Sometimes very little, sometimes too much! About the same as I feel about the cost of a session with a new provider! It’s all relative!
Please share. Inquiring minds want to know. 🤔 
Money isn’t the big issue. I mean sure, I’ll have to spend a few bucks on drinks and dinner but that’s usually like $100-$200. Even if I splurge on a show it is still going to be cheaper than an escort. The difference is that regular dating has more risk of disappointment. There is a lot more time spent getting to know the other person and making them comfortable with you. Plus the effort isn’t always successful. Personally I think the risk is worth it. I love providers and appreciate their skill. However the best sex I’ve had was usually with intimate partners I was not paying. It is just different when you and the other person actually care about each other.
Too much plus the drama and bad sex. On the other hand providers with stellar bought reviews are just as disconcerting. I’ve met many men but providers trying to get discounts and freebies with trumped up reviews constantly.
This reaks of a provider trying to prove it costs more to have sex with a civie. This may play if she's a gold digger or Sugar Baby, which IMO is just another version of an escort. But in most normal worlds I'm not counting my time with her or on dates like work that I should be making $250/hour for, assuming that's what I make. If I want a long date with an escort, I'm paying her per hour, not the other way around. So why would I count a date with a civie as costing me time that's worth $250 an hour?
Also, $300 per date might be what you expect, but that is also not always the case with a civie. I have met women at bars that cost me a drink or two at most and took them home. I have met them at a party, wedding, or other event and it cost me nothing. I have had a Netflix and chill type of night. Not every date is something fancy that costs a lot. Civie women are not all high end with high end expectations.
When I choose to be with a provider it's for two main reasons. One, it's easy and conveinent. Two, she is out of my league, often because of the age gap. I'm not with her to save money. A girlfriend for me has always been less costly and the sex has been as often as daily. Daily sex with a provider would make me go broke. At $700 per hour for a provider, if I booked an hour every day, would cost $21,000 for 30 days, an average month. No way in hell a steady girlfriend is costing me that much. And, a steady girlfirend is part of the goal for many who start with dating, and the get in the end is not just one hook-up.
The $250/hour is what YOUR time is worth, not the providers, and as you can see, that makes up the bulk of the total cost of $5900. This is only accurate if your other choice is to work and be earning the $250 per hour. She is assuming the "time investment" is lost income and that's not always the cost. If you would be floating around the pool on an inflatable raft rather than working, then that eliminates the $250/hr "loss" he bakes into the cost.
if it Flies, Floats or Fucks .... cheaper to lease !
but on other hand civilian girls are all over the place re what it takes for casual sex... but more and more non pro girls are realizing they no longer have to give it away for free..
couple years back on a social date .. going great .. dinner fun ... by end of dinner sitting next to each other etc very sexy ( was former France beauty pageant contestant)
we get to parking lot kissing and she goes .. i like you and i do like to have fun ... how does $400 sound ..right out of the blue !! LOL ... well $300 later i had her moaning rest of the night in french LOL
the money is trivial.
It costs endless time and effort and psychological energy looking. It costs heartbeats and nerves seeking, asking, anticipating, responding, setting things up, continuing the conversation, waking up at night...
And then the date...and the worst....the ambiguity, the uncertainty...she loves me, she loves me not. will she or won't she. Akkkk...will I perform?
Uncertainty ... ambiguity...the real costs.
And then....
..........there is nothing ambiguous about a clock. There is nothing ambiguous about Benjamin. There is nothing ambiguous about wood.
pb
Except tomorrow you have to pay again.......
Its not the money, its the time and emotion involved.
For me it's about convenience and certainty. When I want to fuck, it's easy to text a pro, set a time, head over and get off. With a civvie, there's always the chance we don't click, or she has limited time, or some other reason that we don't get behind closed doors. Probably like most of the guys here, I have plenty of money, but limited time. Thus, I choose to pay for the convenience and certainty.
lays it out perfectly. For those that have plenty of money, renting pussy by the clock works best. There are marginal players her who save up for one session a month. Others, like you, can see as many providers as you want, and you would rather spend the money for an hour or two of sex than go through all of the emails, texts, dinners, and "after-care" required to have a "complete" date with a civvie. With a pro, you can fuck for an hour or two, and you don't HAVE to ever talk to them again. With a civvie woman, if you don't text when you get home, text her again the next day, or answer her next ten texts to you, you might not get another date if you wanted one. I have often posted on these boards over the years that my situation is the same as yours; making the time and working out my schedule to see providers is the most difficult part of navigating this biz. Money has never been an issue since I started in P4P. I came to this hobby from flying airplanes, which requires a substantial hourly rate to rent wet, so it was an easy transition to "hobby by the hour with providers."
This is misleading if you are going to count chatting, phone calls, and prep as paid time. What about the time to look up ads, reviews, email/text with the provider, pass screening, reconfirm, get cash, etc?
Don't need to make stuff up to justify seeing an escort. You know what you are getting with the appointment. Some action, some chatting, no strings, but timebound. With a civilian date? Possibility of a lifetime partner or FWB.
...I've always rationalized the cost as what it takes to get her to leave after we're done.
-- Modified on 10/17/2025 7:06:30 AM
I'll pass on your advice, shits. No thanks. I can manage my desire just fine until the real thing can be arranged. You do you though. How do you satisfy your "other" urges, a trip thru the produce isle?
It’s not often I come across a man so broken who gives no shits about anyone else but is all up in his own feelings. You’re the one who basically made a woman sound like a flesh light. It seems all you care about is using their pussies. But god forbid she actually speaks to you afterwards. All you’re thinking is if she will shut up and get out. Hence, you pay for pussy because they have no problem leaving when you decide you’re done.
