Miss Kitty's friend is Alec, So.....

The handy slot must be Arse hole. LOL

Seriously, do you have any other letters for 58 across?

Kisses,
Vanica

How 'bout

Alluring
n
a
l

Oh wait. You said 2 words in  58 across...

Thanks for the help, everybody. Those clues threw me into TER mode, at first. With the remainder of the puzzle, the "handy slot" is maildrop (not "vajayjay") and "Miss Kitty's friend" is Matt (Dillon) (not "dildo" or "hobbyist"):

maildrop    (handy slot)
agree       (go along with)
thorn       (sharp spine)
tans        (gets some sun)

(Miss Kitty's friend)
(Ottoman title)
 (hair curler) --- more TER answers?
  [lers = last 4 letters of a longer answer)
   [den = last 3 letters ...]

I gotta remember that these newspaper puzzles are supposed to be G-rated.

For 45 years I lived my life blithely without a concern for having to do a certain task each day come what may.

Then twelve years ago, my eight year old daughter sat down next to me and said:  "Daddy, can you help me to do the crossword."

After ten minutes she wandered off to pursue other tasks, and I was addicted and will be for the rest of my life most likely.

You are warned!