I 've been hitting the TER website for 4 years now---have seen the websites of hundreds of providers, the vast majority who seem to be very sweet---there was ONE exception, tho---:

several months back, hit the site of a high-end
provider & immediately went to the photo gallery section-----VERY attractive. Then backtracked to her bio section where she made an ostentatious
show of her "education" & erudition. She then stated if a hobbyist went to the photo gallery before hitting her bio section, she wasn't interested in seeeing them !

Hey-----I'm a college grad-----but truth be known, I ALWAYS go to the photo gallery first, like 99 % of TER horny hobbyists. Needless to say, I found this to be slightly irritating----

Any thoughts on this from hobbyists & providers ?

like her way of saying she wants guys who are interested in meeting HER, not just hooking up.  An interesting come-on from a provider, but it is what it is.  Irritating?  Really?

If I were you and wanted to see her, I just would never admit I looked at the pix first.

How the hell would she know if you did or didnt go to her photo's first??  lol

Sounds to me she is just a little too full of herself.  Oh wait..it's her "mind" everyone is after...right?  WTF ever!

TER is a fuck site--- period. Every guy wants the pics 1s and then get sucked/fucked.  HELLO!

Maybe she was hoping to attract gents who were looking for company not just sex... Sex, in her case, is just an afterthought...

Not to say C vs. E that you cant be both or that there really is a difference, but maybe to her there is?

I think that there are limitless reasons women and men participate in this hobby. She has her's and she feels that somehow adding that phrase does something to filter her clientele...

We are all meaning making machines... and her statement has a meaning that you are choosing to make mean something else...

So I say if she looks good to you, and you have the money, ask her for a "date" and see what it is like. Then report it back to us... YMMV...

I would be curious to see if her statements made a difference on the experience...

Perhaps this is just her way of "dealing" with her choosen profession.  Instead of calling herself a "hooker" she can feel better calling herself an "educated companion", whatever.

If you think of the providers what works best for them? A different John everytime? Or a regular who they have already built some chemistry, and figured out likes and dislikes.

I also think R_bear is on to something C vs E is big possiblity.

Personally just go visit her you are the one with the donation not her :-P

You're kidding me.  I agree that getting laid is why we're here, but there's so much more than that.  My best experiences are with ladies I can talk to, feel comfortable with, flirt with, and treat them right and make them feel as good as they make me feel.  My worst experiences are when treating this as a "fuck and go".   I'd much rather "forget it was a service" myself and you can only do that with certain ladies.

Priapus: Whatever the websites says, it just states a little bit about the provider and her personality. Obviously, she is in it for more than just the bang for a buck. Please don't be offended.

Rather, just skip over the bio and head straight for the pictures. I doubt she'll know you did that, and then perhaps you will want to make a date with her. It might be a good idea to email her and get a feel for her personality.

I really think she just wants men who are not only interested in sex but in her intelligence, hence she wants more of a date than a f u _ _. You'll find all types of websites, and what appeals to some men won't to others.

Happy hunting!

Hugs,
Ciara

Ciara---let me state this upfront so there won't be any misunderstandings------- I have a VERY high regard for vast majority of TER courtesans &
escorts---( & this includes you ) I think they
perform a very therapeutic need (companionship,
eroticism ), in a society where many men deeply crave that kind of affection----to me, it's a noble calling.

That being said, I wasn't offended by the escort I mentioned in the beginning of my thread---but I
DID detect ( & this is a subjective call on my part---others will see it differently ),a bit of an "attitude" which would not make me want to frequent her.

Of course, this cuts both ways----hobbyists can have a bit of an attitude also.In fact, there is ONE hobbyist who frequently posts here who spews the most nauseating, woman-hating,misogynistic garbage imaginable. I usually need a vomit bag to read his stuff. So it DOES cut both ways----
I'm just trying to be "fair & balanced"----- ( God-------I'm using THAT slogan ?!---lol ).

You think the "flirting" is real????   You think most any CARE what YOU have to say?????  DELUSIONS!!!!   You must be drunk, or a VERY SLOW traveler.  They all tell you you are great in the sack too?????   LMAO

WHO WANTS TO ESTABLISH A CONNECTION WITH SOMEONE WHO CLEARLY HAS DIFFICULTY WITH CONNECTING (IE: UNDERSTANDING MEN) ?

