Social media, LinkedIn, the works. No need to ever give your real info.
IF you could go back in time and speak to yourself before you saw your first escort/provider, what would you tell yourself? Have you had any big blunders and/or what rookie mistakes did you make?
Money was never really important to me beyond the means to live somewhat comfortably. Now if I could go back, earning a lot of money (such as starting a biz, etc) would be something I wish I'd pursued because it would give me carte blanche on all the hot dames out there willing to trade, err, favors, for a little cash. Now I am limited by budget.
Lower my expectations. By a lot. Lol.
I wish I had known about German FKK "clubs" sooner versus later. They are a dream come true. Nothing like it in the rest of the world, period.
Followed by you should have taken that stripper in Portland, Oregon back to your hotel. She was smoking hot, but I had a conference the next day. But, knowing what I know now, I could have skipped it without repercussion; young and stupid.
There is even a TER Board for it. Check the General Board menu.
Lots of FKK themed porn sites also. They tend to be kind of "out there".
A great concept- a smorgasbord of sex! you pay a fixed price for a fixed time! You get to fuck as many girls you want. Drinks and food, well stocked showers ... all inclusive. Generally done very nicely - no pressure, no rush ... and a great variety ...
don't get married ! LOL .. ok teasing a little .. well don't marry the first wife thats for certain!
oh and don't turn down that invitation to the playboy mansion party in the 90s!
Yeah, that's generally my first response to inquiries like this -- but given that I didn't see my first escort until after we were headed to divorce court, it would've been too late.
Within the constraints of the question, I really wouldn't have too much advice for me at that point in time. I was 38 at the time and pretty much everything else has been a learning experience -- fortunately, not with too much in the way of horrible experiences.
Some have been sub-par but that's pretty much the case with anything, right? Those have been more than compensated for by the great times with enthusiastic playmates.
I would rarely listen to advice of older people, so I don't think I would have listened to my older self either, so whatever I would have said doesn't really matter as far as me.
But for others, I agree the question of marriage can be life-changing. I married too young the first time and was divorced by 22, then I was an admitted playboy for the next nine years. Fucked closed to 2000 women without paying a single one (I was good looking then, but things change some over time - lol). I finally met a woman that I could stay loyal to, and was married without cheating or stepping out for 16 years until she passed from a sudden stroke. Since then P4P has been my preferred lifestyle. So the advice I have about marriage is, don't get married at first, get married at last. You will know better what is the perfect fit for you.
"When I was a boy of sixteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-two, I was astonished at how much he had learned in six years." - Mark Twain (attributed)
I would rarely listen to advice of older people, so I don't think I would have listened to my older self either, so whatever I would have said doesn't really matter as far as me.
Especially since being able to go back and time to speak to myself would have absolutely zero to do with the hobby and everything to do with preventing the suffering of those I’ve cared about and maybe could find ways to give them better quality of and longer life. Then, as another responder touched on, the focus would be on how I could make a better life for myself financially. What I’m talking about (investments, life choices, etc.) probably would’ve made it so I wouldn’t have needed to hobby because the gold diggers would’ve been lining up anyway.
If I could ONLY talk to my former self about hobbying, then it would be a lot of don’t see a, b, c, or d EVER and why, make sure to see x and y before they up and retire, and make sure you see z a lot more before she moves. Also to not waste time with certain websites because that alone would keep me from wasting time and money. Lastly, to make sure the camera is actually recording with this provider and that the camera isn’t upside down for that provider (2 videos what would’ve been awesome if I didn’t commit those blunders).
Oh, and this redhead chick in college who’s going to cook a fucked up dinner for you, she wants to fuck so don’t be an idiot!
Using Escort Services before TER and allowing ladies over at my Hotel without seeing what they looked like. TER and the internet changed all that mid to late 90’s
If there’s someone I think I’d really enjoy meeting, don’t put it off—DO IT. Because tomorrow she may be gone.
Social media, LinkedIn, the works. No need to ever give your real info.
Buy as many shares as you can afford in Google, Amazon and Apple. That way, I can see whoever i want.
