I am completely perplexed. In the small, rural community in which I live, one of the young, town hotties has been with a local dude for a long time. They're not married...but they're definitely together.  It is well known, and has even come from the hot babe herself that this dude doesn't make much money (he's a bartender at one of the joints in town). He is is fat, gets drunk a lot, and doesn't exercise.  The babe herself told me that she works, not one, not two, but THREE jobs to support him!  They just recently broke up, but then a day later, they were back together.  When I asked how and why they got back together, she just said they've been with each other for a really long time.  

Is exactly why you can't get laid in the civie world.
Stop watching other people.
Concern yourself with your own circle..
Which may mean lowering your standards if you are gross

Some girls don't feel worthy, pretty, or able to do better, and as a result they don't have high expectations. Many end up stuck with (or even marrying) the first guy who makes them feel worth anything.

If you can only get her take an I.Q. test; I would bet her score would not be very high.  If not that, she probably has a good heart and pity that fat guy you talked about.

to care about who is fucking who... and why.

So you post under an alias.  
Then you say he is a fat, drunken POS and you feel you are worse than he is.
She could be mental in a small town.  It happens.  Are you a part of the shallow gene pool of the neighborhood?

The reason I post under and alias is pretty simple.  Call me paranoid, but I don't trust people in this community, and I don't want anyone knowing anything more than they should about me.  I don't see why it's a big deal that I'm posting under an alias.  If I was using an alias to talk shit to and threaten people on the boards and through PMs, then that's a problem. However, I do none of these things, and I go out of my way to be pretty nice to people on here. In fact, I'm too nice...bordering on mangina. LOL!  

There are a lot of jacked up posters here.  As an experienced mangina, I understand what you are saying.  

Joseph Merrick had no luck at all with most of the hotties of his day, the actress Madge Kendal might have been an exception after his brand of ugliness became socially acceptable. For most of his life his deformity was too jarring to the sensibilities of others in society. Any us of can see ourselves becoming fat, and therefore we might find it unattractive, but, IMO, we take the view; well, there but for fortune go you or me.

Maybe, if she is the dream girl you think she is, she has a deeper needs then other women. She has moved beyond the shallow judgment of a mate by thier attractivness and wealth. Maybe it is the way he listens to her, responds to what she needs emotionally, makes her laugh etc. you said he is lazy but you haven't said anything else about his personality, apperantly that carries a lot of weight for her (no pun intended). By the way I am imagining jaba the hut by the way you talk, I am assuming he isn't just a little chubby. Just flat out morbidly obese, can't open his eyes all the way fat. Because you are finding out money and the perfect body doesn't make you happy and don't get the girl of your dreams.

May be the fat slob gets drunk and passes out. May be the hotties doesn’t like to fuck? May be that is the reason she stays with him.

C'mon, man! Get your freak on and say "asshole."  You can do it!  I know you can! LMAO

It makes one do strange things, and believe me, I should know.

In any case, if they are reasonably happy, leave them be.

There's enough fucked up stuff in the world to pick on.

who can dilute, captivate and occupy other people's minds. Adolph Hitler is a classic example on a very large scale. It has always perplexed me, how one person could convince millions of people to commit the horrific acts that the Nazi regime and think that it's ok. When you see and hear of situations such as you describe it seems that it could be a similar situation on a much smaller scale with obviously different motivations. Take for instance pimps, they convince seeming innocent young women to have sex with random men and give all the money to the pimp. I think that most times drugs are involved, but initially it's the mind control.

Oil, money and cocaine make for strange bed mates.

There could be a number of reasons.  

You are who you hang out with. If you're constantly around someone who gives these subliminal mind fuck messages about who you are, how you look, etc. you begin to take them on. For some, that's all they're hearing, because the guy is all she is hanging out with.

For those of you who remember Monty Python...

How could "ugly as crab shit" ever be used in a "good" way?

Oh BTW I agree about the cowardly husbands too scared to start over. I faced that crossroads many years ago and I am exceedingly happy that I chose to buy my freedom and start over.

That's why divorce is so expensive, because "it's worth it" lol

I agree, and it distresses me that there are people that do that to others, it makes me think how insecure the perpetrator is that they feel the need to do this sort of thing just to get someone to be with them. I'm also very saddened that there are people that submit to these insecure pieces of crap. It's a real shame. I .ever had it easy in life, but I guess I owe a debt of gratitude to my parents for making me the independent secure person that I turned out to be, so I guess because of them I did have it easy in that respect.

"I'd rather be alone for the right reasons, than be with someone for the wrong reasons". It made a lot of sense to me, I'm happy being alone, but admittedly because I have you fine women to be not alone with from time to time.

Everyone has to be good at something, and that's my thing. I used to say that I wish my tongue was long enough that I cod lick my eyebrows and more than one woman has told me my tongue is just fine they way it is.  

The thing that we have to keep in mind is that the cowardly aspect is very much in the way I phrased it. I mentioned nothing about children in the marriage, health issues with either party, and for some the extended family united by the couple. Every situation has unique circumstances, and the reason for some not reclaiming their freedom from a bondage to disappointment might have more of a complicated story than any hypothetical scenario either of us could concoct. Freedom is priceless--being free to choose the disciplines and circumstances that will comprise your social contract. Then the fulfillment of that contract has to somehow be dealt with before being free to choose again. You know what I'm talking about.

Give it a rest. Please.  

They're heavy duty and will last longer than the others you've been using

You got this part right!

they get her to a place where she feels guilty hanging out with her family and friends. It's a hassle, and all of the explaining and maneuvering her way to spending time with those people becomes such a hassle that she gives up.