she just may feel more comfortable or at ease with a married man ... let's face it ... a married man has so much more to loose or at stake than someone who is single ...... my 2 cents... hobby safe hobby well hobby all you can be .....

My first thought would be so they know weather to wear perfumes, burn incense, scented candles, lotions, anything in that nature that may stick with your clothes when you get home.
  If your referring to after you have arrived but before the date really gets rolling along, maybe it's so she knows that if she leaves any marks on your body you will be in deep shit.
  I'm sure there are many other reasons depending on the situation and lady, but those are the ones that come to mind right off the bat. Of course, it might just be conversation or for her own ease.


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It is somewhat amazing to see providers sometimes using perfume, knowing well, that probably 90% of their clients are married, especially if they are fit and good looking!  And perfume or scented body lotions leaves traces that a clever wife can pick up!

I don't understand the correlation between being fit and good looking and being married. Some of the hottest men I've had had the pleasure of entertaining have never been married. Could you please elaborate? My single/married client ratio is about even, nowhere near 90% of my clients are married.

By the way, I ask if a client is married simply because I like to get to know my clients. I ask if they have children, pets, horses, and pigs too. I'm not being intrusive. I never ask before the date, only during. More often than not, it's the client who asks me first if I have a boyfriend, SO or husband.

Providers asking if you have an SO during the initial contact stage. This way they know whether to use scented body lotions and/or perfume for us lucky and worry free single guys or be
au-natural for the attached & paranoid.

because usually the client mentions that he lives alone or is single and it is o.k. to leave a message or to call.Sometimes they may not be married however they still have a SO and precautions are the same w/ perfume and all. So for me they are all marriend until proven single( hahaha!).
Kisses & licks........
Mara of San Diego

I deliberately avoid asking gentlemen about their marital status as it's none of my business and may be a very touchy subject with certain men.  

But I certainly enjoy knowing more about my client's life. If he does volunteer he's married, that's great and I usually do go ahead and ask about children. I never ask if he's content with his wife or marriage, but if he does bring up the subject I'm happy to listen.

Sometimes I feel like a therapist--no extra charge!  

Regards,
Chrissy in Phoenix

They are used to asking. It is up to the individual as to how much information is shared. If you are comfortable with the provider and feel that she will keep it confidential, it's o.k.

Remember your obligation to the provider for discretion and confidentiality as well.

Not nearly as embarassing as being asked if you were a virgin (happened to me once).

Response to InterestingWoman,

In this day and age, any good looking, fit man, financially well to do, can pick up a lot of beautiful women, at least in San Diego/LA area.  That leaves seeing providers, by and large, an option for married man.  I am not "Cary Grant", but quite often I have turned down women, as to not to complicate my life any further.

If within your circle, you have a lot of single guys, which 50-50 certainly boarders on the word " a lot", my guess is you are a truly beautiful woman ... furthermore, since a lot of your dates do ask you if you are married or have a boy friend, that reinforces my theory ... you must be a beautiful woman ... or extremely charismatic.

Well, I hope I have now well established the correlation ...

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simply a sensational actress! Watch for at the Academy Awards next year

Thank you for explaining what you meant. Smart man you are not to complicate life further. I knew smart men were alive and well somewhere in this beautiful world.

considering that the vast majority of other ladies are far less forthcoming; of which many(most) take full advantage of those susceptible men who have great difficulty separating fantasy from reality. Perhaps when Shakespeare referred to, "the whole world is a stage..." he was making a commentary on the "actresses" who participate in the adult-related professions. Thank you again for such candor, it is appreciated.

Dear InterestingWoman ... you I have to see!  You are one in a million.  Will send you a private email. Hope your account is active, and I will reach you!

Otherwise, I will give you my private email address.

Some ladies may just be making conversation.  Some ladies may prefer married men because they feel that married men have more to lose and are less likely to fall in love with the provider and become a problem.  Some ladies may prefer single clients because they feel less guilt in servicing single men rather than a cheating husband or they may view the cheating married man in a less favorable light.  I am sure there are as many different reasons as there are individual ladies.

A few clients get a little nervous and they are trying to make conversation so the obvious questions are raised such as:

Are you married?
Does your partner not mind you doing this?
How did you get into this line of work?
Do you enjoy it?
Are you not worried about your safety?

Just a few questions that arise again and again.

You just get used to answering them.

Sometimes maybe the client gets romantic notions that you maybe the girl for him and he wants to know if the coast is clear.

As long as someone asks with respect I don't mind answering the questions.