Ever done something for you that makes you able to deal with life in a better way ...see I have 2 who make me forget my work , after an hour I'm relaxed not a worry in the world ....how come my girlfriends can't do this ? Okay these 2 know a lot about me , they listen without a motive . They call me on special days , my birthday , Christmas etc..and listen Otto my bitching ...how come civvie girls don't get it ???? Is it that they want my stuff ? lol....is it all about getting a ring , a car or living in my house , or me taking them away ( I travel a lot ) ..am I doomed to relationships that go nowhere and hot girls on the side ??? I mean what's this really all about ? Oh TOBI , I've got the HOTTS for U , baby you spin me right round ! Any chance of a link I love that song flo rida ....!
Oh and dawg if u moved but still have all your crappy stuff its just a new old place , yup that's how that works ! Get new shit and a new look ....new hair cut the same 1 since your 12 is played out ....! L8r ....
You can't have an escape from life unless you have a life to escape from in the first place.
We need an escape every once in a while because by definition life is full of the problems of getting done the things that have to be done for life to go on. That means work, fretting over money, dealing with the kids, getting the car fixed, ad infinitum.
We pay gals to give us those few hours every so often so we have an environment where we can just forget our cares and be pampered. It's not real, and thank God it isn't real. That's why having any kind of drama in a P4P situation sucks; it drains the fun that we need out of the situation.
Not all relationships are doomed. You just have to be realistic and be willing to put into them as much as you get out of them. It pays to be very choosey about whom you share your life with as well.
Yes its hard Mr.Fish , see my gf has issues..life aint easy .lol....drama isn't wanted however its hard to avoid when you care ....providers are a release, drama free fun , you know no strings and all....thanks Mr.Fish your a nice man..oh well , as bill wrote all the world's a stage and we merely players ....guess I'll sit back and see how things play out ..nice day today spring is here at last nothing like a sunny day and a walk in the park , chipmunks chipping and beautiful women waiting to get noticed ......got to love it , I do ..!
Posted By: mrfisher
You can't have an escape from life unless you have a life to escape from in the first place.
We need an escape every once in a while because by definition life is full of the problems of getting done the things that have to be done for life to go on. That means work, fretting over money, dealing with the kids, getting the car fixed, ad infinitum.
We pay gals to give us those few hours every so often so we have an environment where we can just forget our cares and be pampered. It's not real, and thank God it isn't real. That's why having any kind of drama in a P4P situation sucks; it drains the fun that we need out of the situation.
Not all relationships are doomed. You just have to be realistic and be willing to put into them as much as you get out of them. It pays to be very choosey about whom you share your life with as well.
Then they get wifey.
Maybe that's why I like GFEs, they are still in the escape stage.
And make a great impression, even the calls etc are not time consuming and part of the "follow up". A real life SO cannot possibly be "on" all the time. And a hooker is being paid well to be on her best for the time. Unless you want to pay a real life Gf to be like that, you get reality. A shock I know but the truth.
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Behave like providers all the time , see I'm losing that battle ....
....they want shit and don't act right .. giving them shit I don't mind but the drama part is really hard ...can't they just shop n fuck ?????
Posted By: hbyist+truth=;(
And make a great impression, even the calls etc are not time consuming and part of the "follow up". A real life SO cannot possibly be "on" all the time. And a hooker is being paid well to be on her best for the time. Unless you want to pay a real life Gf to be like that, you get reality. A shock I know but the truth.
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Have sex with her sometimes? If we all chipped in, and shared the upkeep and the pleasure of her, she'd probably change her attitude. You might like her better. Suggest the idea to her and see what she thinks.
Where Jerry and George date this one girl because they figure MAYBE the 2 of them can make 1 man and be enough for her.
Perhaps we are all built to get different things from different people...
I would say more but my first three posts didn't get through. I think it was the "pussy-like drama" comment that got their attention.
And for this very reason, I don't want a SO. What is the upside? I'm too selfish to endure the drama of a relationship, thus I'm divorced. If it weren't for the hobby I'd have to endure all the bullshit and drama just to get laid. But thankfully, there is the hobby, and these wonderful women in it give me what I want and what I need so that I don't have to deal with any of the bullshit and the drama.
