Ladies, what is your perception when a client fails to rise to the situation? I will admit, it happened recently, not sure if it was nerves, not enough time between pops, not sure. The provider seemed a bit annoyed, I'm not sure why it's not like there is a no performance refund.

Hi there,
The only reason she would,have got cross at your hiccup in performance would be because she's got low self esteem issues and sees your lack of get up and go as a personal slight on her! I'd just ignore it, it happens to all guys at one time or another, those of us who are professional would smooth it over not get pissed

They want a dick that can rise to the occasion.

the provider was annoyed? That's silly in my book. You can't help what the body won't naturally do.

It happens much more often to YOUR johns.

it happened with the gentlemen I have met, did I

It's a well known fact that septugenarian johns almost always sport wood on demand for a BSC hooker.

I had gentlemen have that problem when they take certain type of medication.. I feel that you can still make someone happy with a nice massage.. Wine, great conversation when physically the stars won't align right?

Or timing between pops. The lady has to be really hot and I have to be prepared to get 2 pops in a hour. I recommend that you get your rest, get a morning appointment or afternoon appointment right after you eat for a multi pop appointment. If you want a guaranteed for 2 pops book a multiple hour appointment. Also it could be hydration. If you coming from the gym stay out steam room, sauna and whirlpool. Those places will dehydrate you. It also helps that you drink plenty of fluids before the appointment. Pineapple juice is good between pops. Also try to go the bathroom before going to the next round.

you're a class act.  

Instead of viagra or injections do swimming. Then go have a session. Your blood vessels will be opened up naturally after swimming and you will be rock hard.

Dear Ms. Steele the cerebral woman with the sex appeal:
I was wondering in your vast experiences as an adult companionship professional with a concentration on the copulatory and urological arts, what are some of the tricks to the trade when this challenge comes up for men? How do you get them to respond in kind with your sensual and femine touches? Please be fair and share.  Thanks.

How old are you?

50.

"concentration on the copulatory and urological arts"

Dear Duplicitouslust, the cerebral dinosaur who vomits a thesaurus:

Check back with me in about 10-12 years.

I mean, to make it "up" to her. smh

Just bear in mind that dupy certainly gets his rocks off writing this crap and also lives in the hope he'll get a girl to describe lewd acts in response to him so he can jizz on his keyboard.

I'd guess it's the guy with the handle that starts with Dupli...

spelling and writing a well formulated paragraph without a derogatory hit, I'd be happy to answer. I personally have no 'tricks to the trade' in this scenario, although I'm sure some women may. And in all honesty this has happened so rarely and never on a first (dare I say it 'pop') unless his psyche was so over controlled with nervousness in meeting, that it literally took over.  

And he also writes so poorly it's hard to know WTF he means.  Combine that with severe "no-game-itis" and you have quite a mess.

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careful with those 'injections'. While I know many men use them, there are many natural ways as he stated (swimming) to try to get to where you need to be. Putting 'stuff' in the bod no matter how quick a fix it is, can't be good for the long haul. That makes me nervous. Just please be careful.  

I can have a raging roger from bbbj, and she'll put a condom on me for full service and I can't maintain and I mean it matters not how hot she is, my ATF is the most beautiful woman I've ever met in person and the same thing. She actually told me that it's fairly common that some men just have a mental block to condoms. Damn, I wish I could get past that mental block, I haven't been able to cum during vaginal sex since I've been divorced. But I don't miss it enough to get a civie GF.

You need to find ladies that use female condoms. The difference in feel is amazing

The injectibles have been around for about 30 years. As long as the user stays within the safe dosage range determined by his doctor, there's usually no adverse side effects.

I can understand a guy with ED wanting to ensure that he can perform, but why would still being hard whether you want to or not two hours later at work be considered a "good" thing?

speaking strictly for myself, if I had the slightest problem "getting it up" I wouldn't want to waste any of that time sitting behind my computer at work.

tea or add some lemon balm to a cup of herbal tea before an appnt. Should ease your anxiety just a bit as long as it doesn't make you sleepy lol. Do a test 'before' an appnt and see how it makes you feel. Most importantly just BREATH...there are excellent breathing exercises to help with this sort of thing that help in daily everyday stresses of life as well as coping with nervousness and anxiety.  

