: TER General Board Discussion : Control

bananasnatcher 1647 reads

posted 13 years ago

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with their sexuality?
I think a lot more married men would not hobby, if this were not the case.
What about providers? Do they fall into this category? ( we have to pay to play

rembrnad0284 12 Reviews 397 reads

posted 13 years ago

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Control

I think control is a byproduct of relationships; especially relationships that have no defined end. If there is no likelihood that controlling actions will lead to the end of a relationship the person gets control with no consequences. Control with immunity leads to even more control. A game only one can play. Very unhealthy to say the least.

But you cannot control someone who can just walk away. Relationships are complicated. Emotions, property,kids... Hobbying less so. In hobbying everyone can walk away; no scars

Jacque_Jenesais See my TER Reviews 365 reads

posted 13 years ago

3 / 12

Civvies, yes. Us? Not really...

I've never really had the opportunity to control a man with sex, except to get a hottie to see me. I text a bunch of hot stuff to him until he can't control himself or say no, LOL.

But us, I'm not so sure if controlling is the right word. Seduce? Yes.

But you see people all the time asking for men to see them when they're slow.

But it's all out on the table beforehand. When you say control, I'm assuming you're including manipulation? With us, here's the price. Here's what I have to offer. (Go see my TER reviews).

Is that controlling, or more of an agreement?

Hieronymus 375 reads

posted 13 years ago

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Re: Civvies, yes. Us? Not really...

In your case it's just a good, smart, effective marketing strategy!

ryan3504 15 Reviews 323 reads

posted 13 years ago

5 / 12

Civies? Absolutely! (eom)

END OF MESSAGE

89Springer 318 reads

posted 13 years ago

6 / 12

All do, to one extent or another

To the degree that a husband wants sex, the wife has power. Some use it lightly or hardly at all, and some use to to control everything.

Now that I'm divorced, I don't want a relationship. I don't want the emotions, and the games played with sex (or as much as they can be played with a woman near my age). I just want to see a beautiful woman, pay the cash, and be happy about it.

Ten years ago I surprised my wife with a new car for Christmas. The car cost about the equivalent of 20 three-hour sessions with a provider. Did I get 60 hours of great sex from her over the last ten years? Hardly. She withheld sex to play her games.

If I'd known all this back then, I would have spent the money on pro's.

Jacque_Jenesais See my TER Reviews 305 reads

posted 13 years ago

7 / 12

Re: Civvies, yes. Us? Not really...

Yup! BUT, it's still not manipulative or controlling. I guess controlling with seduction, yes. The marketing should reflect our assets, and we should target the audience we know we can deliver THEIR needs to, and the audience who will respond positively to our assets. That being said, the guy now wants to see us based on our marketing/advertising... and if the girl is a good provider and working for the big bucks, she'll deliver in such a way that she lives up to, or at least tries her best to live up to her marketed promise. Therefore, it's an agreement. "Here's what I offer for this amount." "Great! Let's do 'dis." THAT right there has boundaries set, it's all communicated, no manipulation, and both know they want to see each other.

Then the reviews come, which, hopefully are honest.

On the contrary, what may be the OP's meaning, correct me if I'm wrong, but perhaps some kind of "if you do this, then I'll do that. If you don't do this, then I'll do that/won't do that." There may also be 'code words' that suggest if a girl isn't seen by a hobbyist or given a good review, whatever, she has the power to give a guy a bad name or reference, thus denying him sex from others.

xoxo

londonheather 319 reads

posted 13 years ago

8 / 12

civvie woman

In a word yes xx

JoeBanzai 30 Reviews 268 reads

posted 13 years ago

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Re: civvie woman

In my experience in the beginning, "civie" woman use sex to attract us or get us satisfied with that part of the relationship. Over time they seem to get tired, bored or whatever and just do it less and less.

When I bitched about it to my ex wife, she said if I did "more around the house" I might get some. Trouble was, I did MUCH more "around the house" than she did!

I am sure she would have put out a couple of times if I agreed to do the laundry along with everything else LOL.

At this point in my (divorced) life, I agree with 89Springer. If I would have known then what I know now, I would have gotten more sex with more beautiful women and would have more money in the bank.

Anyone know why divorces are so expensive?

They are worth it.

Just my perspective

89Springer 278 reads

posted 13 years ago

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Re: civvie woman

I read a line by a psychologist months back that has some bearing here. "A woman has sex when she's had a good day. When a man has sex, he has a good day."

There's as many motivations for women to have sex as there are for men. Maybe more, as guys sometimes (like me) just want to have it whenever we can.

With my ex, if I wanted sex, I'd usually have to do something like take her out for dinner or drinks, or go to some art fair or dog show or festival. We had to spend some "quality time" together before the sex would happen. (Looking back, I've realized that she was needing to have alcohol before sex).

There was a time when sex could be spontaneous with us, but that was when she was in her teens to very early twenties.

When that stopped, I was essentially buying sex without realizing it.

JoeBanzai 30 Reviews 303 reads

posted 13 years ago

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When that stopped, I was essentially buying sex without realizing it.

Ding, ding, ding, ding. We have our answer!

London Rayne See my TER Reviews 391 reads

posted 13 years ago

12 / 12

No, your d(ck controls you.

No other person can control another if that person does not allow it. Think about that a bit. People who are controlled generally allow it to get something else. Don't put yourself in such a needy position and you won't have to worry about it.