DATY.

Ok I've seen almost ten replies, and I think somebody needs to give the other side of the picture -

there are definitely a good number of providers who do NOT want you to go down on them..

it may be for a multitude of reasons.


Perhaps they've already had an orgasm or two that day, and aren't really interested in anymore?

Perhaps they just don't want to get too emotional or involved in the session?

I know some providers do not like to get personal, and perhaps they feel more comfortable only servicing you.


I'm not a provider nor a woman, so I can't speak from that perspective, but I know that there are a good number of them, for one reason or another, who do NOT want this.

I enjoy DATY very much, and the session is much more enjoyable to me if I know that the lady is experiencing some pleasure, too.   I  like to do DATY first in the session because sometimes I like to give pleasure before I recieve some.  And, I also think that providers may appreciate a guy who is not only looking to get serviced.

way to bring everbody down nitescape after such a nice thread.
you think way too much....

Kitty

In fact I've met a few and I don't repeat with them.
This is where TER reviews come into play. It's part of the fun for me and I'm not really interested in a lady who doesn't not only allow it but encourage and enjoy it.

Agree with Bostonguy57..There are definitly women out there who do not enjoy DATY. Since this is my true passion (which I enjoy more than the act itself) with women, I never repeat if they refuse DATY..The wonder of DATY is the way women vary in how they like it..Let me not get too excited here!

Rely on TER reviews & you wont have any suprises

as i've said many times, i don't care for DATY, although it isn't something i prohibit. but i always make it clear before meeting a gent in person that he knows how i feel about DATY or any other activity which is focused on me. because i'm a submissive, i'm not comfortable with a client doing anything in an attempt to please me...my pleasure comes solely from satisfying my partner, period. which means that while i enjoy myself immensely, especially with clients who take advantage of my nature and enjoy themselves to the fullest and make high demands of me...i do not care about my own orgasms and such and would very much prefer that the client doesn't it either. or it will make a very unpleasant, awkward time for us both.

I don't get it.

How did I bring YOU down?


side note -  you only speak for YOURSELF, not everyone else.

Hope I'm not busting your bubble even more!

Exactly Lilli, I totally understand...

it's unfortunate, that some are so consumed with their selves, that they can only see THEIR perspective, and do not TRULY look at the perspective of the provider and consider it.

Some folks just see what they wanna see....

and then accuse others of "thinking too much" lol