Here's a PM I tried to send you, but like a previous post suggested, you can't get PM's.
LMFAO. This was my post to your "duplicate posting", until it was deleted too.
"I guess it wasn't a duplicate after all! truth+admin=delete lol eom"
I attempted to convey the same message and I knew there would be providers that would say this very thing. This is exactly why I love the hobby life, I get their best without the drama and the bullshit. And they get paid very well to give me that window of pleasure. Win/win.
If I say of myself that it is only from my own case that I know what the word "pain" means - must I not say the same of other people too? And how can I generalize the one case so irresponsibly?
Now someone tells me that he knows what pain is only from his own case! --Suppose everyone had a box with something in it: we call it a "beetle". No one can look into anyone else's box, and everyone says he knows what a beetle is only by looking at his beetle. --Here it would be quite possible for everyone to have something different in his box. One might even imagine such a thing constantly changing. --But suppose the word "beetle" had a use in these people's language? --If so it would not be used as the name of a thing. The thing in the box has no place in the language-game at all; not even as a something: for the box might even be empty. --No, one can 'divide through' by the thing in the box; it cancels out, whatever it is.
That is to say: if we construe the grammar of the expression of sensation on the model of 'object and designation' the object drops out of consideration as irrelevant.
Ludwig Wittgenstein. Philosphical Investigations Sec 293
A retired provider that I've been close friends with gave me a really nice birthday gift a while ago, expensive one too. I did not see that one coming, but it made my day. It's the thought that counts. 
Remember, Love is the answer, but while you're waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty good questions.
that Sex without feeling is an empty emotion, that as empty emotions go, it's one of the best.
He's a guy who knows a thing or two about sex, and I say that in partial reverence.
here's another:
Sex relieves tension — love causes it.
I think finding the balance is the challenge... we seem to have some understanding of the basics already from Woody.
Woody also said, "my shrink asked if I thought sex was dirty. I said it is if you're doing it right."
I'll be the first to admit that I'm below average in looks, but he isn't much better if any better looking than I am.
Jabba the Hut could get laid three times a day if he were able to promise women a movie career and make them believe it.
and I have never met you, but I am willing to bet that unless you have a huge hump on your back, you are most likely better looking than him. I mean even I am better looking than Woody Allen and only Turdwell is a bigger whiner.
Providers: They are here to pleasure you sexually. For best results, both you & her should leave all the drama at home.
Physiologist/Psychiatrist: They are here to listen to all your drama. (No sex allowed)
Social Worker: If you can't afford the Physiologist/Psychiatrist
SO: When you can't afford any of the above. However, they are not professionals, so generally, you get what you pay for/deserve.
...you don't relate to them the rest of the time.
The provider leaves her daily problems at the door.
Your girlfriend shares them with you.
You see the provider when she is functioning at a level of energy that cannot be maintained 24/7.
Your girlfriend lives 24/7, and you see her at various energy pitches, the highs and the lows.
The provider doesn't care about how much you whine and complain, or inept you are at the things you do.
Your girlfriend does care about who you are as a person, wishes you'd improve somewhat, and gets real tired of hearing you gripe.
You pay your provider.
Not having much money left, you have to cut corners when with your girlfriend.
These are some of the reasons why the time you spend with a provider relaxes you more than the time you spend with your girlfriend. Your girlfriend AND the provider both get it. They understand all this with ease. If you explained the difference in your feelings to your girlfriend, she'd have absolutely no problem understanding, and that would go a long way to making life better for both of you.
Hobbies are fun. Real life, not as much. Long term relationships are work. You may be a little immature for a relationship right now, which is why this world could be perfect for you.
OT, OTOH, when a provider told me she loved me recently after only two sessions but many hours of OTC phone time (while I was struggling with a sick family member), I took it with a big grain of salt. I believe that she is only seeing the relaxed "honeymoon"/vacation side of me. (or she simply is looking for a financial exit but I am not feeling as cynical today) I am also well aware that if worlds collide that not only will I enjoy the "hobby" less but there could be disastrous consequences for me financially, maritally, and, otherwise, socially.
My takeaway is always enjoy what you can. Life is short.
