And thank you for the very intersting account of the dangers that lurk out there.

Nothing is exactly what it ever seems, and even the gals will have to admit they they sometimes trip up over that thin line that is the boundary that we all acknowledge we must respect.

When boundaries are crossed, then some sorrow must ensue.

But if we manage to get through it, hopefull we will learn and be happier hobbyists.

My first wife was a stripper(and in the long run a fucking sluttish fucking cock-sucking GD piece of garbage.......lol boy did I get off track)and she actually picked me out of the crowd. I had become enamored with a couple of others within a particular club, but this one just refused to give up. Can you blame her lol? I spent very little money on her as she wasn't even a consideration. I did spend a load of scratch on others whom didn't respond with the intent that I did lmao. BUT, when they discovered the relationship that I had established with another girl they went apeshit to woo me. My goodness but they are competative.

Good piece on the integrity of TER and those who advertise here-upon. OK admin. wheres my chocolate chip cookie? lol


BTW; I hope my track record of women whom I allow to catch me differs a little this time.

I completely agree. I love strip clubs but passed on quite a few "OTC" opportunities when I was a married man.  It just wasn't worth the risk of winding up as bait for blackmail or an emotional attachment that I was not prepared to deal with.  Now that I'm single I have waded into the strip club scene with much less apprehension and it's been a blast.

You are also right about how important the "clean" part is!

You've actually learned to speak in plain English, and have even been making sense of late.

and I guess it goes without saying that I agree with you. Most women who feel uncomfortable about blatant deception don't make it long as strippers. Stripping is one of the most dishonest jobs I can think of, while prostitution is one of the most honest, in spite of the fact that many men confuse a woman being good at her job for genuine feelings.

I don't know about "boundaries" I have crossed so many lines with so many providers, and a stripper or maybe a dozen of them. lol

The only boundary I can really respect and will not cross is "unwanted attention". To me no means no, and I will drop any advances I am making the moment I feel they are unwanted. Other than that, as single (divorced) man, I am free to enter into any type of relationship I choose, with whomever I choose. So I don't really get all this stuff about boundaries.

Those who know me (old timers that we are) hopefully will attest that this is to help – and not hurt the hobbiest amongst us…

I left the escort scene some time ago to pursue the stripper scene.  Why?  Because of the excitement and as the TER ad declares… “Does she, or doesn’t she” there is an excitement of not knowing the answer beforehand.  However, it does take time, skill and a bit of luck to engineer a decent “out-of-club” experience with a stripper, or for that matter, an in-club experience (there IS sex in the champagne room!).  I have now had more than a handful of encounters, including one regular who, for the life of me, I cannot determine if it is an escort experience or a true girlfriend…  just don’t know… I should say that I do know how to find out, but I am not ready for the answer just yet.  The secret is to be nice, honest, and clean!  Oddly enough, that last one is very important.  

During my sojourn, I have been very careful on who I pick (and who I allow to pick me!)… and what sorts of bells and whistles go off in the head… and one such did sound the alarm for me.  For another dude with the same chick, however, it did not!  For the record, this gal stops traffic!  She has a natural figure, beautiful exotic face and presents herself as a very sweet person….  So what happened to him… the gal took photos and made movies; she is now into him for a few hundred k… not to mention a furnished apartment… and yes, you guessed it, he is married...  She has a BF who I think is the mastermind behind all this....  

Dudes, the ladies on TER will not do this, as it goes against their business model but DOES fit the stripper model - extraction of as much cash with as little effort as possible.  So IF you do chase the forbidden fruit, examine it with the big head, as there are dangers out there…  Escorts – at least the ones reviewed herein, are safe and professional and will provide the fantasy in spades!  Anything else is NOT for the faint at heart!

that it is difficult to understand where she and I are - in any type of relationship.... and I have to say, although the sex is great, the pillow talk after is even better...  not sure of where things will go... however, suffice to say that there are things outside of the relationship that for now, dictate where it can  and cannot go... which is just as well.

