We are all wired differently and enjoy different techniques and services.  Like the saying, "there is more than one way to skin a cat" there are many different ways to eat one too.  I know that some girls like more pressure, some less, some like to be fingered while others prefer clitoral stimulation, etc...

I always make sure the Provider I'm seeing is comfortable. I please her as much as she wants. Sure I'm seeing her for my needs. But I also make sure that I don't hurt her or make her uncomfortable in any way.  She's become a good friend. I always take care of her.

I pay attention to body language. If said client gets naked and assumes the position don't expect much.
Like dood, you're naked I'm naked and you walked right past me in order to get to the bed and lay on your back??? He may go down on you and hell you might enjoy it but it's just a lucky coincidence.

Many times when seeing a provider she makes it obvious that she's there for the money and let's get it over with.  And, I can't always blame them for feeling this way since I'm sometimes older then their grandfather.  
But, when you notices a connection between you and the provider then you want to try to satisfy her. I really enjoy being appreciated during sex and try my hardest to satisfy the woman.  So, with that said, most of the time try to get a provider that's in her late thirties to mid forties because there's more of a chance for that connection.

...especially when it comes to pleasure. If the experience isn't good for the lady I'm with, it's not good for me. I've learned to ask the lady what she enjoys, and to get feedback during our time together as well as watching her body language and looking for the obvious and less obvious signs of enjoyment. My operating assumption is that, if I take good care of the lady, she'll take good care of me.

Because if you do, that is awesome. For me that would remove an enormous amount of pressure to fake it.  

Because if you treat it like business its business.  What I dont like running into is when the provider is the one who just goes through the motions while Im the one trying to be accommodating.  I want to try and make the lady enjoy herself because to me thats mutually satisfying.  Im not trying to be captain studtacular, but I like the provider to pick up the phone and when they hear my voice they smile.  Am I always perfect, of course not.  When Im looking out for me I choose a non-regular for that.  Am I an @$$h0le?  Maybe, but my regulars always get the real me and not quick-fix me.

In my former civvie life and now, I've always felt that if the woman is feeling good, she's going to be more inclined to make me feel good. It was certainly true when I was married, and I can't help but think that it's still true to varying extents with providers.

Make her feel good too. Sure, I'm paying for the privilege, but I figure the better I can do for her, to more relaxed, open, and giving she will be as well. What I pay is the price for access. After that what I get out of it is, in large part up to me, from the way I talk to her to the way I make her feel.

Dear Jessica:
I am just wondering do you tend to gravitate towards clients that are more intuitive and sensitive towards your needs?  Also do you tend to look forward to those sessions more as well?  Finally which one of your regulars do you like the best and why?

That word has a negative connotation in general but in p4p the thought is absurd.  

my experience just a few hours ago is a great case in point -   she asked what I like and I told her - then I asked what she liked -    

All my clients have been sensitive to my needs and I have enjoyed them all.

I love to please a woman, hell it gets me off faster and usually a better time is had all around when it happens.  That said I hate fakers... If it happens great, if not I'm OK with that too.  Just don't put on some show for my sake...  If I can do something different that makes it better, tell me, point me in the right direction,  grab my head and put it where you like it...  Especially this... wrap those legs around my head and don't let me come up for air... getting off topic. Really, just let me know and I'll do whatever I can.  I do the same, If I'm not enjoying myself I'll let you know.

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The first time I'm with a lady, I make a point to let her know that her pleasure comes first and that I don't want her pretending. So far, I've been fortunate enough to be with ladies that I've been able to please. If nothing short of a Magic Wand would do anything for her, I would ask if she had her Magic Wand with her and if she would show me how I could use it on her.

Does she tell you? Or are you one of those special johns that can just "tell" when a hooker orgasms? lol

Ewww. Would have to be one of those dog fetishes.

Can I absolutely, objectively know every time that I've pleased a lady? No. Is it possible that, even after I ask her not to fake it, she does? Of course. I suppose I've had enough good experiences that I expect the ladies I meet to treat me with the same respect I show them, which includes that level of honesty.

Sex is fun in and of itself, but when both of you are grooving to the same motion it can be breathtaking.  Many reviews talk about a "connection" with a certain provider, and I'm willing to bet a majority of those hobbyists take the lady's pleasure seriously too.  That mutual respect is a large part of the connections I feel with someone.

...because sex is the most fun if both are enjoying it.   Yes I am paying for your time but really I am paying for you to say goodbye and not call me the next day.  Really.  There is too much risk fooling around with clingy amateurs.  Having said that, you are still a woman and I like to make women feel good.  There is huge pleasure for me when a woman (pro or amateur) crushes my head with her legs and thrashes around moaning for example.  Perhaps you yourself get pleasure from knowing you just gave a client an unforgettable experience.  Plus if I am nice to a woman she normally, usually, always reciprocates and is extra nice to me.  Its just one of those good power exchanges.  I guess I too am a member of the mutual appreciation society.

Glad to see that you are secure enough to have no issue if she needed mechanical help.

Absolutely! Massaging a beautiful woman because she wants me too: who could resist such a request?

and agree with you in that if I don't have a moment of pleasure during a session it's no biggie. I got my end of the bargain…no harm no foul. But sometimes it's not just about not getting off. A selfish client may be the "get my moneys worth" asshole who goes through 15 positions making it more sport/mechanical. I've been right about to O a few times but the guy wants to switch it up. Like "wait just two more seco…pffft fine. No it's cool". And it is cool, except when they complain the lady was mechanical unless she pretends to love switching every 2.5 minutes…god forbid they can tell she's dialing it in though. No faking allowed right?