The first time I ever tried I actually pulled out and started to accuse the lady of going BB on me, it felt that good.

The other great thing is you don't have to break the momentum going from foreplay to penetration, which I believe is where a lot of guys lose their wood, especially when the woman is a bit clumsy or finicky about the way she puts the condom on. I don't have a problem staying hard in a condom most of the time, although finishing in one is definitely an issue for me. That said, even I have lost wood and had a hard time regaining it when the lady fumbles around for five minutes trying to get the condom on to HER satisfaction, and then follows that by taking another ten minutes trying to get into a "comfortable" position for sex, by that time I have most likely lost all desire to fuck her.

I'm convinced it just a mental block for me, and so I guess I keep reinforcing that every time I say it. It's almost like the little guy is getting suffocated by the condom, he starts strong but I can't maintain.

She was "annoyed" at the thought of all the work she had to do to get it up.

Tea? You gotta be kidding me.

I've suffered all my adult life with anxiety and depression, although both have subsided a lot in the last decade.  

I've seen that more and more ladies are female condom friendly now. I agree about the fumbling and with that stupid mental block I'm usually completely flaccid by the time it gets on. Or I guess I could see a professional about the mental block, but I don't want someone to tell me how BSC I am.

GaGambler, I did that for testing purposes. I don't just shoot up with the stuff to sit around with a hard on. I want to know what dosages to use for two hours, three hours, etc. I'm still pretty new to the injections routine.

through to you am I LOL. Babe, perhaps it's the VALIUM that's done the bod in.... NOT GOOD. But from one 'naturalist' to someone who believes in 'pharmaceuticals', I know this discussion will not end well and we can just agree to disagree and leave it at that.  

I had misunderstood that you actually enjoyed still sporting wood for another two hours after having sex, and that simply made no sense to me. Ensuring that you can/could go for another couple of hours makes perfect sense.

Getting shot up simply to have sex does seem like an extreme measure, but I am sure it beats not having sex at all. I am sure you want to make the most out of every minute you can after going to such extremes. Good luck, and yeah I don't think "tea" is going to cut it either. Natural remedies work just fine when their is nothing wrong with you in the first place. I could just as easily claim that getting drunk almost every day is my "secret" to good health. After all I do drink like a fish, I am in perfect health, so why not connect the dots to come with a "cause and effect" conclusion??? rofl

Taylor, I don't take anything that I don't absolutely have to. I put off using ED meds until I started hobbying. I knew from the experiences with my ex that things wouldn't go well without help.

as long as you believe he really is 90 years old.

and yes you do have the body of a 30 year old, and occasionally the bodies of women anywhere from 18-48, but unlike your 90 year old body, you have to give theirs back after "rental" period is up.

Or maybe just having a few before, and/or during a session? As you said, it could all be in your head, and "loosening up" a bit might be all you need.

I guess this is where I should make the mrfisher disclaimer (still not a doctor)

My best erections were when I was drinking heavily. When I quit, that's when I started having problems. Inhibitions, I suppose.

while I do sympathize with your plight, it also reminded me of this guy, whom I assume would be your worst nightmare.  It is funny though...

A really good exercise regimen helps a lot.  So does a decent diet, helped by the right supplements.  No joke, I look and feel better than most guys 20 years younger.
Of course, it also helps to be immature.
Basically, I have the body of a 30-year-old and the mind of a 15-year-old.  That's on a good day. I have been justifiably accused of acting like a five-year-old.  I plead guilty but, in fact, I have no guilt at all.

I love R. Lee Ermey. I've met him, and he's funny, but not intimidating (unless he goes into his D.I. act).

I'll never drink again. It made for good sex, but not the other things in my life.

the FC, it was a bit like you said: provider fumbling to get it inserted just right, the vision of the FC hanging out like some strange vaginal exudation. A Pecker-Wrecker experience and vision for sure. Second time around, a better experience... but I still don't like the visual with the FC.

That sucks she was annoyed! I'm sure her being annoyed didn't help the situation.

Wow, she seemed annoyed?  That's not cool.
Ive had some experience with men that have varying degrees of ED and we always find fun things to do.  
I feel that it is the provider's job to make you feel comfortable, after all you are the one paying for her services...