It would be like a blindfold. She is sharing a very trusting time with someone she doesn't trust. You are not someone she has known a long time and has built trust with. Thus having the room as dark as you can get it is like a blindfold, she can't see what you are doing.

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Yes, most women with any common sense and desire for safety tend to want the room to be decently lit. On the few ocassions when I've met a gentleman who wanted the room completely dark or almost completely dark, my first thought was "what is he hiding?"

I am  not saying I want a room lit brightly enough for perform surgery in, but I do want sufficient light to clearly see your junk so that I can assure myself that your junk does not contain any junk that I do not want to contract. Make sense?

Why don't you bring a blindfold? You get the darkness you want and the lady gets the safety she needs. Problem solved!

Why you would want to be in the dark with a beautful naked woman. I, for one, definitely want to see what I'm doing, and what she's doing, for that matter. Isn't the visual aspect a part of what got you there in the first place?

If you're trying to black out the room, I'd be willing to bet there are certain providers who are hesitant to trust you with a room so dark they cannot see. Anything could happen- you could hurt them, rape them, force bbfs on them, have a buddy come in and join, whatever... the list of possibilities is endless.

My advice is if this is what you're seeking, develop a relationship with a provider and then try your black out theory so she's not afraid.

Katie