We are the PROVIDERS and keeping that in mind I never expect to O. I don't wanna put pressure on a guy, or have pressure placed on me (hate when it's ALL about me…just let me do my job fucker lol).  

and do my best to make it a mutually pleasurable experience. Paying attention to her, listening to instructions, hints and suggestions.... all go a long way. I don't necessarily need to be touched to derive pleasure, and can feel great pleasure from touching another in a way they enjoy. I don't need to "make her cum" or pressure her to do so in order to feel like a man; at best I hope to facilitate an "O" or simply a good feeling for her. I guess I find that I am responsible for my own "O", just as she is responsible for hers.  

... on our second date.  She looked at me and said, matter-of-factly, "You're a Pleaser."  Guilty as charged.  Then we discussed how that could be a bit of a problem because she's a Pleaser also.  That is, both of us get pleasure from making our partners feel good.  But we've worked that out... we each get our share of pleasing.  I try to strike that balance with every provider.  One way to do that is to engage in activities that please both of us at the same time.  

in trying to be a stud or to "get her off.

I'm a giver or taker... as much or as little... it all depends on the feedback vibe I feel from the girl.

For me, it depends on how well we get along. If she obviously just wants me to do my thing and leave, then there's not much I can do that's going to please her. Generally, I like to ask what she likes, or what I can do that helps turn her on. Sometimes you get that blank stare, or just a generic answer - and that's when I know.

CF?

Way too much pressure. If the guy actually verbalizes "it is all about you" I set him straight...no, it's about you, you called me, I did not call you, now let me ravish you and if something happens for me, wonderful.  

address ends in "bfe".  The time spend together should be mutually satisfying for both parties.

as long as I know that she really does want it. And I can usually tell. But at a minimum I want her to at least have a good time with my company, even if she doesn't feel it sexually. Just the fact that she's with me means that she's open for something different, so that in and of itself open lends itself to possibilities

I would love the opportunity to see you professionally.

Great discussion.

and hopefully be someone who gets something out of this beyond just the $ (which is why carefully reading reviews is so important to me).
I'm going to be myself, and go with the flow, and enjoy trying to connect for a couple of hours.  I like people, and every lady is so different, so that little bit of discovey of taking in what she is willing to share is critical.  If the only thing open is her legs, then sure, I can have a great O, but not much else that would make me repeat.  I'm very much a natural pleasure, so if she becomes comfortable with me and warms up and can let go enough to truly accept pleasure from me, then this turns me on even more, and things just escalate from there.  But since all personalities are different, I go slow, and make no assumptions and have no set expectations for how she should react to me.  If she pushes down on my head during DATY as she squeezes it like a vice between her legs, that's great - but so is gentle still moans of pleasure - or, I'd obviously stop if it wasn't working for her.  Obviously I'm the paying customer, and I realize that every lady isn't always going to be in a frame of mind to enjoy sex with a stranger at the drop of a hat (could be a bad day, other life stresses going on, hates this job, etc.).  BUT, there are ways to act and things to do that can INCREASE the chances that she will have a good time, and these things I try to do.  Be myself, show an interest in her, go slow, be attentive to her signals.  Then again, some ladies are just more mechanical and distant.  Not much chance in having mutual pleasure with them.  So in that case, I just hope for a mechanically good time - which for me means, I hope she is really tight.

"you don't want to piss off the gal handling your dick."
Classic! (but oh so true too!)

I am enjoying this thread with my toy in hand literally . I agree that toys used outside of the privacy of a hotel room and controlled by my date are far more erotic.  I had a pleasurable coffee house date where I was instructed to wear tight panties and a skirt.  I knew something was up . When I arrived he gave me a pretty bag and instructed me to go to the bathroom and insert the brand new vibrator  partially in my pussy with my parties pressing the remaining tip against my clitoris.   I arrived back at the table quite ready for what was to cum.  There were business men and graduate students working all around me.  My date let me have it wide open it was erotic and hilarious at the same time.  Especially when the remote malfunctioned and he wasn't even controlling it.  The vibrator just kept cutting off and on randomly it seemed with each wiggle or movement if my hips.  I came several times and could feel eyes of other men on me.  I wonder if they knew....I wanted them to know.  I love those kinds of field trips.

I like mutual appreciation.  It's hard to know what works for each provider as I can imagine the reverse is true.  I love receiving especially if I feel my provider enjoys the giving.  But I enjoy pleasuring my provider also probably at different levels simultaneously.  It is gratifying knowing my efforts are welcomed and appreciated.  Plus I just love the feel of a woman's body.  It's a turn on to watch a woman being pleasured especially if I'm the one involved.

Must be hidden somewhere. Rest is probably well known to many except the great discovery of, EVERY ONE IS DIFFERENT!

...so I'm a mutual appreciation client.  Whether her response to my lovemaking is genuine or a great act, being made to feel like I'm the only guy in the world for the duration of the encounter is what fuels my desire and causes me to want to hurry back for more.  

A notorious harlot named Hearst
In the pleasures of men was well versed
Hung a sign o'er the head of her well rumpled bed
"The customer always comes first

CF = Current Favorite