I think an important factor in strip clubs is that the peer group pressure from other strippers (as well as pressure from management) to engage in deception is so big that those women who are uncomfortable with that way of operating soon leave the strip club scene.

The women are not really free to run their own businesses, as independent providers are.

When I first went to cathouses 25 years ago some of the girls also were strippers.  Now that I'm back, several of the providers I've seen started as strippers.  I don't doubt you and many others who've warned about the differences in mentality between the two professions, but does someone who started as as stripper ever completely give up that mentality?  Perhaps this is more of a danger with BP girls, and the well-reviewed TER ladies have built a business rep they would never endanger by slipping back into a stripper mentality?  What's your take on this?

Obviously when you mean clean, you mean not bad breath, not sweating like a 21 year old coked up college kid, and not some guy who just took a puerto rican shower in leui of a shower right? Just checking.

Thank you for pointing that out!  All of us are relieved as shit!  lmao!

Take a shower. Wash your shit. Gargle and brush your teeth. Nails clean and trimmed, feet and hands.

Make a great impression on the lady, physically. Be respectful and treat her for who she is. A lady. Open the door for her. Ask her what she would like as far as drinks and/or meals are concerned and order for her.

Respect is key, and will get you far. Whether the hobby or life in general.

Just cuz you have an envelope doesn't mean you have carte blanche. You're not me, for fuck sakes...

common sense.

One should expect to get burned when one plays carelessly with fire.

Re: No shit, right! .eom..

I hear you pimp playa fo real! Haha

Seems like they're crawling out of the woodwork these days.  Welcome back super.

I think its because escorts know when a guy says he wants to be friends, what he means is that he doesn't want to pay her anymore. He just assumes its OK to try and take advantage of her, and he doesn't seem to be too concerned whether she can pay her rent or what problems she has in her life. Most escorts are smart enough to know clients are not friends, they can't call them to help on moving day or if they get a flat tire.  Seems like too many hobbiest are mad because escorts are smarter than the average girl and refuse to let men waste their time.
Now take the sugar daddy, many of them have ex working girls as girlfriends, because they are willing to bring some cash to the table. They are also FREE to play around with other women, but they have to be able to afford to take care of their sugarbaby.  I find the cost the same as a BITCHY WIFE.

"and yes, you guessed it, he is married...  She has a BF who I think is the mastermind behind all this....  "

What makes you think if your married that the escort shouldn't have a bf.  Seems YOU THINK if a women has sex with someone else she doesn't care about you, why is it you can still love your wife yet bang every new escort that comes through town. WHY ALL THESE DOUBLE STANDARDS for the working girls and women in general.
Mature, well established escorts rarely have the "stripper mentality".
Men that are secure don't care whether they are in love or not, once they are mistreated they simply LEAVE.  As a man I have been used more by no pro's and misteated by many girlfriends and the only one that treated me like a king, was the escort I was too stupid to appreciate when I had her shackd up with me.  Just because a man THINKS HE LOVES A WOMEN, doesn't mean he is dumb enough to be taken for a ride.

For whatever reason, I too have met many who started as Strippers... but, they don't use the stripper business model... and many have said that the reason they don't strip, is they feel it dishonest - as there is always the promise, oh - just one more dance and I'll get you off, let you feel my pussy or whatever... whereas with providing - for the most part, once the guy gets off, he is "out of the gals hair" - so to speak.

BUT WHAT I have noticed is that there is a true change in the stripping profession - and depending on the club... well - just about anything goes.  anything.  this change has happened over the past 3-5 years, depending on the city.

No double stds... my reference to the BF is only that he (and NOT she) masterminded the plot - as it is he who confronts the dude.  MY SO happens to be married- and I could tell you tons about that - as I am the other man.... and it sucks.

Perhaps I should frequent strip clubs again.  I had some wonderful times in one particular Champagne Room just north of Mansfield, Ohio.  Cherokee!  Where are you!  My wife was sooo impressed with the lipstick mark you left on my chinos! (really, she was!)