Would tell myself, " you need to check out these two WEB Sites:
theeroticreview.com
prefered411.com
Maybe I could have told myself "Someday there will be this thing called the internet" lol
I am sure there are all sorts of things I could have told my fifteen year old self, but I really can't think of anything I could have told myself about hookers that would have helped a lot back then, besides it was so much fun finding out for myself.
You beat me....Mine was 45 years ago. Hit a Massage Parlor on 14th street in DC In 1975.
How much did your first experience cost you?
How much did your first experience cost you?
I had half a bottle of cheap Mexican Mescal in me which took away all the nervousness. lol
I was in a strip club/brothel in the Zona Norte, She pretty much dragged me upstairs, not that I needed much encouragement of course. Nor did I need a lot of time either, she sat me down in a chair, pulled off my pants and rode me to completion which took all of about two to three minutes so I guess I paid her the equivalent of $100 hr. jaja.
Kidding, kind of.
Like some others, I did not go the escort route until heading for divorce court in my early 50's. I literally stumbled on P411 which lead me to TER. So here is a little list.
1) I would not have wasted money at the VIP room of strip clubs
2) I would not have had my first escort experience in a Nevada Brothel. Too expensive and too many rules.
3) While having an ATF is great, variety is good too. I spent almost one year with one provider.
4) Don't make the rookie mistakes around the two call system, showing up early, talking going out the door, all those moments I wish I could take back. But, we learn by doing.
Strictly hobby advice: Not much I would change so the only advice I'd give is probably don't lose track of the good ones. I kicked myself for losing track of a couple of ladies who were really special.
Outside the hobby: Don't get married a second time. What a fucking waste of emotional energy that was.
Sometimes, a picture tells an ENTIRELY different story--(don't underestimate the effects of an "airbrushed" photo!) Kind of like that famous Droopy cartoon when his rival (Spike) wins a date with a "beauty queen" only to get a little "surprise"!! (Fast forward to the 2:22 mark--priceless!!)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QE3QEDMK7v4
Speak to myself to avoid regret? By example, it’s a no and Yes to rookie success and mistake.
No, rookie mistake: I already did my due diligence of a well-reviewed that was up to date, and checked over her professional ad with photos, but she was leaving next day when I called her that evening. So after a several texts back and forth, I decided to pull the trigger and go for it as she was leaving the next day. My appointment went past midnight, and it was the best decision and most memorable with a provider’ that exceeded my expectations. No regrets, and a great memory to this day. I hit a grand slam.
Yes, rookie mistake: it took me about a week to see her, and she was cautious as it was at her place. So with several emails back and forth, I think my last request convinced her to go ahead. She had spotty reviews, but she was the first one I've ever called a couple of years back, however I was shy to pull the trigger. (It was a void that kept me wondering what she’d be like, and I was attracted to her photos.) I traveled up to an hour and a half, and when I saw her, I was let down as she didn’t match her pictures; after all, older and heavier. Since I already gave her the gratuity envelop, it was too late to get it back. What transpired is she didn’t provide, which is my fault because I made the mistake asking for the envelope back to which she wouldn’t give it. She stood her ground, and had all angles covered and justified why; she told me she would be losing money and time because she could have gone with someone else same night, and that her ad stated time only. What transpired was just a cordial conversation, enough for me to take a rest before I drove the long ride back. I take the blame on this one, and chalk it up to experience. I struck out and was benched for some time before saving up money for the next one.
What I’d do differently, especially after the second encounter, is stick with the program to the well-reviewed and up to date with a professional ad that is consistent, just like I did the first time around. Nothing new, and I see it often stated and restated here in the newbie and general comments. I wouldn't travel as far, either.
Had my first Hooker in 68. I was a youngster
My advice to myself would be to upgrade quality (back then) and enjoy her for personality along with the good stuff.
Have had some amazing personal relationships with escorts
As an older client have learned to avoid the 20 year old “hardbodies “
Give me an experienced provider anytime and will enjoy the ride