Posted By: Back_In_Black
Ever done something for you that makes you able to deal with life in a better way ...see I have 2 who make me forget my work , after an hour I'm relaxed not a worry in the world ....how come my girlfriends can't do this ? Okay these 2 know a lot about me , they listen without a motive . They call me on special days , my birthday , Christmas etc..and listen Otto my bitching ...how come civvie girls don't get it ???? Is it that they want my stuff ? lol....is it all about getting a ring , a car or living in my house , or me taking them away ( I travel a lot ) ..am I doomed to relationships that go nowhere and hot girls on the side ??? I mean what's this really all about ? Oh TOBI , I've got the HOTTS for U , baby you spin me right round ! Any chance of a link I love that song flo rida ....!
Oh and dawg if u moved but still have all your crappy stuff its just a new old place , yup that's how that works ! Get new shit and a new look ....new hair cut the same 1 since your 12 is played out ....! L8r ....
Posted By: bonordonor
you+penis=:-0 (sausagefest) Just Jokin
or is this the provider that just found out your real name?
and how do you plan on getting married to this ex hooker if you are already married? Your three posts don't seem to reconcile too well. So which is it?
...but it depends. Sometimes what the teacher(s) teach is not what the student(s) learn.
...I don't hear it in your post. I don't see you dealing with your life in a very good way at all. You might be relaxed, or that's what you say, but your OP doesn't SOUND at all relaxed. You sound confused and angry. Are you sure your two providers aren't making your life more confused? That they don't make you angrier?
Maybe your girlfriend doesn't WANT you to be angry. Maybe she wants you to just muddle through like everybody else does. You spread yourself way too thick on the thin life you're living.
Maybe you should work on that. If you go on like this, you're just going to always be pestering people. Nobody will like you then. Not even the providers. Nobody likes a pest. I'm sure you know some pests, people who pester you from time to time. Do you like those people? Probably not. So don't be a pest. Don't whine and complain about how your girlfriend doesn't measure up to these other women. That isn't respectful of her. Why tell everybody that?
Posted By: Back_In_Black
Ever done something for you that makes you able to deal with life in a better way ...see I have 2 who make me forget my work , after an hour I'm relaxed not a worry in the world ....how come my girlfriends can't do this ? Okay these 2 know a lot about me , they listen without a motive . They call me on special days , my birthday , Christmas etc..and listen Otto my bitching ...how come civvie girls don't get it ???? Is it that they want my stuff ? lol....is it all about getting a ring , a car or living in my house , or me taking them away ( I travel a lot ) ..am I doomed to relationships that go nowhere and hot girls on the side ??? I mean what's this really all about ? Oh TOBI , I've got the HOTTS for U , baby you spin me right round ! Any chance of a link I love that song flo rida ....!
Oh and dawg if u moved but still have all your crappy stuff its just a new old place , yup that's how that works ! Get new shit and a new look ....new hair cut the same 1 since your 12 is played out ....! L8r ....
Okay , Time with 2 girls is fun , no stress maybe because deep down I really don't care ( or do I ) or is it that they are great at what they do ???? Saying what I need to hear , or saying nothing at all at times ....pampering me or just ??? who knows ...know relationships are work , hard work and not always fun...its complicated ...as life is with these matters of the heart ....good response though ...
Posted By: WickedBrut
...I don't hear it in your post. I don't see you dealing with your life in a very good way at all. You might be relaxed, or that's what you say, but your OP doesn't SOUND at all relaxed. You sound confused and angry. Are you sure your two providers aren't making your life more confused? That they don't make you angrier?
Maybe your girlfriend doesn't WANT you to be angry. Maybe she wants you to just muddle through like everybody else does. You spread yourself way too thick on the thin life you're living.
Maybe you should work on that. If you go on like this, you're just going to always be pestering people. Nobody will like you then. Not even the providers. Nobody likes a pest. I'm sure you know some pests, people who pester you from time to time. Do you like those people? Probably not. So don't be a pest. Don't whine and complain about how your girlfriend doesn't measure up to these other women. That isn't respectful of her. Why tell everybody that?