What a sweet white knight you are for so quickly being offended on their behalf, lol...it was a rewording of an age old hooker/John phrase along the lines of you don't buy pussy, you rent it. You don't pay for sex, you pay them to leave. Paid companionship vs girlfriend/wife or in your case, girlfriend or wife that's got 7" hanging.
Jocular statements men make, maybe that's why it flew over your realm of comprehension.
And no, after paying for an encounter I don't want to follow it up by ordering a floral delivery to her work or spend hours on the phone with her discussing whatever is on her mind at the moment. I don't want to have follow-up texts blowing digital kisses back and forth or endless saucy texts before we go to sleep. I don't want to meet her family or split a CSA share from the local "organic" hobby farmer with her.
But guess what whiteknight, she doesn't want that either! And hey, when you're done violating that cucumber, remember to wash it off before you toss his next salad.
Yeah, missed a few things in that last response. Ending a date without the need for continuation of some sort has nothing to do about feelings. It's about bringing a transaction to a amicable and highly likely an enjoyable close by all parties. In my case, other parties would not have cocks...just sayin', you do you. I gave up the daily yank decades ago, somewhere around the time that Bush Sr. was in office so a device for such just wouldn't be needed, even if I were in the Western mountains (Not Brokeback dude, stay focused) hunting for 10 days with no signs of any titties at all.
You make me sound like the Devil himself man, I don't care just about the pussy. I'm much more of a blowjob guy but occasionally, a well sculpted ass is far too tempting not to pound on or maybe it's just a pair of soft hands. I like variety! No, I'm not a pillow talk kind of guy, basking in the "aura" of the previous lovemaking bullshit so many seem to need to opine about in their reviews but I will generally relax to catch my breath and wind down. I do enjoy some conversation when done, whether it's while she's getting dressed or maybe taking a cleansing shower but consenting adults can generally surmise a time to kiss goodbye and leave it for another day.
So there it is, hope you're not further offended on their behalf and pounding your wittle fists on the table or stomping your feet. Maybe Robert will respectfully march in and help you stand with these helpless little girls.
Are you sure you aren't just fishing to figure out which of us makes $250/hour?
...do not work every hour or have the ability to monetize all 24 hours of our time. In addition, we don't take unpaid time off from our jobs to see escorts.
Thus, saying that our time is worth $250 is a bit of an embellishment. If the opposite of going on a six hour date is jerking off to porn, playing video games, watching anime on Netflix, and scrolling through your phone...I would hardly call that worth $250 an hour. I'm an accountant if I ever start my own practice, perhaps it can be argued as such - spend three hours working on someone's books at $250 per, or go on a "real" date with a civilian woman.
A better comparison would be to assign a cost for the date itself, which can vary greatly. Some women may be DTF after a $4 Bud Light at Happy Hour, while others may require a fine dining experience valued at $500-$1000 for just a kiss on the cheek! I can promise you that I can sniff out a gold-digger from a mile away and while she may get me for one expensive date, I can promise there will not be a second as I am not a sex-obsessed 20 year old anymore.
So in that regard, hiring a professional in the same $500-$1000 price range is perfectly worth my time because I want to actually fuck the hot gold-digger without having to deal with her shallow, vapid nonsense 24/7.
Good post.
DTF??? You guys and your acronyms. You realize providers never use these, right? Nor do we know or care what most of them mean....
xoxo
Scarlet
Not.m a Jersey Shore fan?
I guess I shouldn't do my own laundry or wash the dishes because I'm burning through $250/hr. I could easily hire a housekeeper for less.
A single guy with just a little game can get laid for far less time and effort than this example.
Last, but not least, less than 1% of the population earns $500k/yr.
Sex workers are exciting, convenient and without commitment, that's why we do it., not to save money.
All the costs appear to be "up-front" costs. By the time I've gotten a civvie in bed, likely we are in a groove where we're not spending that kind of money every time before sex. I sure as fuck hope not.
And even though I value my time at even more than the stated rate, I don't believe I've EVER spent that kind money getting a civvie into bed. If I'm not in her panties by the third date, my spending is gonna drop to zero.
OTOH, I'm going to drop 800 or more every single time I shtup an escort. Even a handy or some non-penetrative play is gonna cost me cash out of pocket. Back in my robust youth, I once dated 2 women at a time. Had lots of fun at a very modest cost. If tried the same thing with 2 providers, I'd be broke in a month.
"going to drop 800 or more every single time I shtup an escort"
You must live in a very high-cost area for professional sex, or require some very exotic services.
could be every other month. I have known a few guys like that who pay an exorbitant hourly rate, but hobby less than once a month.
when i was in my 40s and even 50s .... i paid an escort for the convenience of simply getting laid. ..and the time i saved as well as removing the stress of not knowing when and where.
as i am now older, i prefer a total date experience, dinner, chemistry, and then sex. its much more satisfying .. and for that you have the Sugar Baby network. yes it takes more time to find the right lady and deal with the occasional disappointment .. but in LA or Vegas you can enjoy a multiple hour dinner date with several hours in the bedroom with someone who is truly enjoying it for the 1 hr cost of your typical TER escort.
all comes down to priorities and what you value.
Sometimes very little, sometimes too much! About the same as I feel about the cost of a session with a new provider! It’s all relative!
To be fair with you, money isn't it all there is. If she likes and finds you attractive, 80% of the work is done even without having to plan dates fr. On the other hand if she's laying with you just for the cash, be prepared to lose when she starts getting money elsewhere