LISA BUTLER - THE THINKING MAN'S ESCORT

XO LISA

I have to take a bit of an issue with this simply because, as a provider, flirting matters a lot!  For the experience to be great, the provider has to enjoy herself too.  A guy who flirts a little is fun and can truly turn me on.  That's going to affect how great it is for both of us.

I agree with your insights. However, it is unfortunate that many of her relationships may begin with a big lie at the outset, given most men will look at her pics first. Though it has been pointed out numerously, on this site, that the hobbying realionship has a major fantasy component, some essential trust must be in place, particularly in regards to safety (LE, lack of disease, non-violent behavior, etc.) A man who is thinking that a lie must be told first, in order to get what he wants from a woman, may be more prone to disregard these other areas of trust; not that it's right.

Most of us are visual creatures, but personally I look for other signs that tell me she's a "go" or a "no".  If pushed, I could probably assemble a list, but most likely I'd leave off a fair percentage of things.  I believe there to be an intangible aspect to attraction.  I want to be attracted to the woman I'm spending time with, in more than just a physical way" if at all possible.

She apparently hit your "no" button, and that's OK.  Maybe you've mis-read her, or not, but I think it's important to gain a sense that you'll have fun as well as pop a nut.

Fair & balanced???  I don't think we can forgive that comment.  Go to your room...

I want to know there will be a physical attraction for me.  Let's face it, I'm paying the money.  But I'm also looking for the GFE, not wham, bam, thank you maam!  

So then I'll go read the bios and see what she has to say.  Her comments wouldn't turn me off.  I would just never admit to her that I looked at the photos first if we hit it off.  

And the "Go to your room" part was funny.

I think he meant well. I know there are certain things on my website that I've wondered about, but then I hear from most of my gentleman friends to keep the bio on mine. I guess it's a case of "read or move on."

Anyway, happy hunting to everyone!

Hugs,
Ciara

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No matter what you do in life, you get out of it what you put into it.  If one chooses, they can set the money on the counter, get laid, and leave without hardly saying a word.  I choose to invest a little bit of emotion in my hobbying so that I can get out of it some genuine friendships and interaction as well as something a bit beyond just an appointment.   I know for a fact I am not the only one here that does this, and any of the ladies I have seen will vouch for it.

You can choose to hobby however you like.  I'll take the extra little bit of affection, feigned or otherwise, that comes from doing it my way and be quite happy about it.

I would have to say that as a provider, while I understand someone's intentions in meeting with me, it is much appreciated and makes for an ultimately better time when someone wants to have a genuine conversation with you and takes the time to flirt and all that. It's cute and it's something that I respond to very well, at least.

I can speak from experience and I have to say that he is a genuinely nice guy, lots of fun to be around and his gestures are much appreciated during appointments. I look forward to seeing Slo.

Katie

Look no further. I agree with you completely. If I were in your position, she would of hit the same "lets move on to the next lady" button that she hit with you.

As you said, I would not be offended, but I would definitely be moving on to the next ad. a little "attitude" might be a good thing in a relationship, but I'm certainly not looking for that "quality" in a provider.

Just my $.02, and probably worth much less.

Thank you very much, I look forward to seeing you too...

Ciara, You caught my eye here on TER and after I spent time with you, I will always remember you.  You are a real sweetheart and I continue to try to figure out a way to get to Phoenix.

I'm curious, why do you refer to yourself in the
3rd personbfor half your webpage?
You aren't the only one so I figured I'd ask.

Thanks.

What I would do:

See her. Fuck her. Pull out, remove condom and erupt on her face.  Then ask her, "Do you have a camera?  This would make a great photo for your website!"

and I see both sides of it.  On one hand, I can see how a "hobbyist" would be rubbed the wrong way by the statement.  On the other hand, I understand the message she is trying to send.

Gents, so many of us want to think of our encounter with you as a real date and not just a "pump-n-dump" and I probably lead the pack. I realized not long ago that this business CAN BE about so much more if you are open to the possibilities.

Just my $.50.

Smooches,
Cami

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