Posted By: Back_In_Black
Ever done something for you that makes you able to deal with life in a better way ...see I have 2 who make me forget my work , after an hour I'm relaxed not a worry in the world ....how come my girlfriends can't do this ? Okay these 2 know a lot about me , they listen without a motive . They call me on special days , my birthday , Christmas etc..and listen Otto my bitching ...how come civvie girls don't get it ???? Is it that they want my stuff ? lol....is it all about getting a ring , a car or living in my house , or me taking them away ( I travel a lot ) ..am I doomed to relationships that go nowhere and hot girls on the side ??? I mean what's this really all about ? Oh TOBI , I've got the HOTTS for U , baby you spin me right round ! Any chance of a link I love that song flo rida ....!
Oh and dawg if u moved but still have all your crappy stuff its just a new old place , yup that's how that works ! Get new shit and a new look ....new hair cut the same 1 since your 12 is played out ....! L8r ....
New everything.. Even new dishes...
Left everything to the roomate.
Even quit smoking cigarettes.. Two weeks today!!!
Filling my place with art instead of posters is really fucking expensive!
I never intended to become such a whoremonger.
I'm afraid I may have fucked myself up.
This can become an addiction.. The women, and the board.
That's why I've been acting so weird latly..
Well weirder than normal anyway
For you , and remember always love yourself 1st ....set a standard to be met by those ladies in your life and never settle for anything less than the best to you ....and art you say ? Care to share ...and the cigs stay away , I can't quit to much stress I always go back ....not you though stay strong bro ...your pal bib......
Posted By: TheHoundOfCullin
New everything.. Even new dishes...
Left everything to the roomate.
Even quit smoking cigarettes.. Two weeks today!!!
Filling my place with art instead of posters is really fucking expensive!
I never intended to become such a whoremonger.
I'm afraid I may have fucked myself up.
This can become an addiction.. The women, and the board.
That's why I've been acting so weird latly..
Well weirder than normal anyway!
The hound has been acting even weirder than normal.
See these kids today live a different life style , kinda like a sit com ...he even has art know and dishes ...frat life is over..next he'll meet a real girl and have some puppies .....and we'll be uncles and a whole liter to choose from .
Posted By: GaGambler
The hound has been acting even weirder than normal.
Bring it
I started, and quit smoking before I was legally old enough to buy booze.
I quit in 2002. When I told my Doctor that I had successfully quit he told me " you have done the single most important thing that you could ever do for your health". No offense meant to current smokers, but that is the most disgusting awful habit that there is, in my opinion. And you live you life around cigarettes, someone would call me and say hey let's go golfing after work and I'd say ok but I've got to stop at the store on the way there to get cigs, or I'd be going out on the boat for the weekend and I'd have to figure out how many packs I'd need and add a few, because you sure can't get stranded somewhere without them. Ugh, what an awful habit, so glad I kicked it. And hey by the way, even though you may have urges, at 2 weeks quit your body is no longer addicted to nicotine, so it's just a mental thing from here on out. Awesome job man, not that you need any validation from me.
I never realized..
Sorry ladies....
Posted By: russbbj
I quit in 2002. When I told my Doctor that I had successfully quit he told me " you have done the single most important thing that you could ever do for your health". No offense meant to current smokers, but that is the most disgusting awful habit that there is, in my opinion. And you live you life around cigarettes, someone would call me and say hey let's go golfing after work and I'd say ok but I've got to stop at the store on the way there to get cigs, or I'd be going out on the boat for the weekend and I'd have to figure out how many packs I'd need and add a few, because you sure can't get stranded somewhere without them. Ugh, what an awful habit, so glad I kicked it. And hey by the way, even though you may have urges, at 2 weeks quit your body is no longer addicted to nicotine, so it's just a mental thing from here on out. Awesome job man, not that you need any validation from me.
I have no idea how to interpret that bit addressed to me but xoxo anyway!
Posted By: Back_In_Black
Ever done something for you that makes you able to deal with life in a better way ...see I have 2 who make me forget my work , after an hour I'm relaxed not a worry in the world ....how come my girlfriends can't do this ? Okay these 2 know a lot about me , they listen without a motive . They call me on special days , my birthday , Christmas etc..and listen Otto my bitching ...how come civvie girls don't get it ???? Is it that they want my stuff ? lol....is it all about getting a ring , a car or living in my house , or me taking them away ( I travel a lot ) ..am I doomed to relationships that go nowhere and hot girls on the side ??? I mean what's this really all about ? Oh TOBI , I've got the HOTTS for U , baby you spin me right round ! Any chance of a link I love that song flo rida ....!
Oh and dawg if u moved but still have all your crappy stuff its just a new old place , yup that's how that works ! Get new shit and a new look ....new hair cut the same 1 since your 12 is played out ....! L8r ....
What's funny is so many here think bib was some secret shit , hidden agenda handle ..they didn't know it was AC/DC...and "money talks" has to be the provider theme song ....lol...
I will say this... Tobi has some good taste in music. So I'm sure she did know that reference.
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Word.
Posted By: CurlyW - Nats Fan
I will say this... Tobi has some good taste in music. So I'm sure she did know that reference.
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That BCG makes crazy lustful with her fingertips caressing the keyboard, always knowing exactly which key to push to make us go out of our mind. Still don't understand how you do it, Tobi, but you do do it.
More like thumbtips caressing my iphone.
Posted By: 2labman
That BCG makes crazy lustful with her fingertips caressing the keyboard, always knowing exactly which key to push to make us go out of our mind. Still don't understand how you do it, Tobi, but you do do it.
I can't help but to think how visually stimulating the journey must be from your lips to your lips. And I kick myself in the ass (figuratively of course, not that coordinated) every time I think that why didn't I see you when I still lived on the north coast of Ohio
Big mistake , big , huge ! LOL ...and her lips sweet as sugar and like honey ....;..nectar of the gods ...
Posted By: russbbj
I can't help but to think how visually stimulating the journey must be from your lips to your lips. And I kick myself in the ass (figuratively of course, not that coordinated) every time I think that why didn't I see you when I still lived on the north coast of Ohio
to see her from where I used to live is a 4 1/2 drive, now I'm going to have to take 2 flights with layovers. But I suspect it's going to be worth it, I'll bet she can rock my world
Know how damn cool she was ...and perhaps she will tour your area ....send her some pm I'm sure toll get a rise ..have a great weekend Russ and the best to you bro ....l8r.
Posted By: russbbj
to see her from where I used to live is a 4 1/2 drive, now I'm going to have to take 2 flights with layovers. But I suspect it's going to be worth it, I'll bet she can rock my world
Posted By: Back_In_Black
Know how damn cool she was ...and perhaps she will tour your area ....send her some pm I'm sure toll get a rise ..have a great weekend Russ and the best to you bro ....l8r.
Posted By: russbbj
to see her from where I used to live is a 4 1/2 drive, now I'm going to have to take 2 flights with layovers. But I suspect it's going to be worth it, I'll bet she can rock my world
But something else that's for sure xoxoxo....good old american WOOD !!!.........
Your sweet Tobi , stay that way ...xoxo
Posted By: BadCollegeGirl
Posted By: Back_In_Black
Know how damn cool she was ...and perhaps she will tour your area ....send her some pm I'm sure toll get a rise ..have a great weekend Russ and the best to you bro ....l8r.
Posted By: russbbj
to see her from where I used to live is a 4 1/2 drive, now I'm going to have to take 2 flights with layovers. But I suspect it's going to be worth it, I'll bet she can rock my world
Providers only have to see you and deal with you for 2 or 3 hours at a time. If a provider is a good actress, the best providers are, then she will be able to make you feel like the King of the world for that short amount of time. It's a fantasy that they sell, they make good money doing it and the good ones are as booked as they want to be. But your GF has to deal with all the other bullshit, the farting, the snoring the crabbyness the selfishness and so it's not as easy to give you the fantasy. The short amount of our lives spent with providers is seen through rose colored glasses because when we or they show up, you and I know we are about to get laid, so we are in a great mood. They seize upon that great mood, because they are professionals (lol, the right lady will smile at that one).and they know they don't have to deal with the worst of us if they do their job right.
Your GF has to see the other sides of you, so the glass that she sees you through is clear.
